BasicInstinct
Senior Don Juan
A lot of people come here asking, "How do I know if this girl likes me?" Now many people have posted signs like eye contact, kino, etc. Well here is a simple rule to keep in mind that encompasses whether you’re trying to approach a girl, on a date, on the phone, etc. It may seem obvious to some, but I want to state it because if you bear this in mind, I think it will help you out in determining whether she is interested. Ready?
If she likes you, she will make it easy for you to <insert whatever- approach her, talk to her, kiss her, etc>
Simple, right? The reasoning behind this is simple: girls are trained not to PURSUE a guy, but instead to ATTRACT a guy. Therefore, if a girl likes you, she will make your job easier. Now obviously this doesn’t work in all cases. The girl might be an attention wh0re or simply flirting with you with no intention of going out with you, but keep this in mind as a general rule.
For example, let’s say you’re talking to a girl and you want to ask her out. Does she laugh at your jokes? Does she ask questions about you? Does she say she is free on the day you ask her out? If the answer is yes, then there is a good chance that she is interested in you. But if she seems preoccupied with something else, says she is busy, and you have a tough time carrying the conversation, then there is a good chance she is not interested.
Now let me give you a real life example that happened to me. I was out on a date and I was telling her a story about how I was running around naked in New Jersey once (long story
) Anyways, I didn’t tell it very tell- in fact, I told it pretty badly. But you know what? She laughed at it anyways, even though it really wasn’t all that funny to begin with and she probably thought inside that it wasn’t funny. This made the conversation flow a lot better than if she would have just sat there and looked at me like an idiot (which I’m grateful she didn’t do).
So does this mean you shouldn’t go after a girl who you rarely make contact with? Of course not! I’m not saying you shouldn’t go after a girl if she doesn’t seem interested at first. But if you’re on a first or second date and it seems like your job seems to be getting HARDER instead of EASIER, then it’s a pretty good sign that she is not interested in you. Hopefully this will save you guys some trouble by not barking up the wrong tree or spending too much time going after a girl that you think might be interested in you.
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Always outnumbered, never outgunned.
It's not safe to hope for the best, without preparing for the worst.
[This message has been edited by BasicInstinct (edited 03-15-2002).]
If she likes you, she will make it easy for you to <insert whatever- approach her, talk to her, kiss her, etc>
Simple, right? The reasoning behind this is simple: girls are trained not to PURSUE a guy, but instead to ATTRACT a guy. Therefore, if a girl likes you, she will make your job easier. Now obviously this doesn’t work in all cases. The girl might be an attention wh0re or simply flirting with you with no intention of going out with you, but keep this in mind as a general rule.
For example, let’s say you’re talking to a girl and you want to ask her out. Does she laugh at your jokes? Does she ask questions about you? Does she say she is free on the day you ask her out? If the answer is yes, then there is a good chance that she is interested in you. But if she seems preoccupied with something else, says she is busy, and you have a tough time carrying the conversation, then there is a good chance she is not interested.
Now let me give you a real life example that happened to me. I was out on a date and I was telling her a story about how I was running around naked in New Jersey once (long story
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So does this mean you shouldn’t go after a girl who you rarely make contact with? Of course not! I’m not saying you shouldn’t go after a girl if she doesn’t seem interested at first. But if you’re on a first or second date and it seems like your job seems to be getting HARDER instead of EASIER, then it’s a pretty good sign that she is not interested in you. Hopefully this will save you guys some trouble by not barking up the wrong tree or spending too much time going after a girl that you think might be interested in you.
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Always outnumbered, never outgunned.
It's not safe to hope for the best, without preparing for the worst.
[This message has been edited by BasicInstinct (edited 03-15-2002).]