How to stop infatuation

[bigneil]

One thing that I think is important is that, every 2 weeks or so, she will text something to the effect of "You've disappeared..." or "You don't want to see me anymore? " or "You're horrible at texting back!".

In other words, periods of absence (with her noticing).

Or if you do text she should write back within 1 minute something like "Wow, never thought I'd hear from you again.".

When she is interested there should be a few multiple-part texts (over 140 characters) from her, including at least one 3 part message (think of the girls who liked you). And she'll out-text you in terms of both the size and the number of messages, redundantly texting things like "What????" in one message and then "Explain." in another reply to your message.

Keep it that way. Randomly let the conversation end with her having sent the last message. Then when you do see her, make sure it's way more fun than the average guy would be.

 

[topcat2001]

Thanks bigneil, i am learning that just sleeping with a girl a few times doesn't mean you have her so i need to work on keeping the dopamine dormant till then.

 

[perseverance]

The best advice I can give you is to back off a bit.

Everytime I feel infatuation start, I distance myself from the women. Infatuation itself isn't the problem, it's a natural response, but it is how we choose to deal with it that can alter how it affects us.

You really should only start to become infatuated with a girl once you two are exclusive in a relationship where the feeling is mutual on both sides, but it seems with more and more people having their cake and eating too prior to any exclusivity, so these problems with infatuation start earlier than usual.

It seems things with you and this girl have ended, another man was involved and she has chosen him over you. No biggie, sh*t happens after all.