After working on this like a mad scientist for a few years, I have a good idea of what profiles women respond to the most.
Your profile is like an advertisement. It can be anywhere from 2 to 7 paragraphs long, and be written in the first, second, or third person; or any combination thereof.
Example of First Person: I am interested in meeting a woman who has a fun character, isn't a total brat, and doesn't mind the occasional corruption...
Example of Second Person: You are an extroverted woman, full of feminine energy, who likes and appreciates men who go after what they want...
Example of Third Person: I just woke up. Last night was very passionate. It was the first time in a while I could really be myself with someone. And to think I felt bad about hooking up with him initially...I learned so much...
Whatever your style of communication it is important that you are able to lead the woman's imagination. You want her to catch a glimpse of what you are like. Women, unlike men, are much more likely to read someone's profile. Men tend to mostly look at the picture but women are usually very curious about how a man expresses himself.
I have found that there are certain things that you should definitely avoid when writing your profile. They are:
- never say you are looking for a relationship. At most say you are not actively seeking a relationship, but if it happens it happens
- never say you are looking for "the one" - too cliche and too AFC
- never say you like to cuddle or do anything which women say they like to do. You like sports, like hockey, or football, or anything full contact which involves a strenuous workout (you can even add a *wink* to this last one for effect)
- never say you are looking for someone to fill a void - sounds too needy
- never say you are tired of the bar scene - it makes you look like you are using the internet as a last resort and are unsuccessful in general
- never communicate that you are frustrated or angry towards women
You want to come across as a fun guy who is sexual, but not in a crude way. Use innuendos. Mention that you like the winter season because it forces you to rely more on body heat (and sometimes it takes more than one body).
Sarcasm works good too. You can try writing something which sounds totally AFC, about how you're looking for the one, and someone to have 10 kids with, house on the prairies etc - all very tongue in cheek. Just make sure it's very clear that you are joking, and that you go on to write what you're actually like.
Say something which makes you look like you don't need approval and are willing to screen women to find the one you like. You can say that you like women that are easy going and don't have anger issues, and can enjoy the moment and take risks without second guessing themselves.
Saying what you like and don't like, in terms of facts, is good, but you should also write something to get her imagination going (such as with NLP type language & flirting). It's good to say what you like and don't like but you should also give her a compelling reason to want to meet you (emotional rewards, good feelings etc).
Finesse. It's not enough to just write out all these things. You also need a good writing style, and that only comes with practice (same as writing english essays). Many bad profiles have a terrible writing style, but are okay content wise. They read like a 10 year old wrote them. This happens often when people cut and paste parts of others' profiles and try to stitch it all together. It ends up looking like a Frankenstein monster.
In terms of having the best mindset to write a profile, I find that the best time to write is when you're feeling in an upbeat mood. Maybe you just had a great day or maybe you just feel empowered in general. Try not to write a profile after you got burned by someone, or something. It's very hard to get in the right mindset if all you're thinking is "that b*tch".
Say something about you, such as what music you like. I like to mention that I like swedish death metal. Its part of who I am and I know women are always intrigued by extreme hobbies anyway, so it's good to mention one.
For a picture of you, a natural outdoor pose works well. Don't smile too much or look angry/grumpy, just look cool and relaxed, with a hint of a smile. Also, dont take a picture of you standing beside your car (unless it's a piece of sh*t and it's clear you are not showing off). Have it taken while you are doing something else, like you are at a party and someone got your attention and took the picture while you were with your buds. AVOID webcam shots, those are lame.
Another useful trick is to write a draft of the profile, and then wait a day before reading it again, editing if need be. This is similar to what writers do, as it helps the final product look as good as it can.
I've had a lot of practice at this. It took me a long time to figure out what to write that would attract women. A lot of field experience, and observing reactions in field, helped me to understand what women would respond to. I've met dozens of women from online, and wrote/experimented with at least one profile for every woman I met. Now I have about 6 template profiles I can draw on which I have been successful with in the past.
