How to text to maintain rather than to be needy

[BackInTheGame78]

I don’t wanna end up in the friend zone tho. Talking is for friends and therapists

Wrong.

 

[SargeMaximus]

But if I talk to girls just to keep them around, when normally I wouldn’t, isn’t that in itself needy?

 

[RobbyDog]

But if I talk to girls just to keep them around, when normally I wouldn’t, isn’t that in itself needy?

No man. You’re overthinking this, like a woman would

 

[BackInTheGame78]

But if I talk to girls just to keep them around, when normally I wouldn’t, isn’t that in itself needy?

Then don't do it. You lack social sense so it may not work for you.

 

[EyeBRollin]

So as I mentioned a while ago a girl went off me because I didn’t text her.

She’s psycho. Next.

 

[jaymbrs]

She’s psycho. Next.

She's not psycho. It does happen. I had one very recently tell me she thought I wasn't interested because I wouldn't ever text her anything more than little breadcrumbs here and there. Truth is she was right, I wasn't very interested. I didn't want her to suspect that though.

 

[member160292]

It depends on where you are at in courting process. Less is more early on, once you bang they need some reassurance. If you want to keep them as a plate or possible relationship, you train her for quicker responses. I’ve never met anyone that didn’t appreciate faster responses. You are the man, you set the tone for it and stick with it

 

[EyeBRollin]

She's not psycho. It does happen. I had one very recently tell me she thought I wasn't interested because I wouldn't ever text her anything more than little breadcrumbs here and there. Truth is she was right, I wasn't very interested. I didn't want her to suspect that though.

Yes. She is telling you she is crazy. She’s too much of a structured bvtch to actually hit you up, and too insecure to think you can be interested while having a life outside of her. Those girls need therapy.

 

[member160292]

Yes. She is telling you she is crazy. She’s too much of a structured bvtch to actually hit you up, and too insecure to think you can be interested while having a life outside of her. Those girls need therapy.

Not quite, these are the good ones. They are expressing higher interest. Men are supposed to be the hunters, it’s expected that we chase. When a woman chases, that is where it gets baths!t crazy. She’s allowing Jay to lead, when he didn’t she moved on

 

[EyeBRollin]

Not quite, these are the good ones. They are expressing higher interest. Men are supposed to be the hunters, it’s expected that we chase. When a woman chases, that is where it gets baths!t crazy. She’s allowing Jay to lead, when he didn’t she moved on

High interest women pick up the phone and hit you up. It’s counter intuitive. Women actually prefer to chase. It means you’ve been preselected.

 

[member160292]

High interest women pick up the phone and hit you up. It’s counter intuitive. Women actually prefer to chase. It means you’ve been preselected.

That depends where you’re at with the girl, I’ve had successful progressions with phone calls mostly after she has already spent the night. Calling too soon is going to set off unnecessary alarms.

Women will only chase after men have set the bait, which usually doesn’t happen over text.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Women will only chase after men have set the bait, which usually doesn’t happen over text.

I was methodical. After a date, radio silence for 5-9 days. Then I’d call her and ask her out for the next date. Rinse and repeat. The higher the girls interest, the sooner she caved and hit me up first. Girls that really like you will reach out the very next day. They prefer to chase guys they like.

 

[member160292]

I was methodical. After a date, radio silence for 5-9 days. Then I’d call her and ask her out for the next date. Rinse and repeat. The higher the girls interest, the sooner she caved and hit me up first. Girls that really like you will reach out the very next day. They prefer to chase guys they like.

Hasn’t happened to me where they reach out after a good date. There is still some expectation to follow up after the date, why wouldn’t a guy do that? It’s not a game of chicken, it’s getting what you want and nexting early on if low interest.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Hasn’t happened to me where they reach out after a good date. There is still some expectation to follow up after the date, why wouldn’t a guy do that? It’s not a game of chicken, it’s getting what you want and nexting early on if low interest.

Because you don’t give them the chance to. Wait and see what happens. Let things marinate for a few days. It’s absolutely a game of chicken. The strongest tool we have for women is their own imagination.

 

[member160292]

If there was interest anyways, and as you said you’re pre-selected then why wait? Letting it marinate isn’t going to increase interest if it was low in the first place.

Playing chicken does not benefit a man at all during dating.

Of course you’ve been successful so I’ll just say different strokes for different folks

 

[EyeBRollin]

If there was interest anyways, and as you said you’re pre-selected then why wait? Letting it marinate isn’t going to increase interest if it was low in the first place.

Playing chicken does not benefit a man at all during dating.

It does increase interest level. Scarcity = value. It is an amplifier. Most women have several guys hitting them up all the time. She thinks about the guy that she waiting to hear from. That is emotional investment.

Most guys here can get a girl to fvck but can’t keep her on the hook longer than a few weeks.

 

[Fruitbat]

It’s very simple.

text like you’re interested, if you’re interested.

Don’t text like this is the first actual woman who’s ever spoken to you.

Don’t text like you have nothing else in your life other than chasing pvssy.

Of course, if you’re a well rounded man, you’ll be off to the gym at points and off to see friends, working on projects etc.

It’s usually best just to see her in person and otherwise be a little sparing with text discussions. Just don’t sit there for hours doing it.

absolutelt fine to say “right, gotta go to gym/work/see my friend/work on my car/house/go shopping” thats how you cut things off respectfully, let her know you’re a busy guy and also shows you’re not some idiot playing hot and cold games.

Maybe even hit her with a random text st said event with something interesting you saw.

They want you to be GENUINELY Busy with an interesting life they can join. Not playing head games with them.

It’s so simple. If you aren’t doing the above, do it. It will make you more successful with women than fake “game” strategies.

game is just false nails and eyelashes for guys.

 

[RobbyDog]

I was methodical. After a date, radio silence for 5-9 days. Then I’d call her and ask her out for the next date. Rinse and repeat. The higher the girls interest, the sooner she caved and hit me up first. Girls that really like you will reach out the very next day. They prefer to chase guys they like.

Or they’ll ask when they’re going to see you again before the current date has even ended. High interest women make it almost effortless

 

[nismo-4]

Ok so why do women lose interest when I ghost them?

Most times it's among these:

1. They were attention wh0res
2. They weren't interested in you barring beta roles
3. They found a better guy
4. Her ex came back
5. They don't find you attractive

Or some combination thereof.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Ok so why do women lose interest when I ghost them?

They were never that into you. You might have been a 60/100 (50 is the cutoff) for her and a guy who is a 70/100 hit her up. It’s not worth losing any sleep over. Nor should you think you can talk your way above that guy.