How to stop caring?

[Dan08]

So, basically I'm talking to 3 girls right now. One is a certified FB, one has stated she's only looking for s_x though we've yet to really talk about it or bang, and one is kinda long distance but will be spending christmas with her and escalate etc.

Even with all of this though I still find myself not wanting to screw up with any of these girls, like I've just been talking to one of them as she popped up on my fb and randomly started abusing me lol and I won't go into deetz but I possibly hit a nerve but we work past it and right before we end the convo she makes a subtle dig back round to it.

That said and done I now wonder if I fu(ked up, I worry I hurt this girl's feelings and sh!t's gonna be awkward next time we see each other.

So my question to you SS is how do you just stop caring? The standard response I suppose would be spin plates but is that not what I'm doing here?

Help a brother out.

 

[San]

stop caring?! and you come.. from a planet full of bastards?!
who told/taught you to not care?! i hope it's not those stupid tv shows where infidelity is normal.

It is true some entitled women can dump you once they get just a hint that you care...
in which case you dodged a bullet

what you are probably aiming at is don't give your care and attention away SO "easily " perhaps?

That said and done I now wonder if I fu(ked up, I worry I hurt this girl's feelings and sh!t's gonna be awkward next time we see each other.

>> worrying who ****ed up is surely more a women's role.. right?

 

[Skyline]

So, basically I'm talking to 3 girls right now. One is a certified FB, one has stated she's only looking for s_x though we've yet to really talk about it or bang, and one is kinda long distance but will be spending christmas with her and escalate etc.

Even with all of this though I still find myself not wanting to screw up with any of these girls, like I've just been talking to one of them as she popped up on my fb and randomly started abusing me lol and I won't go into deetz but I possibly hit a nerve but we work past it and right before we end the convo she makes a subtle dig back round to it.

That said and done I now wonder if I fu(ked up, I worry I hurt this girl's feelings and sh!t's gonna be awkward next time we see each other.

So my question to you SS is how do you just stop caring? The standard response I suppose would be spin plates but is that not what I'm doing here?

Help a brother out.

Confidence.

If you are truly confident, almost nothing will phase you. I don't believe you can "stop caring" instead you VALUE it less than everything else you do. Which is why most people get absorbed in a passion like a hobby, job or sport.

You have this all backwards. THEY should be worrying if they screw up and YOU drop them. The second you begin to fear loosing them, that's when it's already over because it's an uphill battle from there. Women who are sexy as hell and want to fvck you are everywhere. But there is only one of you, so treat them accordingly.

My advice to this would be to find a hobby or interest and just shove your face into it. Also learn how to control your emotions better. Getting angry or offended is not a sign of confidence. Keep it cool and playful.

 

[VikingKing]

Stop giving a fvck. Honestly, from what I've read, when you feel guilty it usually means you've been been taken advantage of a lot of your life. So you've probably been a nice guy a lot of your life.

As long as you don't beat her ass, or rape her, or some fvcked up sh!t liek that, relax. Don't ever, ever feel guilt for a female, unless you do somthing really fvcked up.

Man just stop caring, only care about what matters.

My dad always told me, "you have to think about where will you be in 5 years, and what will you be doing."

The women you see now, probably won't matter in 5 years.

 

[VikingKing]

yup.

this is a problem i see so much on this forum.

these are the same guys who are also spiteful towards women.

the root cause of this is lack of internal game.

"let that which does not matter, truly slide"

dont be a caring a-hole. be an uncaring a-hole

western women are mostly sh!tty people only good for entertainment and sex.

Don't be delusional.

 

[Dan08]

Thank you guys for the insightful words. Ill swap this round and just throw myself into something 110%. And use the 5 year tip, I'd never thought of that.
And San, reckon you hit the nail on the head with that post, much appreciated.

 

[BraddH]

By stop caring about how to stop caring is the first step. The very root is in the worrying about how to stop caring. Do you catch me?

 

[BeDJ]

I wrote this about a year ago. Nowadays, I don't care.

Your Greatest Weapon - Indifference

Ever had a girl go silent?
Ever sat by your phone and wait for her call/text?
Ever wondered why she flaked on you?

Why is there that uneasy feeling in your stomach? Because you cared too much. The thought of losing her scares you! And that is why you will lose the girl.

No, I'm not going to tell you to think you are the prize, find hobbies, spin plates, make her chase you, etc. These are the byproducts of becoming indifferent.

No matter how good you are at something, there are 10 other people that are better. Do your best, accept the rest. Stop demanding joy, attention and friends. Allow people to disregard you, it's fine. You have probably done it to others.

Who you are should never depend on externalities like your image or possessions. Every externality can fade (looks, fame, power, money, etc.) Become ZEN!

Indifference means you are in control of your emotions and your own true happiness. You will make decision based on your happiness and rules. You are conducting the greatest show on earth - YOUR LIFE

She didn't give you her number - Oh Well
She flaked out on a date - Whatever
She hasn't responded - Ok
She won't put out - So?

I PROMISE YOU that you will start spending time with highly interested women.
I ASSURE YOU that you will attract women you want.
I GUARANTEE YOU that you will be happy.

 

[adam225]

I wrote this about a year ago. Nowadays, I don't care.

Very true. Good post bro

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