How to understand this?!

[yankees13]

Today i had a convo with a girl. She has been a friend of mine since childhood....And i asked her how come girls dont say hi to me or anything?!

And she replied because they are intimidated by your looks?! Is that possible? And she also said that they think if they talk to me i will blow them off..

Now that kind of got me upset because im not conceited by a long shot and if you talk to me i wont blow you off i will have a nice convo with you..

So i read the bible, read what to do but it still doesnt get through me.. It is difficult to break the AFC barrier, it is easy to say it at home, you know what i will say hi to that girl tommorow.. But when u actually get there you chicken out and dont do ****.. I especially have a problem with this girl that i know THAT likes me..... And i sense she is STARTING to lose interest because i still havent talked to her, even though she looks at me every chance she gets.

I know no one is gonna help me if i dont help myself.. But it is very difficult, and i know i have advantage because im good looking but its tough...

Some of you say well grab your damn balls, be a MAN! Well it aint that easy... ANy tips how to break the barrier?

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by yankees13
Today i had a convo with a girl. She has been a friend of mine since childhood....And i asked her how come girls dont say hi to me or anything?!

And she replied because they are intimidated by your looks?! Is that possible? And she also said that they think if they talk to me i will blow them off.

I can't stay long, but I'll tell you a few things...

If she's a childhood friend of yours then she's more than likely telling you the truth.

I had the same problem when I was younger... girls would not talk to me. My female friends said it was my looks... they would rate me at almost a 9.5. I show pics of me when I was younger to my friends' daughters, and they say the same thing... I was ignored because I was attractive. I took being ignored as girls thinking I was ugly... it's hard for a guy to judge these things about themselves. Since I was shy it was equally difficult for me to go to up to them.

I can give this much advice to you: being an AFC won't help you, no matter how good looking you are. Being an AFC killed me. Read the DJ Bible. Visit this board often. Ask questions, even dumb ones. Finally, it's all about confidence and the attitude you project.

 

[Ashlee Angel]

And she replied because they are intimidated by your looks?! Is that possible? And she also said that they think if they talk to me i will blow them off..


Yes this could be very true. Remember that chick who looked like she belonged in playboy or the chick that could be a model.

If a person is really good looking some people may view them as stuck up.

That shouldn't stop you from approaching the women.




So i read the bible, read what to do but it still doesnt get through me.. It is difficult to break the AFC barrier, it is easy to say it at home, you know what i will say hi to that girl tommorow.. But when u actually get there you chicken out and dont do ****.. I especially have a problem with this girl that i know THAT likes me..... And i sense she is STARTING to lose interest because i still havent talked to her, even though she looks at me every chance she gets.

I know no one is gonna help me if i dont help myself.. But it is very difficult, and i know i have advantage because im good looking but its tough...


It took me a few months to approach it is kind of hard to do. But once you do it and see it's not that hard.

You will go home hating yourself for not talking to that chick.
More than you would hate yourself for being nervous while talking to her.

We do things everyday that is alot harder than approaching women. A few months ago I got a STD test. They stuck a q-tip down my pee hole.

Now would you rather do that or would you rather approach a chick?

At first it will seem like a chore approaching women. But after a while it will be like second nature. When you see a hot girl, in a month or so you will be programmed to talk to her.

 

[matius]

I won't say grab your balls and be a man. But it gets easier each and every time you do it. It should be simplistic for you if she is giving you all of these signs. Just go say hello and see what happens. It's only going to be a short time before everyone around you will be gone from the planet forever so why not.

What do you want...you gotta try for it. If it doesn't work for you the first time...get up and try it again. That's how the ones who have stuff get stuff...try- mistake- fail, try - fail, try- mistake- success, try- success...

That's just one pattern.

 

[WatchMeWalk]

Originally posted by yankees13
Today i had a convo with a girl. She has been a friend of mine since childhood....And i asked her how come girls dont say hi to me or anything?!

Asking relationship advice from a woman? You should know better than that.

And she replied because they are intimidated by your looks?! Is that possible?


Baloney. HBs are just as superficial as guys. If you were truly good looking, you would get as much attention as an HB. Read Doc Love's article on the subject.


