How To Tell?

[nan3109]

How can you tell when your girlfriend loves you? (non verbally)

 

[Eventide]

Do you realize that you just posted about the same girl three times in a row?

Look, if a girl loves you, she'll tell you. Thats the only way to know. Even that isn't sure, though. She could just be infatuated.

Let me guess, you think you're in love and want to tell her, but you're afraid to say it because she might not say it back?

Big deal if she doesn't.

But its probably wiser not to say it. That scares a lot of girls.

If you feel you love her, and you really want to tell her, then do it. But make it special. And tell her beforehand, you don't expect her to feel the same way, and that it doesn't matter if she doesn't.

But be prepared for the best or the worst.

 

[nan3109]

thanks, im just frustrated chump....


I think all this research and **** hurts my head, im just not sure about when to tell a girl I love her. I've never done it before but even according to this article:

"until you're absolutely sure she is indeed "the one", rather than rush things and get burned. This approach will also address another serious issue – the "should I stop looking?" issue. If you spend a couple of years with one woman and doesn't feel the need to continue looking, then I'd say you're ready. "


Me and her both said that we haven't felt the need or any interest in anyone else. I mean, she told me that she felt this way and I told her the same back.

IM A LOSER!!!

 

[Eventide]

Dude, you're in an 8 month relationship.

If she is "the one" (guys don't knock all possibility of it happening, I have friends whos parents are high school sweethearts) then you have your whole life to figure it out and let her know you love her.

There is no rush.

Also, I'm guessing this is the longest relationship you've ever been in. Congrats. But please, don't confuse love for infatuation. I was once an AFC in a pretty long relationship, we thought we were in love. We had stupid convos like, "gee I wonder what our kids will look like.." and "gee we're so lucky to have found our match at such a young age..."

Then one day I just woke up from the dream. One morning I couldn't stand her. I waited for it to change, but it just got worse. I eventually broke it off with her. I still have the poem she wrote when I broke up with her...

I regret that relationship more than anything in my entire life. It was a waste of money, emotion, and time. If I look back at it now she was just playing the love card for free food and ****. For christmas I spent $100 on a watch for her. She got me a ****ty AE hoodie a few days afterwards. I don't even ****ing like AE. Oh, and I found out nearly a year after we broke up that she had cheated on me. Not sure to what extent or with whom.

But don't let emotions blind you. And take my warning with a grain of salt, because I have obviously been in a worst case scenario, and you probably can't be as bad as I used to be.

Don't rush things. And don't let emotion take over. Thats about the best advice I can think of for you.

Good luck.

 

[Jester]

Real Love is indeed a very rare thing.

I would say very VERY few girls (and guys), are even capable of it.

The majority of relationships are only infatuations, failing that, they may be based solely on attraction(but that ain't too bad hehe), failing that they could just be "settlements", where one or both partners settle for the other, instead of searching for what they really want.


Not a good situation im afraid, but it is still possible.

I know it is, because i have it


and on to how you can really tell, well you really cant tell. You just gotta know it dude, if you dont KNOW it, like REALLY REALLY KNOW it, then she prolly isnt in love with you and you prolly arent in love with her. Other than that, just look at her actions like always, and not her words.

 

[xanderbaz]

What you're dealing with is a severe case of oneitis. I mean, you openned three posts on topic of one single girl... Wasting precious space instead of combining the three into one.