How where you live affects your game

jglide123

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Man, without a doubt, where you live DEFINITELY affects your game, especially if you don't vibe well with the culture. Of course, you can make the most out of the worst of situations, but like others have already touched upon, you have to adjust your game to the culture.

Also, some places don't have an abundance of attractive single women. Where I live at--in the Conservative Southeast--for every decent-looking girl, there are about 20+ dudes telling her how hot she is, taking her on expensive dates, etc. Average-looking women here think they're 10's, because there just isn't an abundance of young, attractive women, and on a subconscious level I think they know it. And in the South, it's more acceptable for women to be overweight. Trust me, hefty women have no problem getting dates down here!

And the real 10's are either engaged, married, stuck up, or flat out the un-dateable type (party girl, drug abuser, etc.) Beyond that, people are more traditional here, so if a woman isn't married with kids by age 26, people start to wonder what her problem is....

I'm sure there are worse places to be single, but the dating scene here is atrocious....
 

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floydb25 said:
You know whats funny? Where I used to live, I had alot of (fake) friends, was Mr Popular, had chicks all over, getting hotties was no problem, very social and out-going... what most people seem to want. But I left for the beta life, because I couldn't deal with the shallow / fake lifestyle. So, its not always about getting teh hot chix and being Mr kewl. Theres a lot of bull**** that comes with that. Namely, wanting to murder everyone in your circle. A lot of people into this stuff are ****ed up. You end up caught in the middle of it. But most people on here are ****ed up anyway, so it works out.:crackup:

But yea, women up north, in the city, were FAR more promiscuous , aggressive , independent , and sexually available than down here. Theres definitely a big change - even as far as social groups, parties, bars, and things like that. To want the exciting, sex-filled single life, I would never recommend the rural south. But you kind of have to be a certain way to fit in up north. Pretty boys, bad boys, douchebags, and status kings seem to get the most action. Players are highly sought after, and rule the scene. Drama is rampant. People arent all that nice, and respond more favorably to sarcasm, c&f, negging, etc. Its all about status and being better than the next person, so it ends up quite superficial and materialistic. Theres a lot of competition - even in the same circles. A lot of people are fake, and try to be something theyre not just to be accepted by other fake people. And so on.

Even still, the northern cities are best for those looking for action - as long as youre able and willing to fit a certain mold. I dont think its worth it, though.
spot on man!

its funny you have the city mentality down to perfection..I'm in the indie rock scene and the same $hit happens here...superficial people 'trying to make it' and stepping on anyone they can....funny thing is..most of them are small time losers who never get anywhere anyways they just make a lot of enemies on their road to nowhere. lots of posturing, fakeness, groupies looking for access to fame.

I am fairly quiet by nature but my band did get a small amount of recognition by the larger industry...then all the haters and groupies came out of the fvcking woodwork...talking sh!t trying to get close becoming a hanger on...all for doing nothing...fvking parasites.
 

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People in the northeast think they are better than everybody else. While we do have good universities, there is an elitist attitude among the "educated" population (ie anyone with a BS degree, even if it's from a no name school lol).

They bash southerners, which irritates me because I like southern folks. Actually, they talk sh*t about everybody. It's non-stop gossip. It's always, "You're ok, but I hate xyz about so and so." They when they talk to so and so privately, it gets reversed lol.

Plus, this area has a fairly high (but expensive) standard of living so there is a HUGE sense of entitlement. A lot of it is old money, but it doesn't matter, the result is the same.

Most of the hot women left for the big cities, so you have 5s that think they are 8s and 6s that think they are 9s.

Like Floyd said, you have to fit a certain mold or profile (pretty boy, bad boy, etc.) or aren't even on the map. The 90/10 rule is in full force here.

We are also a very reserved bunch. You don't talk to people you don't know. I seriously don't even know my next door neighbor's first name, after 15 years lol. Out of 50 trips to the bar, maybe one or two of them (at most) will result in someone speaking to me briefly.

People eat, sh*t, and sleep with their tight social circle. It can take years to form friendships too.



I'm sure the weather doesn't help.




Burroughs said:
Why do you think that is?

too many m*******s, the weathers too cold? too much latent old british/wasp culture and the university climate?

Boston and New York always struck me as tougher than they needed to be as far as biatches unless you had cash to throw down on magnum bottles and table service and were willing to do so. I find the greatest proportions of delusional arrogant girls who are hb6s who think they are 9s in the northeast....its gotta be something in the water...or maybe the college culture of AFC dudes inflating biatches and their perceived value. even wellesley college...oh man! a few cuties....but mostly feminist battle axe cvnts looking to grind men into dust and these biatches are spending daddies freaking trust fund to hate men!! the fvck!

LA is amazing...so many hot actress chicks with low self esteem who are out of work...its like fish in a barrel
 

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Mike32ct said:
Most of the hot women left for the big cities, so you have 5s that think they are 8s and 6s that think they are 9s.

Like Floyd said, you have to fit a certain mold or profile (pretty boy, bad boy, etc.) or aren't even on the map. The 90/10 rule is in full force here.

