How to tell a girl that she needs to lose weight ?

[aWolf]

She's one of my plates that I'm currently spinning. She's super hot and she has the face of a model. The problem is she's a chubby girl, not fat but overweight.

We had foreplay and svcked my d*ck but we didn't have s3x, not yet. We are not exclusive I need more time to be exclusive to sort the good & bad ones. She is amazing physically gave me 3 heads in a row and wants more but I backed off because I got tired ( have to work on my stamina too )

We are dating for about a month now.

The problem is her overweight and I'm a guy that is athletic and really picky. I hate access fats ( who doesn't ? )

So how to bring it up ? if she lost the fat I would consider being exclusive with her. If she didn't, I'll have to spin the other plates and hers.

 

[Tictac]

Very carefully, preferably from a great distance.

 

[aWolf]

Very carefully, preferably from a great distance.

Explain.

 

[Willard]

You don't, she already knows. What you can do is invite her to go to the gym with you, or any activity that burns calories like running, walking, hiking. That's what I do when I date a girl with a few extra pounds.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I agree with Willard.


Either that, or propose. Women always get in shape for their big day ;u)

 

[Tictac]

I was trying to make a joke wolf. My apology.

Women and weight are a sensitive issue. For better and worse, their appearance is very important to them (honey, do these pants make my ass look big...)

Trying to fix or change people because you like part of what they do and who they are but not other parts is not a great idea. You get the whole package, like it or not.

And you're not that picky. She's blowing your pipes and she was 'chubby' when you took her on.

Can you draw her into your athletic lifestyle?

 

[aWolf]

You don't, she already knows. What you can do is invite her to go to the gym with you, or any activity that burns calories like running, walking, hiking. That's what I do when I date a girl with a few extra pounds.

I was thinking about taking her with me to the gym. I'll tell her to join

 

[aWolf]

I was trying to make a joke wolf. My apology.

Women and weight are a sensitive issue. For better and worse, their appearance is very important to them (honey, do these pants make my ass look big...)

Trying to fix or change people because you like part of what they do and who they are but not other parts is not a great idea. You get the whole package, like it or not.

And you're not that picky. She's blowing your pipes and she was 'chubby' when you took her on.

Can you draw her into your athletic lifestyle?

Its ok dude, its 2 a.m here.

Can I say something like: " hey girl I'm at the gym come and join me let me see that a** shaking, maybe I'll take you after you do your squats."

about picky, she's just another plate, I want to discover all types of women as possible.

 

[bigneil]

You dump her, that's how.

Don't spin fat plates to begin with.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Why Do You Care?

She's one of my plates that I'm currently spinning. She's super hot and she has the face of a model. The problem is she's a chubby girl, not fat but overweight.

If she's a plate, why do you care about her weight? Personally, I would tell it to her straight. "You're one of "x" of chicks that I'm currently talking to. I like you and all, but your weight is becoming an issue and I'm not going to pursue a relationship with a fat girl. If you want me to be your man, your going to have to lose some weight.

We had foreplay and svcked my d*ck but we didn't have s3x, not yet. We are not exclusive I need more time to be exclusive to sort the good & bad ones. She is amazing physically gave me 3 heads in a row and wants more but I backed off because I got tired ( have to work on my stamina too )

Dude, really. Your story is lacking congruity. Why do you want a chick that you've been seeing for less and a month to lose weight? Is she the hottest chick you're talking to? You're putting waaay to much on it.

 

[bigneil]

If you tell a woman she has to lose even one pound, you will create an evil force more powerful than you can possibly imagine.

 

[devilkingx2]

the only way you could tell her to lose weight without offending her is by making a joke

and she'd probably still take offense but also not take you seriously because you were joking

it'd be easier to learn to live with it

 

[Desdinova]

You dump her, that's how.

Don't spin fat plates to begin with.

Agreed. You cannot fix broken people. They have to fix themselves.

I had a gf who was gaining weight while we were dating. I suggested that she do what I do and hop on my exercise bike three times a week. Within the first 20 seconds, she was complaining that 'it hurts'. Poor fvcking baby wanted the easy way to lose weight; bytch about how hard it is and hopefully the fat will fall off on its own.

If you don't like her chub, then get a woman who's already physically fit to begin with and is keen on maintaining it.

I also would like to see a SUCCESS STORY of a Don Juan who effectively got his fat gf to lose weight. I doubt many (if any) exist.

 

[bigneil]

I once got someone else's wife to lose weight. She hung out at the pool every day and I loved her but never laid a finger on her (sort of a rule). But I hung out there a lot too and I inspired her to fast and she dropped 15 and went from an HB7 to an HB9 over a 6 week period in 2006. Her husband showed up one day and I pointed to her and said "See? Didn't I do a great job?" He was not amused.

 

[Uncharted]

Don't waste your time. If she's not working out to get into better shape for you now, she's not going to.

 

[Kailex]

Just turn off the lights during sex, every single time.

Other than that, good luck because if she isn't doing it on her own, she never will. She MIGHT for a little while, but there will come a point where she will go back to being undisciplined about it... usually comes with feeling comfortable within the relationship.

What you see now is probably the best version of her.

Even suggesting having her join the gym with you (if she is completely unmotivated) could even be grounds for resentment with some women.

 

[Ronaldo7]

She's one of my plates that I'm currently spinning. She's super hot and she has the face of a model. The problem is she's a chubby girl, not fat but overweight.

We had foreplay and svcked my d*ck but we didn't have s3x, not yet. We are not exclusive I need more time to be exclusive to sort the good & bad ones. She is amazing physically gave me 3 heads in a row and wants more but I backed off because I got tired ( have to work on my stamina too )

We are dating for about a month now.

The problem is her overweight and I'm a guy that is athletic and really picky. I hate access fats ( who doesn't ? )

So how to bring it up ? if she lost the fat I would consider being exclusive with her. If she didn't, I'll have to spin the other plates and hers.

If she is a land whale, she isn't "super hot". Don't kid yourself.

You could be direct and tell her. "You are getting to the point where you might have to pay for 2 airplane seats the next time you fly".

 

[SgtSplacker]

I prefer a more subtle method...

Like if you are asking her out end the request with "and I know you're hungry!"

 

[3agle 3yes]

I prefer a more subtle method...

Like if you are asking her out end the request with "and I know you're hungry!"

Funny...

Seriously though, I agree with those who are saying ask her to join you at the gym...you already go to the gym I presume? So it won't be a problem.

Don't mention anything concerning weight though, don't even imply it and bring it up when something similar is talked about etc.

Say:

"Do you go to the gym?" (obvious no) "I'm going to the gym on XXX you should come too, give me company. I feel so much better since I started going...I've got more energy and I feel stronger..." etc.

If she doesn't budge, well that's your call.