How to reject smoothly without burning bridges?

[holidayad_]

Recently, I was at a pool party with some colleagues from my master's course.

At one point during the party, one of my Brazilian colleagues started flirting with me. The talk went back and forth and in a moment, she went in for a kiss and, even though I wasn't into it at the time, I reciprocated.

The chat continued, we went out for a bite to eat after the party, with these other Brazilian colleagues, and then we each went our separate ways home. A few minutes later, this chick sent me a message asking me if I "wanted to cuddle with her". I didn't reply.

The thing is: she's not my type of girl (4-5/10) and there are other friends of hers or from the same circle of friends as her, who would be "my priorities" for trying something.

I think I need to make a smooth move so as not to burn my bridge with all these other girls that I have my eye on.

What do you suggest? Move on, answer something or what?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Not replying to her was an answer. Lets hope she takes the hint

 

[bat soup]

Not replying to her was an answer. Lets hope she takes the hint

Yes, it's a very clear answer. If she was attractive the answer would have been sent almost immediately. Anything else means no.

 

[holidayad_]

Not replying to her was an answer. Lets hope she takes the hint

Yes, it's a very clear answer. If she was attractive the answer would have been sent almost immediately. Anything else means no.

Do you think it was a good way to avoid burning bridges with her and, consequently, with the "potential leads" in her circle? Because, you know, women gossip. A lot.

 

[zekko]

Do you think it was a good way to avoid burning bridges with her and, consequently, with the "potential leads" in her circle? Because, you know, women gossip. A lot.

I think it could work both ways. On the one hand, you demonstrated that you have standards and won't just settle for anything. Not every guy can say that these days. Or, if they think you were rude to her, they may be angry about it and not give you the time of day. Or they might think she likes you and consider you off limits.

Your answer lies in action. Approach a potential target and see what her response is.

 

[bat soup]

Do you think it was a good way to avoid burning bridges with her and, consequently, with the "potential leads" in her circle? Because, you know, women gossip. A lot.

I doubt she'd want to gossip about that.

But if she complains about being rejected by you it encourages other women to give it a shot.