StuartScott
Banned
When I go to a party my objective is just to have a good time and if I hook up with a chick, then more power to me. If I become the center of attention, more power to me also.
I've been to small parties and really huge house parties where I didn't even know who was throwing it and for the most part, the folks that throw the party don't try to be the center of attention, they're more than likely just having the party so they can get laid more or less.
- (Looking Good) First things first. You got to look good. Dress good, take a shower, do your hair, brush your teeth, carry some chap stick and gum, polish your shoes, wear matching clothes. If you look good, you feel good.
- (Arriving) When you get to the party and not many folks are there(I personally hate getting there early)then try to make some friends, with girls and guys. Just be like "what's up man, my names Stu, what's your name" with dudes. I usually get there when the party is started, I just feel more comfortable like that. If you do get there early, just make some friends and chill out.
- (Being a DJ (Disc Jockey)) If you're a disc jockey, basically you got it made. One of my coworkers is this fat dude who gets all girls & guys attention at parties cuz he's a jockey. He knows when all the parties and gets invited to all parties and gets paid about $1000 a party. Since I know him, he can get me into any party even if I ain't invited cuz I'd be his company.
- (Bring A Camcorder) A great way to be the center of attention at a party without trying too hard is to bring a camcorder to the party (make sure it's a live party with lots of girls dancing and what not)and when the party gets live, post up on a pole in the middle of the dancefloor with your homeboys and start getting girls on camera dancing all freaky and stuff. A friend of mine did this and later on at the end of the party there happened to be a big fight btween 2 sexy ladies and he taped the whole fight, there was also another BIG fight at the end of the party on the grass with a lot of dudes and he got that fight on tape also. Next day at school people wanted to borrow the tape of the party and the fight since a lot of them left and didn't see the fight. The dude was already popular at the school but since it was THAT big of a party (the party was huge, like a College Party with lots of HS seniors from different HS) and people from all other schools wanted to see the tape, a lot of people knew who this guy was. Since he knew this, he started charging people 5 bucks for copies of the fight and he must have made roughly btween 500-1000 bucks off the tape)Anyway during the party, the dude just stayed on the dancefloor for about 1 1/2 hours just taping and people flocked around him talking to him and what not.
- (Dancing) It's self explanatory. If you can dance then it shouldn't be too hard, just get on the dance floor and start dancing. That itself should get peoples attention. If you can dance well, girls will be around you. If a girl is dancing by herself, start dancing with her, if she gives you that "Oh I'm just dancing by myself" line, then say "Then why are you here". If you are an average dancer then just get on the floor and dance in the general area of some ladies, a lot of times girls dance around you and then you can take it from there.
- (Talking To Girls) If you see a girl you like then you should go talk to her and see whats up. One good way to do this is just to catch her looking at you and smile and wave at ehr, if she smiles and waves back, then go up to her. Also, not all the pretty ladies are dancing, some are just chillin' also, just go talk to them. It ain't as hard as people make it out to be. One thing I like to do is be in an area where I know the girl is gonna be at and if I just happen to be standing next to her, then I'll just talk to them. I'd say a line like "howz it goin" or "you havin' fun" and just go from there.
- (Talking To Girls II) If you get into a convo with a girl, just remember to listen carefully and take what she says and work with it. Also remember Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How questions. That's the whole basis of the conversation right there. "Where you from", "What school do you go to", "How old are you", "what's your name". "What's up with this party".If you're trying to get laid, you can ask her what she's doing later on that night after the party and you can even go with her to get something to eat or what not after the party, but get her number.
- (Talking To Girls III) I don't just sneak up on a girl and start talking to her, she usually see's me or I smile at her b4 I talk to her. You gotta place yourself in the girls shoes sometimes, and I wouldn't like it if a dude just snuck up on me and started talking to me. It's also harder to keep up a good convo that way.
