HOW TO REALLY GET OVER HER! (Long read but full of TRUTH!)

[truegame524]

What up...

Ok, my name is R.J. and I'm a former victim of the dreaded "oneitis". I've had a serious case of it not once, but TWICE!

I've been there fellas...the anxiety, the pain of the rejection, the depression, the loss of self-esteem, the lack of interest in anyone else, the death of a "dream". Yes, I know about the obsessive thoughts and inability to focus on anything else but her. It seems like it will never get better at times.

I bought and read almost all of the "get your ex back" programs out there, and bought more than enough books on the subject...

It's all total BULLSH!T!

Now, I'm not selling anything at all here. I have written no e-book that I'm trying to peddle, nor do I have any particular website that I'm trying to promote. This is about one thing and one thing only...

Helping those of you out there who just can't get over "her" (whomever she may be to you)

THE LIE OF "LOW SELF-ESTEEM"

Now, you've probably been told that your inability to get over your ex is a matter of having "low self-esteem".

Do not buy into this. It's is a complete and utter LIE! Not only that, but it's a dangerous lie at that!

Now, it's true that you may have low self-esteem, but self esteem has NOTHING to do with why you can't get over her. If anything, the reason your self-esteem took a hit is because of the lies that you've been believing about women and relationships...

The reason you can't get over your ex is because of what you've been led to believe!

Think about it...if you really lacked "self esteem", then you wouldn't have ever become a couple to begin with!

This is a form of "psychobabble" that a feminism-oriented society has pushed onto men.

Now, if you have NEVER had the ability to build any type of relationship with a woman, regardless of how long it lasted, THEN you probably can say that you're suffering from low self-esteem. However, with most men, that it not the case.

THE REAL REASON YOU CAN'T GET OVER YOUR EX!

Do you want to know the real reason why you can't get over your ex?

It's because of SEX!

YEP! YOU'VE BECOME PU$$Y-WHIPPED!

I know, right about now you're probably having an "Empire Strikes Back" moment. You know what I mean! Luke was short about one hand after getting his A$$ kicked by Darth "I'm a Sith Lord B!TCH" Vader. And while he was trembling and hugging a column like a little BEEYATCH Darth Vader truly f-cks his world up by telling him..."I am your father!" What did Luke say?

"Noooooo! That's not possible!"

Well, search your feelings homies...you know this sh!t to be true!

And, quite frankly, with all the lies that have been forced down your throat since you were a boy, it was inevitable! But, it's not your fault.

Don't believe that it can be that simple? Ok. Let's take a test...

Ask yourself the following questions:

1) If my ex wanted to have sex with me, right now, would that make me feel good?

2) After sex, would I feel better about my "relationship" with her?

3) If my ex said she always wanted to hang out with me or talk to me, but told me that in no way shape, or form would sex be involved would I feel as good as I would if she told me that she really didn't want to hang out, but she definitely wanted to keep having sex indefinitely?

4) What's more painful to imagine?
a) Your ex enjoying herself on a date with another guy?
b) Your ex having mad, passionate, amazing sex with another man?

5) Did you really have a strong physical attraction to your ex?

6) Did you really have a strong sexual bond with your ex?

7) Would it bother you if your ex was in another relationship with a man, but confided to you that she didn't enjoy the sex with him so much and still wanted to have sex with you?

8) Which of the following thoughts cause you more pain:
a) The thought that you may never spend time with your ex again?
b) The thought that you may never have sex with your ex again?

9) If a genie came down and said that you and your ex could be together again, and even get married, but you could not touch her AT ALL, would you still be as determined to be with her as you are now?

If you answered the way I think you did, then you will come to realize that most of your break-up pain and the related obsessive thoughts about your ex are more linked to your physical attraction to your ex and your assessment of the quality of your sexual relationship with her.

This is largely due to the fact that during your relationship with her, this was the only pu$$y you were getting and you became overly attached and dependent upon it.

If you want to quickly get over your ex, you must understand that you have overvalued the sex.

If you think about it, you will realize that it has NOTHING to do with her!

Think about everything you truly enjoyed doing before your ex (outside of sex). Seriously, take a minute and really think about it...

I GUARANTEE THAT EVERY SINGLE THING YOU REMEMBERED, YOU EITHER DID BY YOURSELF, OR YOU DID WITH A MALE FRIEND!

If you're heterosexual (and I assume almost all of the men on this particular board are "straight", given the subject matter at hand) then, the ONLY thing you did NOT do with that male friend is have sex with him!

This is WHAT you're hurting about. You want SEX. AND YOU WANT IT WITH HER!

So, the best way to fix this is to have sex (responsibly, of course) with OTHER ATTRACTIVE WOMEN!

Without a shadow of a doubt, this will "break the spell" your ex currently holds over you.

Now, I can't stress it enough, that you ABSOLUTELY MUST find these woman attractive with whom you have sex. Also, they have to do what you find exciting sexually.

