How to stop giving a f**k about this woman

[Cerwin Vega]

Seems like I've developed an unhealthy attachment to this HB aka oneitis.

I'm obsessing over her (low) IL almost 24-7. I go nuts if she doesn't initiate anything for a day.

I've got other women in my life, but not as hot as her. They're literally sending me **** like "when are you coming to **** me" and I'm ignoring them, while obsessing over this flaky b1tch. It has to do with the fact that she's very ambiguous in regards "what are we"...it's a weird mix between a FwB and a pseudo-relationship.

I exercise every day to exhaustion. I listen to podcasts. I work, a lot. My brain is already tired of trying to keep itself busy, but I keep checking my phone, analyzing the texts, checking who messaged/called first (unfortunately, me most of the time), and it's driving me nuts. Yesterday I had to pull out my anxiety meds just so I could fall asleep.

Tomorrow we're supposed to go out on a vacation together. Been planning this for a week. I haven't heard from her since yesterday and was beating myself over the idea that she's probably gonna flake and I'll end up alone. I know from experience that these b1tches are very irresponsible, and they flake all the time with zero repercussions. She doesn't know how important this is to for me lol (and it's probably for the best that I don't show it).

Was holding myself from contacting her since yesterday but I pvssied out and called @ 3pm today. Poked around & was ready to deliver a breakup speech over her lack of enthusiasm.......It was enough for me to hear her giggle and tell me she's gonna go pack soon, and asked me what's the best way to get to my city....I immediately calmed down like a little puppy, and all of the anxiety was gone. wtf.

I was never like this with any woman. I know she's not special. She doesn't have a golden pvssy. Yeah she's smoking hot and the sex is amazing but she has many nasty habits, and I know this will blow up in my face and I can't hold her long-term, but my mind ignores everything and keeps obsessing and simping over her.

If she flakes on the vacation it'll destroy a day or two for me. This sh1t is unhealthy. I just want it to happen already so I can stop freaking out. TBH I'm pretty sure this is not even 100% about her, but rather me being very outcome-dependent.

HELP

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

This is why I don’t date girls with low interest. You can fvck them but you never feel safe & secure and oneitis is common. A lot of guys won’t understand you because low interest to them means getting ghosted and no sex/vacations lol. Where is this vacation at? My oneitis actually ended with the girl I was talking to after we went on vacation because I saw a side of her that was more annoying to deal with. You need to cut things off either as soon as she flakes or when y’all get back lol.

 

[Barrister]

You have been a member here since 2014 - so I think you already know all the answers to your questions without us typing them out for you.

Frankly, I think the only thing you can do in this situation is take control back and tell her the vacation is off. See what her reaction is. Maybe this jumpstarts something. More than likely it doesn't. If it doesn't do much of anything, you have your answer and you just need to ghost and move on so you take back control of your own mental state.

You mentioned this vacation is "important to you" and I hope you mean the time off itself is important and not the time off with this low interest girl is important. Get what is important back into focus.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Brother we all have had that one plate that’s a smoke show that somehow does it for us, despite knowing she’s not fit for an LTR.

My hottest plate displays many of the same type of behavior- it manifests differently but it’s from the same entitled, “I can pull whatever I want whenever I want“ attitude - she’s never needed to behave for other

I have told her to pound dirt more times than I can count but still let her back because I want that ass and great sex.

When we are out in public I see people staring at us, girls stare at her then smile at me.

Shes 10 years my junior and frankly is hot as f*k But she will never comply 100% to what I want. So I continue my search for her replacement as the object of my lust - If and when I find that replacement she’ll just turn into another regular old plate.

Just make sure you keep seeing other girls and continually search for her replacement.

 

[RangerMIke]

Stop thinking about her. Every time your mind drifts towards thinking about her, get busy with something else. You might not think you can do this, but you can, you are a man you can control your thoughts.

 

[member160761]

It is not that I told you that you create hell on earth for yourself. Did not listen. Now suffer the consequences. You have become what you loathed originally: a teenage girl.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

Stop thinking about her. Every time your mind drifts towards thinking about her, get busy with something else. You might not think you can do this, but you can, you are a man you can control your thoughts.

"just be confident bro"