We are also a very reserved bunch. You don't talk to people you don't know. I seriously don't even know my next door neighbor's first name, after 15 years lol. Out of 50 trips to the bar, maybe one or two of them (at most) will result in someone speaking to me briefly.

People eat, sh*t, and sleep with their tight social circle. It can take years to form friendships too.



I'm sure the weather doesn't help.

Bro, much of what you described is what I experience here in the South as well, especially the tightly-knit social-circles. People--especially women-- are reluctant to talk to people they don't know; I guess that's universal. The people here aren't as cold as you describe in the bar/club scene, but they're quite icy still. You have cool, friendly people around here. But it's not uncommon to encounter the fake "Entourage" groups here and there....

And it IS challenging building a social circle. It's like, if people don't know you from high school or college, a wall comes up. As a rule, people are generally polite to strangers down here (i.e. Southern hospitality), but a similar social dynamic exists down here as you described up North....
 

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Haha, Mike... We had a few New Yorkers down here recently. They left once they realized no one liked them, wasnt interested in their BS drama, etc. All they did was brag about how awesome they were (because they "are from NEW YORK, *****!"), and how ****ty it is down here. Pretty much the reason I left. Loud and ****ing retarded people who arent worth **** all - yet delude themselves into believing theyre king ****... When all they are IS ****.

A few drama queen females also visited from NY. All they did was annoy everyone, complain, cause drama, talk about their 3 kids from 3 different guys - while bar hopping, cheating on their husbands, etc. One gashed herself with a knife because the guy she met at a bar was dating someone else - while she herself was married.

****ing useless people. They never last long, fortunately. But they blame that on how boring and ghey everyone is (see: not retarded, useless , and crazy - like them).

Some of my ex friends moved down here - then left for the same reasons. *******s arent in high demand, they couldnt get **** for women, and only made a select few loser friends, because no one is like, or likes their loser asses. Glad I got rid of that entire scene.
 

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I'm from Western NY and have been living by the beach in FL for the last 8 months. I thought game was going to be easier down here, but it really isn't. Girls (and people in general) down here are either really trashy or ghetto, it's depressing. The few quality, classy educated girls here have hundreds of dudes spiraling around them like a flock of birds.

I agree with the sentiments of the Northeast having girls that are a little more stuck-up, entitled, or whatever, but I've had much more success in that region than here in FL. Thankfully I'm moving back North in about a month.
 

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NC #2: What you two are talking about arent the same. The women down here are more shy, reserved, and traditional. Theyre still kind and approachable, but I have yet to meet one who is forward or aggressive. They dont give out many interest signals, either. They hold back more. They also stick with their close few friends, and dont branch out.

The women up north are stuck up, and wont acknowledge you unless they deem you cool enough. Status and peer acceptance is huge. You must be in their class of fake retards, or theyll ignore and make fun of you. They will also likely reject you with rudeness, or treat you like crap once they lose interest, or deem you not good enough. But their circles are huge, and full of cow dung.

Thats the difference. One is shy and reserved; the other is a stuck up *****.
 

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Yes it was a great time, and the thing is it was all so easy. I basically had it come to me, the first girl I fkd approached me and was down to leave within 15 minutes, the second kept calling me after the club was over inviting me to her hotel, and the third put up some resistance, but her friends encouraged her to stop wasting time and leave with me.

In Washington DC, the women were so down to earth and were so excited when I approached them. Honestly, I dont go to NYC that that much maybe once or 2x a month, when I do I do get a few numbers, but they live so far away in queens or brooklyn and its soo damn expensive to live closer to the city, that it becomes pointless. If I were to go out with a girl from nyc, it'd cost me about 50-60 dollars just to get there with the tolls and gas, then if we got a drink or 2, and a little food, I"m looking at over 150 dollars for one date which isnt even guaranteed sex.

The girls in NJ are ghetto as hell, and very flakey. 6's think they're 10s. Honestly, I'm about an 8, tall and good looking, but the women here dont care. My game is at its best when the female tells me how good I look or makes it obvious that shes feeling me. Really want to get the hell out of here before I get old and my time of being a player is up.
 

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i just spent 7 months in wales.. i am aussie..

it didn't work for me.. though my game is poor at best.. i show SO much DLV that the girls RUN from me..
 

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Can someone give me some good sound advice on this. I'm extremely frustrated right now. I made a fake pof profile saying I live in Atlanta, and I was talking to a girl that I'm very attracted to, gave her my number and she called me and texted me when I didnt pick up because I was at work, so cooperative. I know in vegas the women looked so good and were down to mess around with me.

I'm going to DC with my boy to hit up the clubs this weekend, I'm 27 met this cute 19 year old last time I went shes all excited to see me. All them young college chicks gave me they numbers so easy down.

I've only had sex with 2 girls one time each who live around my area locally in the past 4 months or so. When I go on vacations I get women so easy. I really want to move to a place where I can get a bunch of women and be happy, but I make like 70K a year where I'm at now and get to work at home 2 times a week so I got it easy. I'm a great poker player so I'm thinking about either moving somewhere with a lot of casinos around and trying to start an online business to make money so I can move somwhere new and not have to work.
 
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