Fellow DJ's, the following might be helpful to those of us thinking we need to re-program who we are, how we look, the friends we keep and other aspects of our lives that don't seem to be working for us. Note it is in two parts, including the post below.
The original web address is shown, but I copied, reformatted and clarified/edited for posting here:
How to Reinvent Yourself in 6 Weeks
By Fiona Harrold
http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/famfri/emotwb/articles/0,9546,161285_553896,00.html
(edited by RKTek)
You have far greater control over who you are than you think. Your character, your personality and mental outlook are all in your hands to shape and fashion as you wish. If there's something you dislike about yourself, do something about it. This course will teach you the art of true reinvention - from the inside out. Over the next six weeks, I want you to take a good look at yourself. My plan is to push you to be the best-possible version of yourself, not someone different, just you at your shiny, refined, polished, perfected best. It gets better! You can even decide to take on new qualities, characteristics and an enhanced, spruced-up demeanor of your choice. Over the years I've coached people to move from dithering to decisive, jaded to dynamic, victim to victorious. Life can take a lot out of you. It’s easy to get coated with layers of resignation, cynicism, and self-doubt. It all adds up to a dampening of your spirit, vibrancy and optimism, a shutting down of what's possible for you. I want to slough off those layers, so you see yourself anew. But before we even think about that, we need to make room to throw off
what may be stale or no longer useful.
Week 1
Who are you now?
”'It is never too late to be what you might have been.'” George Eliot
Look at you. Look within.
Truly successful reinvention comes from digging deep into you and pulling out old beliefs and attitudes that restrict you and prevent you fulfilling your potential. Take a look at yourself. What do you see? Are you entirely happy with what you've become? It would be very easy to answer questions like these if we were talking about your body. You could tell me instantly whether you had 'let yourself go', or had neglected yourself. But we're looking at the person you've become and are turning into. That's more unusual. It's a vital conversation to have. You could slip into being someone you wouldn't find attractive or interesting without even noticing!
Who are you?
Think about the question, 'who am I?' Be clear. This is not a fixed state of affairs. We need some answers to get clear on our work ahead. In the next few weeks we're going to experiment and try on some new traits, attitudes and airs.
Thought for the week
Everyday, in every way, I get better and better.
Week 2
Who do you want to be?
“I have the right to be as brilliant, talented, resourceful and great as I can possibly be!”
By now, you've had time to take a close look at yourself. You'll probably have identified attitudes or behaviors that you'd prefer to let go of or minimize. That's great. Remember you're a work in progress. Cultivating your character and choosing your demeanor is your prerogative. Not everyone will see the logic of this. You'll find plenty of people who genuinely feel that we just are who we are and there's not a lot you can do about it. This is nonsense. No one would argue you shouldn't work on your body and physical appearance to improve how you look and feel. Refining your psychology and personality should receive equal priority. The big question is: who do you want to be? The answer is - brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous! Aspire to be the best expression of you. This does not mean you lose the essence of you. You aren't going to turn into anyone other than the most perfected version of you that you choose to be.
Get inspired
Right now, sit back for a moment and inspire yourself. Have a vision. See yourself at your fabulous best. Perhaps you're seeing yourself as dynamic, decisive and performing brilliantly at work. Savor the moment. Watch yourself with pride. Let yourself feel excited by your potential unfolding. There is absolutely nothing to stop you from moving into this persona. You'll have a measure of these qualities already. It's a question of increasing some, decreasing others. You need to get specific about the qualities you want to emphasize. How do you want to come across?
Think about the three most impressive people you know. These can be people you've only briefly met or long-standing friends. Identify the quality in each individual that impressed you the most. What is it about them that you find so attractive? Be as precise as possible. Capture that quality for yourself and adopt it. There is no reason why you shouldn't wear those characteristics yourself.
You're in charge
Directing yourself is much easier than you may think. All change begins with a decision. Then, constant vigilance is required to make the changes stick. I'm a completely different person from the one I used to be. I used to be the most intolerant person. I grew sick of being this way and decided to rid myself of this outlook. The change began with that decision. From that day forth I policed my thoughts and words so they reflected a fairer, less prejudiced and detached view of other people. It took time but I can honestly say I've succeeded. I'm the most tolerant person I know. Now, maintenance is all that is required. Refining yourself is interesting. Challenging yourself needn't be hard work and it should never be dreary or worthy. Take all of this seriously but don't get serious with it. Keep yourself light. Please don't make the mistake of thinking you're a long way from where you want to be, and there's so much about yourself you want to change. Berating or belittling yourself serves no useful purpose. It's an indulgence you have no time for. Rid yourself of it.