- (Drinking Alcohol) If you drink alcohol, then great. I've heard that it yields great results. I've also noticed people are more carefree upon alcohol consumption. Heres an example. I went to this party and I made some small talk with some dude, he recognized me from playing b-ball at my high school. Anyway, he said what's up to me and we talked for a minute. About 2 hours later that same dude comes up to me again and introduces himself. This time he had like 5 times more energy and even said to me "I know I alredy said what's up to you before but I ain't have no alcohol but now I'm drunk than a muthafukka"(something to that extent)That same dude who was quiet and in chill mode 2 hours ago was outgoing and hyped dancing with girls on the dancefloor and having a great time. I've never gotten drunk at a party b4 ut the next big party I go to, if I ain't driving then I'm getting drunk. Just don't overdo it to the point where you're just acting crazy and then black out.
- (Dancing With Your Boys) Here's a good tip if you have dancing skills. Dance with a dude. "But Stuart, that sounds kind of gay" . Let me finish dammit. I've seen it with my own 2 eyes. It's kind of hard to explain but you folks that have seen it know what I'm talking about. 2 of my homeboys who can dance were doing it and it got a lot of folks attention. Dance facing your homeboy but don't bump and grind with him, it's like a little dance competition btween the two of you and you start busting moves while your boyz are egging you on, then your homeboy trys to upstage you by dancing himself busting his own moves and making signs at you and stuff but you can start dancing at the same time, then since a couple of your boys are alreay there cheering you on, others will surely start watching and hooting and hollering at your every move. You gotta have dancing skills for this though.
- (Being Carefree & Having A Good Time) Also just let the comments flow when you're there. An easy way to do this is just to keep talking all the time, just talk, talk to your homeboys, talk about people there, talk about the music. For some reason, it's easier for me to say some witty comment on the spot when I'm talking instead of when I'm just quiet. I don't know how this works, but it's like that for me. You don't have to neg hit all the time. Like say you see a girl drinking out of a bottle and you see she has some nice lips, then say "You got some sexy lips".
I said that one time, the girl started blushing. If a girl looks kinda cute say "Yeah, you lookin' kinda cute". If a girl with a nice a$$ walks past you say "Yeah, you gotta nice DONK". So on and so forth. These comments aren't like lines for you to hook up with some girl, but you're just having a good time. Some girls might act like their all high and mighty while other girls will laugh, or blush, or reply to your comments. I like just checking out the scene with my homeboys just having a good time and messing with the ladies. Not necessarily trying to hook up but just for fun. If you say these lines to say 20 girls, the chances of all 20 girls acting like biitches is kind of low. That's why I guess it's good to have a little alcohol in you b/c you won't give a fukk and $hit will flow more freely from your mouth.
- (Parkin' Lot Pimpin') Have you ever heard of "parkin' lot pimpin'." I did this one time and got 3 numbers. check it, you and a few of your friends (you could even do it yourself)just chill in the parking lot or in your car or the driveway b4, during, or after the party (or club) and look at the ladies b/c b4 and after is when everyone is leaving. So you see a lady that you like, position yourself so that she sees you, or she'll walk in your direction and you can say something to her as she walks by. You can be like "where you headed", you could throw in a compliment like "you have some sexy legs" or whatever or ask her what her name is or like I said b4 just ask her "where are you about to go", get her attention, if she reciprocates then leave her to be, if she's open to your responses, talk to her for a second then get her phone number.
- (Don'ts) 1.)If you have no rhythm whatsoever and can't even bump and grind, don't dance. 2.)Don't sit down and drink the whole time you're there. 3.)Don't have bad breath or chapped lips. 4.)Don't dress like you don't give a fukk. 5.)Don't play basketball, then go home, wash your face, throw some cologne on, and get dressed to go to the party. 6.)Don't stand in one place motionless the whole time. If you look good, some girls may come to you but it's highly unlikely 7.)If a girl is acting like a biitch, don't make yourself uncomfortable by talking to her, just leave her to be and go talk to other folks, guys, girls whatever.
- (Bottom Line) Finally, the most important tip of all is just to have a good time. Enjoy yourself. Don't do like other folks and put pressure on yourself to be the center of attention, or to talk to girls, or to impress anyone. You want to come home and say to yourself "That was a great party" or "I had a blast". Just have a good time and let things come to you.