Now, as for your feelings of "heartbreak" and "rejection", well, that comes down to two things:

1) Realizing that there was nothing "magical" or "unique" about her. It was about the sex and your fear that you will never have it with her again.

2) Deciding to view relationships in a different way...(which I'll discuss next).

SO WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? START SEXING UP SOME NEW CHICKS!

 

[truegame524]

What Men are taught & What Women are taught:

Most guys are told a HUGE lie growing up...

We are told that women are "sugar and spice and everything nice"...

Nothing could be farther from the truth!


Women are human beings just like us. They have insecurities, bad habits, personal problems, smelly farts, bad breath, etc...

And guess what? They want SEX, just like us.

Here's what you, as a man, have been taught to believe:

"You're supposed to be the man who is supportive and stable and the provider. You should be dependable, honest, and responsible so as to better cater to your "family's needs" (translation: "wife's needs"). And your wife will respect this and treat you lovingly for taking such good care of her..."

You know what that is?

It's Classic "Nice Guy" or "Average Frustrated Chump" BRAINWASHING!

Basically, you've been told that women are inherently "special" and they are to be respected and treated as such for really what amounts to no other reason than simply being born with a vagina!

Does that make any SENSE?

Do you know why true macks and cats with "game" have no trouble getting women?

IT'S BECAUSE THEY FORCE A WOMAN TO DEMONSTRATE HER TRUE CHARACTER TO DETERMINE WHETHER SHE IS DESERVING OF "RESPECT" AND "SPECIAL TREATMENT" BEFORE GIVING IT TO HER!

Now, while you were being sold that bill of goods, guess what these little angels made of "sugar & spice and everything nice" were being told by their mothers?

"Men are liars, and cheaters, and basically cannot be trusted"

"A man will break your heart if you give it to him"

"A man will never buy the cow if he can get the milk for free"

"You'll find yourself attracted to the 'bad boys' and they're fun, but they won't be good to you. So, eventually, you have to make sure you 'settle down'* with a nice guy who will take care of you."

(* seriously, take a look at the two words that make up the phrase "settle down". Basically, she's SETTLING for the "nice guy" and the word DOWN implies that in no way is he an upgrade!)

Finally, this is what they're being told that truly puts you in harm's way:

"Men are physically stronger and control more resources in this world. But you have ONE thing that evens the playing field...you have your sexuality! You have the power of the PU$$Y. But, your looks won't last forever, so you have to get what you can when you can!"

See the difference?

You have to remember at ALL TIMES that YOU are the PRIZE! Not them!

You gotta make them EARN YOUR RESPECT fellas!

 

[truegame524]

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[truegame524]

THE MYTH OF BEING "IN-LOVE"

A little history lesson:

At the end of the day, being "in-love" is a complete and total fabrication of western society. Only in western, Judeo-Christian society (and yes, I am a Christian) is this myth of "in love" so heavily romanticized. In other cultures, marriage is a matter of maximizing resources. In many other cultures, men usually have the right to marry multiple women...

* Interesting Fact: The Ten Commandments only lists two sexual sins:

1) "Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery" (have sex with a woman who is not your wife)
2) "Thou Shalt Not Covet Another Man's Wife" (desire a woman who is another man's wife).

Now, adultery is simply the act of having sex with a woman who is NOT your wife. This means that you can have 10 wives and NEVER ONCE COMMIT ADULTERY!

Also, desiring another man's wife is off limits, but the commandments say nothing of desiring a woman who is of age and is NO ONE'S wife yet!

Now, during this period of time in history, polygamy was common. Many men in the Bible had multiple wives. King Solomon was considered the wisest man in history and was highly favored by God. Yet, the Bible, in describing him, tells us that "Solomon had MANY wives".

So, where did this RIDICULOUS concept of MONOGAMY come from?

It came from religious laws (namely the Catholic church) and tribal laws that limited the number of wives a male with lesser standing could have, but had no such limits on those of higher standing within the tribe.

Think about it: before the Mayans and Incas, Vikings, and Africans, and Mongolians, and Chinese, and East Indians, and Middle Easterners KNEW THE OTHER GROUPS EVEN EXISTED EVERY CULTURE OPERATED UNDER THIS SAME GUIDELINE:

ONE MAN...MANY WOMEN...

 

[Corona]

I can't get over my ex, but the thing is she was pretty disappointing in bed.

What's my problem?

 

[armadon]

I can't get over my ex, but the thing is she was pretty disappointing in bed.

What's my problem?

You don't want to cut your right hand off.

 

[truegame524]

It's not necessarily about how "good" the sex was...

I can't get over my ex, but the thing is she was pretty disappointing in bed.

What's my problem?

For many dudes, it's about the fact that she was "giving" you sex period. Most men have come to regard getting some a$$ as a "prize". It's a sign of some kind to a lot of us.

She can be "disappointing" in bed, and still you may miss the physical connection you had with her.

Answer a few questions for me:

1) What is it that you miss about her?

