How to tell if waitress is interested in me or just in the tip?

[Who Dares Win]

I have my theory but I would like to know what you think about it since there is always something to learn.

There is this waitress that I see in a place close to my job where I often go to eat something, she is very nice to me, keeps eye contact and so on, all the signs I would take for good in a normal conversation but in this case there is the possibility that its the tip that she wants and those behaviour are just for that.

Any sign or particular behaviour I should check for, or is there a test that could help me to gauge her interest?

I would like to just ask her out, it would make everything much more simple but its a place I go often so I have to think before act in this case.

If necessary I could talk with a guy who works there and try to collect info about her, but untill now didnt do it for obvious reason.

 

[FairShake]

Any sign or particular behaviour I should check for, or is there a test that could help me to gauge her interest?

It sounds as though you barely talk to her. So try and open her up and see if she is receptive. You can always tell more with a conversation and body language than by body language alone.

Honestly, if you go there a lot, you should've already done this.

If necessary I could talk with a guy who works there and try to collect info about her, but untill now didnt do it for obvious reason.

Don't do that. If she finds out and doesn't like you that will make it awkward and ruin any chances you may have had.

Those kind of deals have to be done with mutual friends in a social circle. Random guys off the street usually don't have enough comfort to start asking about her behind her back.

 

[loco]

This is a no brainer,dont leave a tip from now on,if she still treats you the same then go for it otherwise you will know what's up.

 

[Who Dares Win]

It sounds as though you barely talk to her. So try and open her up and see if she is receptive. You can always tell more with a conversation and body language than by body language alone.

Honestly, if you go there a lot, you should've already done this.

She is there from about 2 weeks, for some reason that place often change the staff, an other reason for which I believe its better to be quick.

We spoke a little but there is always people to serve so she is rushing from a table to an other when I go, I will try to go on empty moments later.

Don't do that. If she finds out and doesn't like you that will make it awkward and ruin any chances you may have had.

Those kind of deals have to be done with mutual friends in a social circle. Random guys off the street usually don't have enough comfort to start asking about her behind her back.

Yeah avoiding the akward possibility has been the reason for which I didnt, this guy that works there is not exactly my friend but he works there from much more than her so we're familiar with each other and he is a good guy, but still I think I'll avoid it.

 

[GS750]

Picking up waitresses, hostesses, bartenders aka Hired Guns requires a different approach. If you are a regular and she knows you then chat her up but not too much, don't keep her from doing her job. Don't ask a coworker about her. Ask her what time she gets off and if she wants to meet up then. If she pulls the "I can't, I have to study" or "I have a BF" or "we're not supposed to date customers" then eject. Hot/cute waitresses get hit on all the time, and guys are usually sleazy about it. They make it uncomfortable for her and then every time they come in it's awkward. Don't leave your number with the check. Do something different but not too forward and don't make it a big deal if she isn't into it.

 

[RecoveringNiceGuy]

Try taking lunch at a less busy time, make a little small talk while ordering. Ask her what her favorite thing on the menu is and transition into something you want to know about her. If she's asking questions about you or giving you more than just a one sentence answer to your questions. Then it's worth a shot, ask her what evenings she's free this week and schedule a date.

If she shoots you down, don't let it bother you. I find a high five eliminates any awkwardness. Just say something playful like "hey well if you change your mind let me know, I'm curious to see if you're as fun as you are cute" then give the high five.

If you're confident about it, she may even change your mind if she doesn't see you that way yet. Ask before ordering, still be fun and playful after she rejects you, and who knows, your check may come back with her number on it. When a woman rejects a guy and he doesn't let it bother him, that really turns them on and makes them wonder whats so different about you, because most guys get sheepish and shy when they're rejected.

 

[Trump]

I have my theory but I would like to know what you think about it since there is always something to learn.

There is this waitress that I see in a place close to my job where I often go to eat something, she is very nice to me, keeps eye contact and so on, all the signs I would take for good in a normal conversation but in this case there is the possibility that its the tip that she wants and those behaviour are just for that.

Any sign or particular behaviour I should check for, or is there a test that could help me to gauge her interest?

I would like to just ask her out, it would make everything much more simple but its a place I go often so I have to think before act in this case.

If necessary I could talk with a guy who works there and try to collect info about her, but untill now didnt do it for obvious reason.

Bro by the time you are figuring out what you should say to her, she is already dating and kissing the other patron who directly asked her out.

What do you have to think of what to say? If you think she's attractive, you say "do you have a boyfriend?" "No". "What time do you get off?" "7:00" "let's go for drink after."

You can't say something mind blowing to make her take off her clothes and sleep with there. You ASK her out. You guys are so worried about what other people may think, you got to get in their face, confront the situation. By the time you figure out the perfect thing to say, she's already pregnant.

 

[Yewki]

If necessary I could talk with a guy who works there and try to collect info about her, but untill now didnt do it for obvious reason.

Don't.

Next time you see her, make some small talk and then ask for her phone number. No matter the outcome, be aloof. Your mind set should be if she doesn't want to hang out it's her loss.

The end.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Fvck it dude, this is the time to go for broke and just take charge and approach her.

