How to respond when chic talks about ex?

timmylivingalie

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What do you say when a chic starts whining about her ex boyfriend/hubby was mean to her, cheated on her or whatever?
 

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I away say "Lets not talk about the past, and just enjoy the time now". I say this with a smirk and dead eye contact. Works every time.
 

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Depends on what you are looking for... a lay or information. If you shut up and listen, a woman will tell you everything about herself... and you have a heads up on whether or not to keep her.
 

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sodbuster said:
Depends on what you are looking for... a lay or information. If you shut up and listen, a woman will tell you everything about herself... and you have a heads up on whether or not to keep her.

^^^^ Very true.... A lot of time women will divulge information about your ex... just listen but do not inquire... Then just talk about anything else. You want the woman to be focused on you and not be distracted by an ex flame.
 

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CrashOverRide said:
^^^^ Very true.... A lot of time women will divulge information about your ex... just listen but do not inquire... Then just talk about anything else. You want the woman to be focused on you and not be distracted by an ex flame.
yes also remember that it will always be the Ex's fault and she may be sh*t Testing you
 

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john1234 said:
yes also remember that it will always be the Ex's fault and she may be sh*t Testing you
I kind of lean toward that it is a test and they want to see if you will allow them to whine to you.
 
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I like to do two things:

1)Never sympathize with the girl about her negative feelings toward the ex. You know those guys who go "Oh James cheated on Sarah? That guy is a a$$hole she can do better" or "I don't understand what why he treats you this way, he's a jerk". Yeah don't be that guy. That sympathetic route is where a lot of guys fail because they are attempting to show the girl that "hey you should like me because I'm nothing like the old guy". She liked something about the guy apparently so agreeing to bash him just put more spotlight on him and you don't want that.

2)Divert/Steer the conversation in your favor. You want to really stand out in her mind, then give her a image she can sink her teeth into. Try this; if the girl says something like

GIRL: "My ex was so domineering. He told me how to dress when we went out, and wouldn't let me hang out with his friends because he thought they would hit on me."
ME: "Yeah, I could see why he would do that. I would totally do that too, except I'd have you dress like a slutty sexy bunny, and bring me cookies and beer in bed while I watch tv."
GIRL: "Why would I want to do that?"
ME: "You're the one that likes taking orders, maybe you just haven't been given the right ones yet."

You see with the diversion option you play off what she is saying in a fun positive sexual way, while simultaneously mentally piquing her interest in you. She brings up something negative, you twist the negativity into your favor. It takes the attention off the ex, puts the spotlight on you, changes the conversation to something kinky and lighthearted and opens up a new course of convo to play off of. I hope that helps.
 

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ecko280 said:
I away say "Lets not talk about the past, and just enjoy the time now". I say this with a smirk and dead eye contact. Works every time.

What if a girl you are banging suddenly says "I am trying not to contact my ex"?
 

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Malice said:
What if a girl you are banging suddenly says "I am trying not to contact my ex"?
If i am banging her, then i just say "OK" or ignore the comment and keep doing what i am doing as well as keep banging.


If a new girl, then i would say "Ok" and then change the subject.
 

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Malice said:
What if a girl you are banging suddenly says "I am trying not to contact my ex"?
I tell her to switch positions, then shove it in her butt. Then I'd learn how to fuuck women, because if they're thinking about calling their ex while you're banging them, you really suck. Bad.
 
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