So i read the bible, read what to do but it still doesnt get through me.. It is difficult to break the AFC barrier, it is easy to say it at home, you know what i will say hi to that girl tommorow.. But when u actually get there you chicken out and dont do ****.. I especially have a problem with this girl that i know THAT likes me..... And i sense she is STARTING to lose interest because i still havent talked to her, even though she looks at me every chance she gets.

Only way to know for sure is to ask her out. Specific time and place. No "Uh. . .wanna go out?" You've known her since childhood so I don't understand what the problem is.

 

[MDgood]

YES! What watchmewalk said!

NEVER EVER TAKE RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FROM A WOMAN!

But to make a tiny point, his lady friend just gave some insight as to why he's ignored... being female she would have a good idea as to whether or not he's an attractive guy.

 

[Santos]

Ok, well you're good looking so you don't have to worry too much about girls rejecting you on the approach. You sound like a decent enough guy, so my advice to you would be start having conversations with EVERYONE you see.

I wasn't even able to say hi girls, but that was a long time ago. Don't worry about screwing up with this girl that likes you. You're good looking, plenty of girls will be attracted to you.

I remember in high school, I had two girls I liked over the years. The first one, all I ever did was say "Hi, how are you?" when I saw her, and maybe a few sentences after that. The other one I only ever said "Hi" to and I can still remember now the ONE conversation I had with her, it was pretty boring. But it lead me up to where I am now.

I can EASILY have a great conversation with a woman. I don't struggle saying hi to them or using C & F, but I admit the idea of "approaching" them still scares me.

It's practice, I'd say in a year you will be able to have a conversation with a woman about general stuff, add some C & F and you're game.

Ask yourself "How much do I WANT this?", FORCE yourself to say "hi" to her. Do it. I don't care if it's the only thing you do next time you see her. IT will feel GREAT overcoming the first hurdle, and the rest that follow. If you want to have conversation with her do it, it's not easy if you don't have a REASON to be talking to her. But she likes you. So just start asking her about herself and then ask her out somewhere. Report back here.

Santos

 

[yankees13]

Thanks for the replies, all you guys have valid points.. It is just very frustrating, its not like im ignored by all girls.. It seems like im ignored by the more good looking ones.,

Each semester i have girls give me big signs that they like me and i know they like me, but i wont talk to them not because im conceited, but because im not interested.. But if you talk to me i wont ignore you i will speak to you..

I have a very close friend who is a very good DJ gets girls left and right, and when i always ***** to him about the problem i have with chicks he tells me " If i had your looks i would get laid every day"..

To those that say dont ever get advice from girls, well this chick like i said has been a friend since childhood and i know she is honest about everything... Another thing she told me why girls dont talk to me is because "Girls know that YOU know that you look good, and they think your conceited" Which is not true, i never was and never will be

 

[matius]

ha, it's funny. or not so funny - just depends how you look at it...i know what you mean. i've this friend who has the gift of gab minus the looks- i have (from what i've been told) the look without the gift of gab and a weird personality. says i should be knockin boots like it's nothing. i hope to prove them all right.

good looking ones don't have to talk with you. they have alot of options...

but can anyone tell us some other reasons besides looking intimidating why good lookin girls don't take interest - asking questions and small talk and shyte. i never get asked what i do for fun at work, or i'll start a convo and give them something to go on and nuthin. i've gotten the intimidating thing before, but i dunno.

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by yankees13
Each semester i have girls give me big signs that they like me and i know they like me, but i wont talk to them not because im conceited, but because im not interested.. But if you talk to me i wont ignore you i will speak to you..

I don't care if you're not interested in these girls, I still want you to talk to them. Create a good impression and they'll go to all their friends and say how great you are. and how you don't even "know" you're hot.

You'll also practice convo skills. I talk to any girl I have the chance to, it's good practice.

Santos

 

[DJ Chubby]

Hey man, I feel what going you're going through. I've always considered myself pretty good looking, but one day I was just chilling with my friend (who's a pretty good DJ) and I told him that there's not enough good looking women.

