How to toughen up

[ScrewIt]

transition from mellow (passive) to having balls and not take **** actually takes time for change. cant snap a finger and it'll be a different you tomorrow.

I know i was in a similar situation as you in the past.

Do you ever recall those guys who apologize to you for the silliest little things? Yes that used to be me.
Over time i told myself i have nothing to be sorry about, and if i must do what needs to be done, i will and i shall take no other route except the one ahead.

The tables are turned and there are guys who apologize to me for silly little things now.

example: this man is standing and blocking your path, are you going to -

A) say "excuse me"
B) find an alternate route to avoid him and continue in the direction you are headed.

OK, you chose (A) wise choice, but what if his back was turned to you and he didnt hear you (or pretended not to), are you going to -

A) walk away
B) pat him on the shoulder and let him know you're getting through.
C) kick him in the balls (only women do that)

Lets put it this way, are you the type that dodges and turns your body to avoid pedestrians in a crowded street...
OR are you the guy that stands, and walks firmly with determination in your eyes....while people will be the one avoiding you.

EXACTLY. It's all about mentality and body language. Are you mentally strong? Mental strength defeats physical strength any day of the week.
- Sure, you can be physically bigger than someone else, but if youre an emotional wuss bag on the inside, people will easily fvck with you.

It's ALL ABOUT MENTALITY.

If you ARE mentally strong and have the body language like you dont take **** from others, others are smart enough not to mess with you or cross your path twice.

Last thing, realize where your weaknesses are (how you're mellow) and start from there. Only until you know what to fix, can repairs be made to your personality.

good luck

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by someperson1987
This isn't directly related to picking up girls but anyways plz give me some advice.

That's why we have "Anything Else".

Moved.

 

[Mojo604]

Originally posted by someperson1987
Im Canadian.
Please only serious responses.

Stop being such a bytch.





jk

 

[ohiofutballa]

go into a bar, find the biggest guy their, and say you f*cked his mom. walk out side and fight.

Repeat as necessary

 

[Alpine]

Don't forget there's physical hard, and mental hard. And a lot of physical hard is mental hard.

For instance. When someone insults you do you think, that's really got to me, I'd hit him but he might hit me back.

Or do you think, what a wanker, what's his problem? and think nothing of it.

Half of being an Alpha is having control over your thoughts and emotions. You have to have the mental strength to distinquish between what's acceptable for someone to say and what isn't, AND for what reason.

Principles. These are what should drive you, not ego centred responses.

Have you ever seen the old Kung FU TV series with David Caradine? I loved the way he'd go into a bar, and they would take this piss, calling him slitty eyes etc. Yet it was like water off a ducks back.

Of course at some point, someone would overstep the mark and he'd kick the sh1t out of them.

You may already be hard, you just haven't seen things from that perspective. There's nothing wrong with being easy going.

 

[Skel]

try living in hartford for a year. That will toughen you up

 

[Ricky]

Work out
Find something to feel grateful for. There are always plenty of people less fortunate than you.

 

[Billasec]

To become tough sadly you have to endure hardship, either physically or mentally.

Ever realize that as a child you would easily cry if things didnt go your way, but as you got older and endured more hardship you no longer cryed but rather endured it easier and easier everytime.

More Hardship = Harder you will become

 

[Maniax]

Although it sounds strange, but to be tough, you gotta be happy/confident. You say you have problems responding to people when they make fun of you. That's because all of your mind energy is focused on the embarassment of the situation and what people think of you, so you have no leftover brain power to figure out something to say back.

This is the same concept in the DJ boot camp about being funny. To be funny you have to be in a good mood! The moment I stopped trying to be funny I started being a riot to people around me! It also gives you a tougher skin, because you don't mind laughing at yourself. You start to loosen up bigtime.

Of course, if you have people ****ting all over you that can escalate to a fight or whatnot. But even then, you gotta be happy/confident. You can't workout when you're miserable. That's what the DJ boot camp teaches. Read up!

 

[thefonz]

Originally posted by Billasec
To become tough sadly you have to endure hardship, either physically or mentally.

Ever realize that as a child you would easily cry if things didnt go your way, but as you got older and endured more hardship you no longer cryed but rather endured it easier and easier everytime.

More Hardship = Harder you will become

This guy is on the money, this is the ONLY way.....sports??PHBTTTT....everyone has played sports, thats not a tough thing....maybe boxing or something but what you really need to do is go out there and do your best to fight whatever is thrown at you, you can't just change you're mindset like that. Experience in life makes you tough.

 

[Jay-X]

Originally posted by Skel
try living in hartford for a year. That will toughen you up

just to know, where's hartford?

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

Man just do something that involves physical risk man! Go play a sport, go on a long ass hike through the forest, go hunting, running, lift weights, drink booze and hang out with rednecks. But yeah, do something that you're scared of and defeat that fear. This is what living is all about. Daring yourself, doing what the next man wouldn't. You don't have to go start a bar fight with anyone. Doing risky things and overall things that will gain you accolades and overall a new sense of confidence man. Such things bring back the meaning of life, this sh*t rejuvenates you. Its kicking ass, succeeding and plowing through the middle.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

martial arts will actuly toughen you up, physicaly you will be at least more agile and altohugh people debate how usefull it is in a street fight well 1 thing for certain is it will help even if only a bit but the reason it toughens you up is it will build your confidence!

 

[Derek Flint]

Originally posted by DeathDealer
Vote for Bush and be like the fellow zombie conservatives and go to war for OIL.

Or post some idiotic, non-sensical post like you just did.

Why can't you Bush haters leave politics off the forum?

And if we went to war for oil, then why does gas cost so much?

The leftist bumper-sticker talking points never pass the logic test.

 

[Julian]

We were in the woods the other day climbing trees and having sword fights with big sticks. (no homo)

it was fun and i suggest everyone does this sometime soon.

 

[Skel]

Originally posted by Jay-X
just to know, where's hartford?

connecticut. It was rated as the most stressful place/city to live int he whole entire USA

 

[Tryin to Grow a Chin]

How does Long Island, NY rank, anyway? The county I live in is the third-most expensive in the country. The second is the next county over, topped only by SF. Where I live you see nothing but huge million-dollar homes, overfed cvnts driving luxury SUV's with a cellphone glued to their head, and of course, bumper-to-bumper traffic everywhere you go. I endure a total of three hours of stop and go with a stick shift each day, five to seven days a week.

Am I much tougher for the travails I've endured here and will continue to suffer? Perhaps not, but it certainly does impart a certain bitter jadedness and resentment against society that often manifests itself in aggressive behavior.

 

[micon]

watch some mafia movies(but the really violent ones) and watch kick-boxing matches they give lots of courage to the person. after you end with watching you feel like the most powerful man in the world.