SinJester said:
Has anyone read this famous self-help book? A lot of the values it teaches seem to directly clash with those of a DJ. Ill give you a few choice principals:
"Avoid arguments."
"Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong."
"If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically."
"Let the other person do the talking."
"Talk about your own mistakes first."
"Ask questions instead of giving direct orders."
"Don't criticize, condemn or complain."
It was published in 1936 and society has obviously changed dramatically since then, but human nature hasn't. Maybe it's purely aimed at male friendships? But it still seems like How be a Beta Male and Get Walked Over.
I haven't read the whole things but for some reason the summaries struck me and left a lasting impression and I couldn't stop comparing it to the DJ bible.
You have missed the message of the book, re-read it, not simply pick out random quotes that lack the substance of the book.
I could very easily pick out random stuff from the DJ bible, without having the introduction or the meat of the reasoning behind the beliefs, i too could make them look silly.
Its actually about getting people to do what 'you want' not about being a suplicating wuss, if your not going to read the book i suggest you put it down, your clearly not reading it or even acknowledging the message it is trying to put accross, if you have read it, then sadly i fail to see how someone can not see the message behind the ones your posting.
Just leave the book alone, i dont think its for you, go read Beano or something
the book is very influential if you can take away your ego and use the techniques it gives to get people to do what you want them to do, very powerful book, clearly not has powerful if someone who reads it can not see the potential that is contained within the pages.
The book has helped me control and put alot of situations to my advantage, giving people a sense of importance and creating a 'need' about doing something instead of being an over aggressive jerk, pay's off when you see someone through your 'sell' techniques be 'happy' to do what you want them to do.
so what if you sometimes have to put ego aside, it matters little when the person is doing what you want them to do.
Everyone is looking for that feeling of importance, or worth, even your busty babes, use this stuff to get a women to do your bidding, you can almost get her to do anything, with the right ways to make her 'feel' good about what your suggesting and rewarding her with that feeling that she is 'impressing you'.
Like i said before put the book down your clearly not ready for it, you will only mis0interprit the message and in that, its totally failed on you.
Its also a great managment tool, a salesman tool, its not about being supplicating its about catering to others peoples precious ego's, and using it to 'your' advantage.
It takes a real man to be able to do those things anyway, not in the sense of trying to impress a real man does not have to 'impress' any body, but then again a man who is not 'afraid' to be able to do what you listed is clearly on a different plane then most of the other ego monkeys trying to impress others around them. i.e your reading it from your ego, self importance ideal, concerned about what others will think, or if it will succeed or fail, when i look at it, i see powerful or good managers or men who are centered about themselves and treat others with the respect they treat him, not try to 'impress' to please your 'ego'.
Hence you really have missed the point.
I sense your a techniques junkie.
An average, 'what's the best pick up line', type of guy, hence no wonder you compare the two.