2) How have you fared with women overall?

3) Was this the only sexual relationship you were involved with at the time?

4) Are you involved sexually with a woman currently?

 

[Corona]

Nah, I never regard women (or puss) as the "prize". I haven't had one-itis since I was a 16.
If anything, she was begging for the cock, and I was doing her a favor by giving it to her.

1) What is it that you miss about her?

She was one of the rare women I respected (and the only one I've truly loved). She had all the qualities I looked for in a women (intelligent, fun, confident, attractive, etc), so i was willing to overlook her shortcomings, like being bad in bed.

2) How have you fared with women overall?

I've been on top of my game since 2005. I can get attractive women pretty easily.

3) Was this the only sexual relationship you were involved with at the time?

In the beginning, no, but later, yes.

4) Are you involved sexually with a woman currently?

No. I've dated girls but none of them seem to measure up to her so it's not worth it to me to get sexually involved with them. I'm different than your average PUA/manwhore in that I will only sex a girl if I have strong feelings or a commited relationship -- no more ONS like back in the day.

 

[truegame524]

I'm sorry man, but you're posing...

Look, this is probably going to piss you off, but you're absolutely lying to yourself. You're probably going to consider me an a$$hole for saying this stuff, but honestly, I'm only trying to help.

See, everything you're saying is completely contradictory to what you claim you actually are. You're not a mack, or a player, or a pick-up artist yet. You sound like an AFC or Nice Guy who's in DENIAL!

Nah, I never regard women (or puss) as the "prize". I haven't had one-itis since I was a 16.

Well, if that was true Corona, then you wouldn't be having a problem getting over this particular girl. You absolutely HAVE considered this woman a prize. And without a doubt, you have placed her on a pedestal. (if you disagree, allow me to refer to several statements you made in your last post prove this.)

If anything, she was begging for the cock, and I was doing her a favor by giving it to her.

Nice try, but once again this is bullsh-t. Man, you weren't doing her any "favors" by subjecting yourself to less than great sex. If anything, you were just happy to be in her presence because of how you overvalued her.

She was one of the rare women I respected (and the only one I've truly loved).

"Rare Women"??? This right here is the reason you're still an AFC. There is no such thing as a "rare woman", Corona. Actually, I take that back...this woman DOES exist...

THAT "RARE WOMAN" IS YOUR MOTHER!

She had all the qualities I looked for in a women (intelligent, fun, confident, attractive, etc), so i was willing to overlook her shortcomings, like being bad in bed.

I'm black, and we have a couple of slang terms for the type of women you describe as attractive, but offering nothing else of value: We called them "hoodrats" or "chickenheads".

Likewise, we called the "rare women" you describe "dimes" or "dime-pieces".

I don't date hoodrats or chickenheads. I date dimes and dimes only.

Ok, so what you're telling me is that intelligent, fun, confident, attractive women are..."rare"? Ummm, a real Mack/PUA ONLY deals with this type of woman anyway! These women aren't rare at all. They're all over the place. For some reason you simply haven't been approaching them or meeting them. Why weren't you kicking it with 3 other women just like her in the first place?

I've been on top of my game since 2005. I can get attractive women pretty easily.

That's why I see so many flaws in your game. You're basically telling me that you're great at picking up hoodrats, but you don't know how to mack the dimes out there.

You've only been on top of your game as it applies to getting women you truly don't like or respect as much. Getting women who are solely Attractive women is not the measure of a PUA or a Mack. It's getting the women you actually "like".

Man, the only reason you haven't had "oneitis" since 16 is because you haven't been routinely picking up the type of woman you actually find yourself fully attracted to. And the reason you get these attractive women with no problem is precisely because you do not give them that special level of respect. You don't give them some ridiculous title of "rare".

In the beginning, no, but later, yes.

Ok...so, as I said earlier, a lack of sexual partners is definitely a cause of oneitis.

No. I've dated girls but none of them seem to measure up to her so it's not worth it to me to get sexually involved with them. I'm different than your average PUA/manwhore in that I will only sex a girl if I have strong feelings or a commited relationship -- no more ONS like back in the day.

None of them seem to measure up to her? Dude, you placed her on a pedestal. You left yourself with no options and as a result, you began to think of this woman as a rare commodity that you couldn't find elsewhere. Whoever said you have to be a one-night-stand artist to sex a variety of women.

"strong feelings", "committed relationship", "the only one I've truly loved"

Man, you still haven't let go of the fairy tale yet about "finding love". You're trying to reconcile your desire to "feel in love" with the methods and beliefs necessary to truly attract and keep quality women.

When you got with this girl, you stopped viewing yourself as the prize. You still lack the necessary view of yourself that makes you believe:

A) ANY and EVERY woman is fortunate to be able to spend time with you

and

B) The women you describe as truly worthy of your "respect" (actually, it's not your respect, but your pedestal of which you find them worthy) EXIST IN ABUNDANCE!

It's as simple as that, Corona.