He's like, "Man..there are plenty of good looking women. Stop making excuses. Oh, and if I looked like you, I'd f*ck the world! Stop sitting on your ass and go approach some b*tches already!"

Needless to say, I started approaching more girls and with the info on this site, my DJ skills definitely improved. I now think I can:

a) Approach girls at clubs and not be afraid of being rejected

b) Use kino, C&F, etc. effectively and gain better results.

And I have bagged some cute girls and kept em interested for as long as I wanted to. So I'm doing okay.

I say okay because I'm not satisfied. I don't think of myself as anywhere close to a true DJ because:

a) I still find myself not being able to do cold pickups even though I see the HOTTEST women on the street, train, etc. (I do all of my approaching in clubs, bars and sometimes school)

b) I still have trouble sometimes getting the "upper hand" with girls that play games..(Not really worth my time, but a true DJ can put them in their place and make them salivate over you)

c) I still dont close the deal with as many girls as I should.


So basically what am I trying to say in this little rant of mine?


It's a lot different knowing that you're good looking from opinions other than yourself and actually believing that you're good looking. If you did, you would be approaching a LOT more than you are now, and you wouldn't care if some flaky, stupid b*tches didn't respond to you. Why should you? You're a good looking guy that can easily bag girls when you need to. The next time you go to a club, just try to approach as many girls as you can.... But be realistic.. You can't become a DJ in a month, much less a night. Work on your skills by approaching, then keep coming back to the site to gain more knowledge. Any knowledge you gain that is purely theoretical and you dont use in practice is just a waste, so make sure you try everything. It's a lot easier said than done, but you can do it. And just remember, you're not going to look that good forever, so make sure you start NOW!

 

[Blaaaaat]

Originally posted by Ashlee Angel


We do things everyday that is alot harder than approaching women. A few months ago I got a STD test. They stuck a q-tip down my pee hole.

Dude, that suck's, hahaha! I tested myself last week, and they wanted to do the same thing. But on the internet they say they can perform the same test by testing your urine. It's just as reliable as the q-tip nowadays. So I told the dr. that he wasn't going to stop anything in my pee-hole, and i wanted to takes a piss test. Well, he checked by phoning some lab, and it was okay.

I'm clean of any STD btw! Just got the results in today.

 

[xblitz44x]

" Baloney. HBs are just as superficial as guys. If you were truly good looking, you would get as much attention as an HB. Read Doc Love's article on the subject." -WatchMeWalk

That's not true. I think I'm a pretty decent looking guy and people have told me the same thing: "Girls are intimidated by you." That doesn't mean that they're not looking at you, or trying to put themselves into positions that make it easier for you to open a conversation, it just means that most chicks won't intitiate a conversation.

It's just like when you're in front of a HOT chick. You feel self-conscious, nervous, etc. You have trouble opening up and being real because you're worried she won't like you when she finds out who you are. That's why we rely on games, by the way. But anyway, chicks don't approach anyway. And when I DO get approached it's by a girl who I am not attracted to and you can tell she's nervous. Instead they will put themselves in positions to make it easier for you to start the conversation.

-Blitz

 

[MDgood]

WacthMeWalk has a point, but you gotta to be exceptionally good looking to get that much attention from HBs. It's like my guy friend who is actually that good looking... in bars when the chicks are getting a buzz on, he has them all over him like you wouldn't believe.

But out in the real world, just as blitz would expect to see, he gets turned down and passed over time and time again.

 

[yankees13]

Also,

It's not like i cant have a convo with a girl, sometimes i have great convo's 10-20 minutes.. Make them laugh alot, sometimes making them laugh so much that they tell me ur crazy...

But the problem often is what to say when the time comes to end the convo and trying to get the phone #or email... Yes alot of you say well just say "Listen i got to run let me get your # so we can continue talking later on"or something like that...

Well i live in big city in New York, and i tell you i never ever heard a person use that line anywhere, and if they did it, it was often by a 40 yr old.. Not a person in his very early 20's, im sorry to me it just sounds corny, and you kind of putting yourself for a rejection.....

There must be something else you can say that sounds better, what? Im still trying to figure out..