Don't go there for like a week or so, then when you see her next, just walk up to her at an opportune time and say "Hey, my name's Who Dares Win and I've noticed you here before. You seem pretty cool, and I want to get to know you better. Give me a call if you want to meet up when you get off."

Then hand her your number and walk out.

I've honestly tried this twice in my life, the first time it failed, the second time I ended up going out with her once but no more because she was kind of a weird girl.

Honestly this is the best chance you have. You're probably never going to find a great time to actually talk to her and build a rapport, so what do you have to lose?

I think this approach would be good for you because you say you've chatted a few times and she's probably remembered your face by now since you go there pretty often, so it's not like you're a COMPLETE stranger who came in one day off the street or something.

 

[Alexandar]

. Ask her what her favorite thing on the menu is and transition into something you want to know about her. If she's asking questions about you or giving you more than just a one sentence answer to your questions.

If she shoots you down, don't let it bother you. I find a high five eliminates any awkwardness. Just say something playful like "hey well if you change your mind let me know, I'm curious to see if you're as fun as you are cute" then give the high five

still be fun and playful after she rejects you, and who knows, your check may come back with her number on it. When a woman rejects a guy and he doesn't let it bother him, that really turns them on and makes them wonder whats so different about you, because most guys get sheepish and shy when they're rejected.

wtf. that's priceless. the exact mentality we need. really well put man

 

[nismo-4]

Try taking lunch at a less busy time, make a little small talk while ordering. Ask her what her favorite thing on the menu is and transition into something you want to know about her. If she's asking questions about you or giving you more than just a one sentence answer to your questions. Then it's worth a shot, ask her what evenings she's free this week and schedule a date.

If she shoots you down, don't let it bother you. I find a high five eliminates any awkwardness. Just say something playful like "hey well if you change your mind let me know, I'm curious to see if you're as fun as you are cute" then give the high five.

If you're confident about it, she may even change your mind if she doesn't see you that way yet. Ask before ordering, still be fun and playful after she rejects you, and who knows, your check may come back with her number on it. When a woman rejects a guy and he doesn't let it bother him, that really turns them on and makes them wonder whats so different about you, because most guys get sheepish and shy when they're rejected.

Well put. Only thing is, if she rejects you and you're unfazed, that's good for you, but she won't necessarily get turned on unless there's a high enough interest already present. At that point, you'll get friendzoned at most.

I usually say that if a hired gun won't get with you after work, you're just not that attractive to her.

And don't do that backdoor insider info sh*t unless you want to be viewed as a stalker.

It's all about her real interest in you. Don't leave bigger tips to get with her. It's not very effective.

So what's the plan? Be direct goddammit! Fortune favors the bold. Make a move. All this analysis sh*t is you hurting yourself. You gotta take a chance even if it means your ego might take a hit. And the sooner the better!

Stop trying to find some magical-ass one hit win strategy. That's every man's fantasy. Move fast, or when (if) you do make a move, this princess will be in another castle with Judge nismo.

Less thinking, more action. Understand?

And if she rejects you, don't get butthurt. Shrug it off and just treat her like you've been treating her. Nothing special.

Case closed.

 

[Suspens]

Move fast, or when (if) you do make a move, this princess will be in another castle with Judge nismo.

:crackup:


Anyways, if she is hot then you know you have competition. In this case you need to act asap or it will become awkard.

 

[RangerMIke]

Ask her out on a date... how she responds will tell you where you stand.

 

[Gusaldo]

Most waitresses and hostesses already have boyfriends and get tired of dudes trying to pick them up. Waitresses will flirt and act nice to the customers just to get a bigger tip. I work in the restaurant business and know how it works.

 

[nismo-4]

Most waitresses and hostesses already have boyfriends and get tired of dudes trying to pick them up. Waitresses will flirt and act nice to the customers just to get a bigger tip. I work in the restaurant business and know how it works.

I work in that biz too, and and I deliver pizzas. I know exactly how it is. It's easier to get a waitress if you work there, though that's not the be-all-end-all.

I work with a sweet, tall amazon chick with a beautiful big ass for days! And several other pretty chicks, one of which would always lip-lock with me in the morning and complete with ass grabs. We've been doing this until HR enforced the kissing rule, especially since it was nearly a case of sexual harassment.

Oh yeah, back on track, this is in the Atlanta Airport. I saw the sweet amazon chick be all sweet to one table with 3 guys there. She caught a 25 dollar tip...on a 20 dollar order! Eye candy FTW, and she's a milf.

Women in this biz are 9/10 times taken. Mainly because they:

1. Don't want to lose a customer (their money)
2. Don't think you're attractive enough
3. Could get in trouble for fratenizing.

Strippers are no different. Just act fast. Her actions will tell all. And have her see you OUTSIDE OF WORK. None of this stalker sh*t.

 

[Top Of The Game]

So you think out of all of the males who come in there only you a guy who hangs out on a board on how to get laid, is the one male of all of the other males hitting on her that she is only and I mean only interested in you.

Or maybe the nice tips she gets from leading suckers on who she can tell from a mile away and probably laughs with her coworkers around the corner about and taking bets on how much she can milk out of each dummies wallets for tips.

Hell they probably have a pool and call her the master at milking desperate suckers.

Hell I don't know. Maybe just maybe she really does like you whom she has NO clue about.