[This message has been edited by StuartScott (edited 05-31-2002).]
I've been to small parties and really huge house parties where I didn't even know who was throwing it and for the most part, the folks that throw the party don't try to be the center of attention, they're more than likely just having the party so they can get laid more or less.
- (Looking Good) First things first. You got to look good. Dress good, take a shower, do your hair, brush your teeth, carry some chap stick and gum, polish your shoes, wear matching clothes. If you look good, you feel good.
- (Arriving) When you get to the party and not many folks are there(I personally hate getting there early)then try to make some friends, with girls and guys. Just be like "what's up man, my names Stu, what's your name" with dudes. I usually get there when the party is started, I just feel more comfortable like that. If you do get there early, just make some friends and chill out.
- (Being a DJ (Disc Jockey)) If you're a disc jockey, basically you got it made. One of my coworkers is this fat dude who gets all girls & guys attention at parties cuz he's a jockey. He knows when all the parties and gets invited to all parties and gets paid about $1000 a party. Since I know him, he can get me into any party even if I ain't invited cuz I'd be his company.
- (Bring A Camcorder) A great way to be the center of attention at a party without trying too hard is to bring a camcorder to the party (make sure it's a live party with lots of girls dancing and what not)and when the party gets live, post up on a pole in the middle of the dancefloor with your homeboys and start getting girls on camera dancing all freaky and stuff. A friend of mine did this and later on at the end of the party there happened to be a big fight btween 2 sexy ladies and he taped the whole fight, there was also another BIG fight at the end of the party on the grass with a lot of dudes and he got that fight on tape also. Next day at school people wanted to borrow the tape of the party and the fight since a lot of them left and didn't see the fight. The dude was already popular at the school but since it was THAT big of a party (the party was huge, like a College Party with lots of HS seniors from different HS) and people from all other schools wanted to see the tape, a lot of people knew who this guy was. Since he knew this, he started charging people 5 bucks for copies of the fight and he must have made roughly btween 500-1000 bucks off the tape)Anyway during the party, the dude just stayed on the dancefloor for about 1 1/2 hours just taping and people flocked around him talking to him and what not.
- (Dancing) It's self explanatory. If you can dance then it shouldn't be too hard, just get on the dance floor and start dancing. That itself should get peoples attention. If you can dance well, girls will be around you. If a girl is dancing by herself, start dancing with her, if she gives you that "Oh I'm just dancing by myself" line, then say "Then why are you here". If you are an average dancer then just get on the floor and dance in the general area of some ladies, a lot of times girls dance around you and then you can take it from there.
- (Talking To Girls) If you see a girl you like then you should go talk to her and see whats up. One good way to do this is just to catch her looking at you and smile and wave at ehr, if she smiles and waves back, then go up to her. Also, not all the pretty ladies are dancing, some are just chillin' also, just go talk to them. It ain't as hard as people make it out to be. One thing I like to do is be in an area where I know the girl is gonna be at and if I just happen to be standing next to her, then I'll just talk to them. I'd say a line like "howz it goin" or "you havin' fun" and just go from there.
- (Talking To Girls II) If you get into a convo with a girl, just remember to listen carefully and take what she says and work with it. Also remember Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How questions. That's the whole basis of the conversation right there. "Where you from", "What school do you go to", "How old are you", "what's your name". "What's up with this party".If you're trying to get laid, you can ask her what she's doing later on that night after the party and you can even go with her to get something to eat or what not after the party, but get her number.
- (Talking To Girls III) I don't just sneak up on a girl and start talking to her, she usually see's me or I smile at her b4 I talk to her. You gotta place yourself in the girls shoes sometimes, and I wouldn't like it if a dude just snuck up on me and started talking to me. It's also harder to keep up a good convo that way.