Thought for the week
I now give myself permission to be dynamic, decisive and optimistic.
Week 3
What do you want?
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that but the really great make you feel that you too can become great.”-- Mark Twain
By now, you're deep into an interesting conversation with yourself about who you are and who you want to be. You have probably grasped that you are constantly in the act of creating yourself and reinforcing who you are. Reinventing yourself is simply you paying attention to 'you' and the life that you're creating. You haven't always been the 'you' that you are now. You may be unrecognizable from the 'you' that you were 20 years ago. Right now, you're standing outside yourself taking a good look and appraising what you see. From your vantage point you can spot what you're up to and how you're carrying yourself through life. To bring about any significant, enduring change you have to look beneath the surface to get to the source of what you believe about you, life and everything. You know it's not enough to simply change your hairstyle. An authentic upgrade has to come from the depths of your being. There's nothing superficial about successful reinvention.
What's your perspective?
You are who you are and what you are not because of your past, but because of your perspective. Breathe deeply and take this in. Assume a different perspective and you will have a different thought about everything. In this way you will have learned to control your thoughts, and to reinvent your life. Controlled thought is everything. Pause for a moment and reflect on your perspective. Immediately you'll notice that you have a perspective on everything. You'll have your very own 'take' on who you are, what your future holds. It's like a filter that you look at life through. It colors everything. All that matters is that you take command of that perspective and ensure it's pointing in the direction you want to be heading.
We’ve all seen older men who look great, hanging around with younger women. Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford are good examples of older men who still attract young, beautiful women. But they needn’t be movie stars. We’ve all seen examples of less than handsome or less than wealthy men who are with gorgeous women who would rob banks for them.
Thought for the week
'I take total responsibility for creating an exciting future. My life is full of wonderful opportunities and surprises.'
The original web address is shown, but I copied, reformatted and clarified/edited for posting here:
How to Reinvent Yourself in 6 Weeks
By Fiona Harrold
http://www.ivillage.co.uk/relationships/famfri/emotwb/articles/0,9546,161285_553896,00.html
(edited by RKTek)
You have far greater control over who you are than you think. Your character, your personality and mental outlook are all in your hands to shape and fashion as you wish. If there's something you dislike about yourself, do something about it. This course will teach you the art of true reinvention - from the inside out. Over the next six weeks, I want you to take a good look at yourself. My plan is to push you to be the best-possible version of yourself, not someone different, just you at your shiny, refined, polished, perfected best. It gets better! You can even decide to take on new qualities, characteristics and an enhanced, spruced-up demeanor of your choice. Over the years I've coached people to move from dithering to decisive, jaded to dynamic, victim to victorious. Life can take a lot out of you. It’s easy to get coated with layers of resignation, cynicism, and self-doubt. It all adds up to a dampening of your spirit, vibrancy and optimism, a shutting down of what's possible for you. I want to slough off those layers, so you see yourself anew. But before we even think about that, we need to make room to throw off
what may be stale or no longer useful.
Week 1
Who are you now?
”'It is never too late to be what you might have been.'” George Eliot
Look at you. Look within.
Truly successful reinvention comes from digging deep into you and pulling out old beliefs and attitudes that restrict you and prevent you fulfilling your potential. Take a look at yourself. What do you see? Are you entirely happy with what you've become? It would be very easy to answer questions like these if we were talking about your body. You could tell me instantly whether you had 'let yourself go', or had neglected yourself. But we're looking at the person you've become and are turning into. That's more unusual. It's a vital conversation to have. You could slip into being someone you wouldn't find attractive or interesting without even noticing!
Who are you?
Think about the question, 'who am I?' Be clear. This is not a fixed state of affairs. We need some answers to get clear on our work ahead. In the next few weeks we're going to experiment and try on some new traits, attitudes and airs.