Your profile is like an advertisement. It can be anywhere from 2 to 7 paragraphs long, and be written in the first, second, or third person; or any combination thereof.
Example of First Person: I am interested in meeting a woman who has a fun character, isn't a total brat, and doesn't mind the occasional corruption...
Example of Second Person: You are an extroverted woman, full of feminine energy, who likes and appreciates men who go after what they want...
Example of Third Person: I just woke up. Last night was very passionate. It was the first time in a while I could really be myself with someone. And to think I felt bad about hooking up with him initially...I learned so much...
Whatever your style of communication it is important that you are able to lead the woman's imagination. You want her to catch a glimpse of what you are like. Women, unlike men, are much more likely to read someone's profile. Men tend to mostly look at the picture but women are usually very curious about how a man expresses himself.
I have found that there are certain things that you should definitely avoid when writing your profile. They are:
- never say you are looking for a relationship. At most say you are not actively seeking a relationship, but if it happens it happens
- never say you are looking for "the one" - too cliche and too AFC
- never say you like to cuddle or do anything which women say they like to do. You like sports, like hockey, or football, or anything full contact which involves a strenuous workout (you can even add a *wink* to this last one for effect)
- never say you are looking for someone to fill a void - sounds too needy
- never say you are tired of the bar scene - it makes you look like you are using the internet as a last resort and are unsuccessful in general
- never communicate that you are frustrated or angry towards women
You want to come across as a fun guy who is sexual, but not in a crude way. Use innuendos. Mention that you like the winter season because it forces you to rely more on body heat (and sometimes it takes more than one body).
Sarcasm works good too. You can try writing something which sounds totally AFC, about how you're looking for the one, and someone to have 10 kids with, house on the prairies etc - all very tongue in cheek. Just make sure it's very clear that you are joking, and that you go on to write what you're actually like.
Say something which makes you look like you don't need approval and are willing to screen women to find the one you like. You can say that you like women that are easy going and don't have anger issues, and can enjoy the moment and take risks without second guessing themselves.
Saying what you like and don't like, in terms of facts, is good, but you should also write something to get her imagination going (such as with NLP type language & flirting). It's good to say what you like and don't like but you should also give her a compelling reason to want to meet you (emotional rewards, good feelings etc).
Finesse. It's not enough to just write out all these things. You also need a good writing style, and that only comes with practice (same as writing english essays). Many bad profiles have a terrible writing style, but are okay content wise. They read like a 10 year old wrote them. This happens often when people cut and paste parts of others' profiles and try to stitch it all together. It ends up looking like a Frankenstein monster.
In terms of having the best mindset to write a profile, I find that the best time to write is when you're feeling in an upbeat mood. Maybe you just had a great day or maybe you just feel empowered in general. Try not to write a profile after you got burned by someone, or something. It's very hard to get in the right mindset if all you're thinking is "that b*tch".
Say something about you, such as what music you like. I like to mention that I like swedish death metal. Its part of who I am and I know women are always intrigued by extreme hobbies anyway, so it's good to mention one.
For a picture of you, a natural outdoor pose works well. Don't smile too much or look angry/grumpy, just look cool and relaxed, with a hint of a smile. Also, dont take a picture of you standing beside your car (unless it's a piece of sh*t and it's clear you are not showing off). Have it taken while you are doing something else, like you are at a party and someone got your attention and took the picture while you were with your buds. AVOID webcam shots, those are lame.
Another useful trick is to write a draft of the profile, and then wait a day before reading it again, editing if need be. This is similar to what writers do, as it helps the final product look as good as it can.
I've had a lot of practice at this. It took me a long time to figure out what to write that would attract women. A lot of field experience, and observing reactions in field, helped me to understand what women would respond to. I've met dozens of women from online, and wrote/experimented with at least one profile for every woman I met. Now I have about 6 template profiles I can draw on which I have been successful with in the past.
