How to you beat the playing hard to get game?
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AFC is written all over this clueless post.
Well, I have 2 suggestions...
The first thing you need to do is to stop worrying about what she is doing.
The second thing you need to do is read through the D.J. bible here.
http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php
Then come back and post in a couple of months after you've improved your game some more. Maybe talking about your improvements will help someone else out.
Well, I have 2 suggestions...
The first thing you need to do is to stop worrying about what she is doing.
The second thing you need to do is read through the D.J. bible here.
http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php
Then come back and post in a couple of months after you've improved your game some more. Maybe talking about your improvements will help someone else out.
PlayerinTraining
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Are you trying to tell me...
Are you trying to tell me that in 4 months, you have not went out in public with this chick? Over these 4 months, the most you have done is talk to her on the phone or instant message?
I was in a situation like this a long time ago. Through some co-workers, I somehow started talking (also IM chats--BIG MISTAKE!) with some girl who, in all honesty, was an attention wh*re. She was a hot girl--I saw pics, and I worked with one of her relatives who was also good looking. She told me all about her clubbing adventures.
Anyway, she kept saying "Oh, we need to meet, bla bla bla. If you are in my area, give me a call."
So, I kept trying to arrange a get-together--not even a date. I tried about 3 separate times over a course of months. But of course, she always had a good excuse.
We talked about all sorts of sh!t. Finally, I called her up because I was in her area with a friend of mine. Of course, she never returned my call. It was as if she was pretending she never even got it.
About 4 weeks later, she IM's me, but I wasn't interested in chatting with her. She wanted to know why.
I said, "Hey, what's up with you. I was in your area, but I didn't hear from you. You didn't even call me a few days later to say 'Sorry, I couldn't make it' "
I got back a lame excuse, and she tried to make me look like the bad guy. I finished her off with. "Look, you told me you wanted to hang out. I've tried to make that happen, but you are making things more difficult than they need to be. I'm not wasting my time anymore."
Of course, I haven't heard from this chick since that.
There is NO WAY to "win" if a girl plays "hard to get." You have to decide how hard you are going to pursue. Set a limit on how many times you are going to ask, then quit if she hasn't met you half way.
If she wants to go out with you, she will. If she doesn't, she won't ever tell you (unless you are a f*cking jerk about it).
Are you trying to tell me that in 4 months, you have not went out in public with this chick? Over these 4 months, the most you have done is talk to her on the phone or instant message?
I was in a situation like this a long time ago. Through some co-workers, I somehow started talking (also IM chats--BIG MISTAKE!) with some girl who, in all honesty, was an attention wh*re. She was a hot girl--I saw pics, and I worked with one of her relatives who was also good looking. She told me all about her clubbing adventures.
Anyway, she kept saying "Oh, we need to meet, bla bla bla. If you are in my area, give me a call."
So, I kept trying to arrange a get-together--not even a date. I tried about 3 separate times over a course of months. But of course, she always had a good excuse.
We talked about all sorts of sh!t. Finally, I called her up because I was in her area with a friend of mine. Of course, she never returned my call. It was as if she was pretending she never even got it.
About 4 weeks later, she IM's me, but I wasn't interested in chatting with her. She wanted to know why.
I said, "Hey, what's up with you. I was in your area, but I didn't hear from you. You didn't even call me a few days later to say 'Sorry, I couldn't make it' "
I got back a lame excuse, and she tried to make me look like the bad guy. I finished her off with. "Look, you told me you wanted to hang out. I've tried to make that happen, but you are making things more difficult than they need to be. I'm not wasting my time anymore."
Of course, I haven't heard from this chick since that.
There is NO WAY to "win" if a girl plays "hard to get." You have to decide how hard you are going to pursue. Set a limit on how many times you are going to ask, then quit if she hasn't met you half way.
If she wants to go out with you, she will. If she doesn't, she won't ever tell you (unless you are a f*cking jerk about it).
Wait another 4 months, maybe she'll decide for you....
WAKE UP MAN!!!!!!
If she says that she's hard to get that's her fvck1ng problem!!!
You don't have to put up to her sh1t!!!
Have you been dating/ getting to know other girls?? I guess you haven't... no girl is worth 4 months of your life..
She's probably fvck1ng other guys or dating someone and in the meantime you are, maybe, givin her gifts, flowers, etc. Stop all that, stop calling, dissapear from her life and maybe she will be after you. But I think you need a lot of reading to do ( I mean the Bible).
Good luck
WAKE UP MAN!!!!!!
If she says that she's hard to get that's her fvck1ng problem!!!
You don't have to put up to her sh1t!!!
Have you been dating/ getting to know other girls?? I guess you haven't... no girl is worth 4 months of your life..
She's probably fvck1ng other guys or dating someone and in the meantime you are, maybe, givin her gifts, flowers, etc. Stop all that, stop calling, dissapear from her life and maybe she will be after you. But I think you need a lot of reading to do ( I mean the Bible).
Good luck
4 months and you have not even got a date let alone a kiss?
This chick is not playing hard to get. She is giving you a clear indication that she is not interested in you. Chicks who play hard to get, usually break the rules so to speak when they like you; that is they will go out with you and if you are patient, eventually fyck you.
Don't make the mistake that many AFC's do by trying to rationalize a low IL girl's behavior. Drop this one and move on.
Of course women will not usually tell you that they are not interested. They prefer to drag things out until you finally get the message.
This chick is not playing hard to get. She is giving you a clear indication that she is not interested in you. Chicks who play hard to get, usually break the rules so to speak when they like you; that is they will go out with you and if you are patient, eventually fyck you.
Don't make the mistake that many AFC's do by trying to rationalize a low IL girl's behavior. Drop this one and move on.
Of course women will not usually tell you that they are not interested. They prefer to drag things out until you finally get the message.
la-migra-is-after-me
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she's pulling ur chain holmes
man just ignore her and move on, she is just stringing u along as her pet...talk to her cute older sister or flirt with her best friend..nah....well its up to you, but the bottom line is "she is the weakest link...........GOOD BYE
good luck man
lmiam
man just ignore her and move on, she is just stringing u along as her pet...talk to her cute older sister or flirt with her best friend..nah....well its up to you, but the bottom line is "she is the weakest link...........GOOD BYE
good luck man
lmiam
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Re: Re: Are you trying to tell me...
Unless she REALLY likes you, you are more likely than not going to waste time and money on "dates" with chicks you don't know well. I don't believe in pampering a chick, unless it's a chick I know, and I'm close enough with her to know if she deserves it.
I like to go out with a woman with no expectations until I know how I feel about them.
The whole concept of a "date" implies a man is trying to "prove his worth" to a woman, and trying to impress her. It places a woman in a decision in a position of judging whether a man is "worthy" of her or not. I think it is a bunch of BS.
Unless she REALLY likes you, you are more likely than not going to waste time and money on "dates" with chicks you don't know well. I don't believe in pampering a chick, unless it's a chick I know, and I'm close enough with her to know if she deserves it.
I like to go out with a woman with no expectations until I know how I feel about them.