How would a Don Juan handle this?

[dayvidaims]

Well my closest friend (not my best) has the tendency to see me always in a competitive way. He tries to win me in everything in life even girls. That ofcourse has a bad effect in our relationship. (I don't care about that cause will split after this summer). But the problem is what am I doing this summer? Here is the current situation.

A week before I started a relationship with a very nice girl. (HB 8) and the relationship seems to be a lot more that making out and I'm really happy with that (dont be afraid I'm not going AFC).

Well my friend after that really wants to start a new relationship for him. He tried already with 2 girls but it didn't work out and as he can't find anyone else he wants me to help him get with my ex girlfriend (2 years ago HB 9 who I was really into her when we were going out and she dumped me back then) .

I took it cool and said him o.k i'll try to reach her and make plans to meet and then you can go from there.

The fact is that I know she'll accept him and I won't really be very cool about that. (eg. when we go out all together but with my friend too who will THINK HE WON ME ON SOMETHING lol! )

A good way would be me stoping being friends with him but that unimposssible at the current moment. Basically we are 4 friends (including me) and one of them has already seen his bad character with me (the problem is he won't be here all summer. (the others won't agree stop beeing fiend with him and it's not in my character to say bad things for him)

So could you please tell me what would be the Don Juan way to handle the situation with my ex and with him in general?

 

[dayvidaims]

I would like to have some advice on this one..

 

[FlyGuy]

Here are some options:

1)Grow some balls and get over your ex.
2)Just be straight up with him and tell him you still have feelings for your ex.
3)Or better yet you could help him hook up with a new chick. Go clubbin' or someplace fun and be his wingman. That way its not a competition, you're working together...

I'd go with option 2 and then 3.

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

tell him to quit being such a kunt and get his own chicks...

 

[alonzo]

Don't let it happen if you dont want it to... Also, tell your friend, why do you want what i already had.

 

[Sojourner]

A person who always wants to show you up and who likes to be one up on you isn't considered a friend in my books. Why does he want your EX-GF (the HB who dumped you)? Could it because he's intending to prove that he's a better man than you when he succeeds with her when you couldn't? Or is he about to make you feel uncomfortable when he makes out with your EX-GF in your and your friends' presence? I would stop being his friend. He does not have your interests at heart. His overly competiveness is his power trip.

 

[dayvidaims]

Well I agree with all your opinions...

I'd like to add that I've already got over my ex, I've changed 2 gf since her and at the moment I have a great gf...

The fact is that although I don't think about her it would be really not cool for me having her in front of me being with him.

And the worst thing is he asked me if I would have a problem with him doing that and I told him no!

The problem is I couldn'r say yes because I believe that he would do that anyway and then i would seem like idiot..

 

[dayvidaims]

Look I thought of it again and here is what i thought of...

I'll call him tommorow and I'll tell him that I reconsidered the situation and that I think it will not be too easy for me going out with her again even as friends so please stop that story and look for something else...

What do you think?

 

[FlyGuy]

Good call. I also think that if you're really friends (which to me sounds questionable...) you could offer the counter-proposal of going to a club with him and being his wingman. Whatever.

 

[Sojourner]

I'll say one more thing. A REAL friend knows how uncomfortable it would be for his pal if he were to be dating his friend's EX-GF especially if she was the dumper.

Yes, offer to be his wingman to snag any other girl except your EX-GF. If he persists on wanting you to set him up with her, just tell him that he can approach her himself. You'll have no part in it and you won't chill out with the two of them.