- (Drinking Alcohol) If you drink alcohol, then great. I've heard that it yields great results. I've also noticed people are more carefree upon alcohol consumption. Heres an example. I went to this party and I made some small talk with some dude, he recognized me from playing b-ball at my high school. Anyway, he said what's up to me and we talked for a minute. About 2 hours later that same dude comes up to me again and introduces himself. This time he had like 5 times more energy and even said to me "I know I alredy said what's up to you before but I ain't have no alcohol but now I'm drunk than a muthafukka"(something to that extent)That same dude who was quiet and in chill mode 2 hours ago was outgoing and hyped dancing with girls on the dancefloor and having a great time. I've never gotten drunk at a party b4 ut the next big party I go to, if I ain't driving then I'm getting drunk. Just don't overdo it to the point where you're just acting crazy and then black out.
- (Dancing With Your Boys) Here's a good tip if you have dancing skills. Dance with a dude. "But Stuart, that sounds kind of gay" . Let me finish dammit. I've seen it with my own 2 eyes. It's kind of hard to explain but you folks that have seen it know what I'm talking about. 2 of my homeboys who can dance were doing it and it got a lot of folks attention. Dance facing your homeboy but don't bump and grind with him, it's like a little dance competition btween the two of you and you start busting moves while your boyz are egging you on, then your homeboy trys to upstage you by dancing himself busting his own moves and making signs at you and stuff but you can start dancing at the same time, then since a couple of your boys are alreay there cheering you on, others will surely start watching and hooting and hollering at your every move. You gotta have dancing skills for this though.
- (Being Carefree & Having A Good Time) Also just let the comments flow when you're there. An easy way to do this is just to keep talking all the time, just talk, talk to your homeboys, talk about people there, talk about the music. For some reason, it's easier for me to say some witty comment on the spot when I'm talking instead of when I'm just quiet. I don't know how this works, but it's like that for me. You don't have to neg hit all the time. Like say you see a girl drinking out of a bottle and you see she has some nice lips, then say "You got some sexy lips".
I said that one time, the girl started blushing. If a girl looks kinda cute say "Yeah, you lookin' kinda cute". If a girl with a nice a$$ walks past you say "Yeah, you gotta nice DONK". So on and so forth. These comments aren't like lines for you to hook up with some girl, but you're just having a good time. Some girls might act like their all high and mighty while other girls will laugh, or blush, or reply to your comments. I like just checking out the scene with my homeboys just having a good time and messing with the ladies. Not necessarily trying to hook up but just for fun. If you say these lines to say 20 girls, the chances of all 20 girls acting like biitches is kind of low. That's why I guess it's good to have a little alcohol in you b/c you won't give a fukk and $hit will flow more freely from your mouth.
- (Parkin' Lot Pimpin') Have you ever heard of "parkin' lot pimpin'." I did this one time and got 3 numbers. check it, you and a few of your friends (you could even do it yourself)just chill in the parking lot or in your car or the driveway b4, during, or after the party (or club) and look at the ladies b/c b4 and after is when everyone is leaving. So you see a lady that you like, position yourself so that she sees you, or she'll walk in your direction and you can say something to her as she walks by. You can be like "where you headed", you could throw in a compliment like "you have some sexy legs" or whatever or ask her what her name is or like I said b4 just ask her "where are you about to go", get her attention, if she reciprocates then leave her to be, if she's open to your responses, talk to her for a second then get her phone number.
- (Don'ts) 1.)If you have no rhythm whatsoever and can't even bump and grind, don't dance. 2.)Don't sit down and drink the whole time you're there. 3.)Don't have bad breath or chapped lips. 4.)Don't dress like you don't give a fukk. 5.)Don't play basketball, then go home, wash your face, throw some cologne on, and get dressed to go to the party. 6.)Don't stand in one place motionless the whole time. If you look good, some girls may come to you but it's highly unlikely 7.)If a girl is acting like a biitch, don't make yourself uncomfortable by talking to her, just leave her to be and go talk to other folks, guys, girls whatever.
- (Bottom Line) Finally, the most important tip of all is just to have a good time. Enjoy yourself. Don't do like other folks and put pressure on yourself to be the center of attention, or to talk to girls, or to impress anyone. You want to come home and say to yourself "That was a great party" or "I had a blast". Just have a good time and let things come to you.
[This message has been edited by StuartScott (edited 05-31-2002).]
