How to reject without **** exploding everywhere

[CuddleJunkie]

Hello DonJuans. First time I have find myself in such a situation:
I already posted about this girl some time ago; she is from another town I have a friend in that I visit monthly. So when I met her she fell all over me wanting me to spend one more day there since I didn't escalate fast enough the first night. I was all messed up back then. The next time I saw her I was with that german girl and I didn't feel it was right to fvck another girl, I'm working on these remaining blue values...I need more time but working towards it. So anyhow, some days ago I went again to see my friend and she was extremely aggressive with me wanting the d, even my friend had to tell me that she was interested lol. The problem is, after tasting better women that ever before I have, I had 0 interest in her: saying she's a 6 is being nice. So I just ignored her the whole 2 days...and she went mad the last night I spent there. Like, really bitchy and talking **** about me with her girlfriends, as my friend would later tell me.

Now, I don't really care about this specific case, but if something like this would happen again in a close social circle, it could hurt my image and position in them. So my question for you, my SoSuavers friends is: How do you reject a woman gracefully? Do you friendzone her? If yes, how the fvck do you do it?

Thanks bros.

 

[slight]

I think it would be difficult to pull it off without neither damaging your image, nor her ego at least a bit.

Paying her less attention, but not straight up ignoring her could work. Meaning, you talk with her and act polite, but seem disinterested. Don't ask any questions. She probably will get it, save her ego and self-reject.

 

[Poon King]

We have to lose this faggot mentality in society where women are allowed to flip-flop and change their minds constantly while men are not.

You are allowed to change your mind. Simple as that. No women is entitled to anything from you. Below is a list of things you DON'T owe women:

-Attention
-A Relationship
-Explaining yourself
-Approval
-Sex (yes even sex)

At times when I do choose to reject a woman "nicely" to avoid drama I usually claim to be seeing or interested in someone else. But overall, I usually just disengage from the relationship OR make it 100% on my terms to the point the woman has to work too hard to make it worth her time.

Regarding your social image.. how much impact will it have on your job or money? If the answer is NONE then who gives a sh!t? Its beta to worry about your status in the pack. If you are worried about your status in the pack then you are clearly not the alpha of that social circle.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

If you are worried about your status in the pack then you are clearly not the alpha of that social circle.

ouch. Thanks for the slap, I've realized I have work to do.

I think it would be difficult to pull it off without neither damaging your image, nor her ego at least a bit.

Paying her less attention, but not straight up ignoring her could work. Meaning, you talk with her and act polite, but seem disinterested. Don't ask any questions. She probably will get it, save her ego and self-reject.

Yes, seems the right thing to do; my problem was I was interested the first time I met her, and it created sexual tension. Not gonna happen again.

 

[fastlife]

I friendzone girls all the time--be polite, friendly, whatever, but a little too clueless to pick up what she's putting down. When they escalate beyond the level you're willing to entertain, freeze 'em out for a month or two and then hit 'em up like nothing happened. Think covert communication--you never overtly reject her. Usually talking about some other girl you're 'caught up on' helps (she can hamster why you lost interest). But really the most important thing is to establish your frame from the beginning--girls won't ever be mad at you for being 'who you are.' Make 'who you are' very flexible from the start--if I know I'm not interested in a girl sexually I'll pour on the hopeless womanizer schtick--it's not really an act, it's an aspect of my personality, but I'll accentuate that aspect around them so that they pick up on the message that I'm not all that attainable for them and it's nothing personal.

But really in this case she picked up on your discomfort--you feel a little like the bad guy so she picked up on that and ran with it. If you felt 100% comfortable she might be disappointed, she might pout a little bit, but she won't feel scorned enough to take it out on you.

 

[ubercat]

Y Care? If she is s*** talking you to her friends well she would make a crappy friend anyway. And if they are gossiping along with her it's a social Circle you need like another hole in the head. There is a great Louis L'Amour quote. "A man can spend half a lifetime doing things that don't interest him surrounded by people who don't care about him'. And believe me Louis L'Amour was a guy who really lived life.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Have fun with women. If you aren't gonna **** 'em either tell em you like em but aren't looking for anything like that at the moment. This wounds sounds like a crazy *****..
Remember the golden rule..."don't put your **** in crazy"

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I myself would just not escalate. I would just stay away from her. If she talks ****, then I'd confront her. If she tries to bs her way out, I'd pht her on the spot and tell her that just cuz I didn't want to fvck her doesn't mean that she should get all pissy about it.

Boom, puts me on a higher level with my bros who now think I'm a savage and with the girls who now know other chicks want me. *commence catastrophic decimation of her hamster* and now a lot of her girlfriends hate me because I may have sounded like a d!ck. Oh well, they secretly admire me anyway

 

[CuddleJunkie]

But really in this case she picked up on your discomfort--you feel a little like the bad guy so she picked up on that and ran with it. If you felt 100% comfortable she might be disappointed, she might pout a little bit, but she won't feel scorned enough to take it out on you.

You hit the nail on the head. This was the problem all along, blue-pill deconditioning is a slow process...and I have some things to fix yet. Thanks for the insight fastlife.

I myself would just not escalate. I would just stay away from her. If she talks ****, then I'd confront her. If she tries to bs her way out, I'd pht her on the spot and tell her that just cuz I didn't want to fvck her doesn't mean that she should get all pissy about it.

Boom, puts me on a higher level with my bros who now think I'm a savage and with the girls who now know other chicks want me. *commence catastrophic decimation of her hamster* and now a lot of her girlfriends hate me because I may have sounded like a d!ck. Oh well, they secretly admire me anyway

A little too nuclear...maybe that's the reason I loved your advice lol. I will make use of it if this ever happens again.