Thought for the week
Everyday, in every way, I get better and better.
Week 2
Who do you want to be?
“I have the right to be as brilliant, talented, resourceful and great as I can possibly be!”
By now, you've had time to take a close look at yourself. You'll probably have identified attitudes or behaviors that you'd prefer to let go of or minimize. That's great. Remember you're a work in progress. Cultivating your character and choosing your demeanor is your prerogative. Not everyone will see the logic of this. You'll find plenty of people who genuinely feel that we just are who we are and there's not a lot you can do about it. This is nonsense. No one would argue you shouldn't work on your body and physical appearance to improve how you look and feel. Refining your psychology and personality should receive equal priority. The big question is: who do you want to be? The answer is - brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous! Aspire to be the best expression of you. This does not mean you lose the essence of you. You aren't going to turn into anyone other than the most perfected version of you that you choose to be.
Get inspired
Right now, sit back for a moment and inspire yourself. Have a vision. See yourself at your fabulous best. Perhaps you're seeing yourself as dynamic, decisive and performing brilliantly at work. Savor the moment. Watch yourself with pride. Let yourself feel excited by your potential unfolding. There is absolutely nothing to stop you from moving into this persona. You'll have a measure of these qualities already. It's a question of increasing some, decreasing others. You need to get specific about the qualities you want to emphasize. How do you want to come across?
Think about the three most impressive people you know. These can be people you've only briefly met or long-standing friends. Identify the quality in each individual that impressed you the most. What is it about them that you find so attractive? Be as precise as possible. Capture that quality for yourself and adopt it. There is no reason why you shouldn't wear those characteristics yourself.
You're in charge
Directing yourself is much easier than you may think. All change begins with a decision. Then, constant vigilance is required to make the changes stick. I'm a completely different person from the one I used to be. I used to be the most intolerant person. I grew sick of being this way and decided to rid myself of this outlook. The change began with that decision. From that day forth I policed my thoughts and words so they reflected a fairer, less prejudiced and detached view of other people. It took time but I can honestly say I've succeeded. I'm the most tolerant person I know. Now, maintenance is all that is required. Refining yourself is interesting. Challenging yourself needn't be hard work and it should never be dreary or worthy. Take all of this seriously but don't get serious with it. Keep yourself light. Please don't make the mistake of thinking you're a long way from where you want to be, and there's so much about yourself you want to change. Berating or belittling yourself serves no useful purpose. It's an indulgence you have no time for. Rid yourself of it.
Thought for the week
I now give myself permission to be dynamic, decisive and optimistic.
Week 3
What do you want?
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that but the really great make you feel that you too can become great.”-- Mark Twain
By now, you're deep into an interesting conversation with yourself about who you are and who you want to be. You have probably grasped that you are constantly in the act of creating yourself and reinforcing who you are. Reinventing yourself is simply you paying attention to 'you' and the life that you're creating. You haven't always been the 'you' that you are now. You may be unrecognizable from the 'you' that you were 20 years ago. Right now, you're standing outside yourself taking a good look and appraising what you see. From your vantage point you can spot what you're up to and how you're carrying yourself through life. To bring about any significant, enduring change you have to look beneath the surface to get to the source of what you believe about you, life and everything. You know it's not enough to simply change your hairstyle. An authentic upgrade has to come from the depths of your being. There's nothing superficial about successful reinvention.
What's your perspective?
You are who you are and what you are not because of your past, but because of your perspective. Breathe deeply and take this in. Assume a different perspective and you will have a different thought about everything. In this way you will have learned to control your thoughts, and to reinvent your life. Controlled thought is everything. Pause for a moment and reflect on your perspective. Immediately you'll notice that you have a perspective on everything. You'll have your very own 'take' on who you are, what your future holds. It's like a filter that you look at life through. It colors everything. All that matters is that you take command of that perspective and ensure it's pointing in the direction you want to be heading.
We’ve all seen older men who look great, hanging around with younger women. Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford are good examples of older men who still attract young, beautiful women. But they needn’t be movie stars. We’ve all seen examples of less than handsome or less than wealthy men who are with gorgeous women who would rob banks for them.
Thought for the week
'I take total responsibility for creating an exciting future. My life is full of wonderful opportunities and surprises.'