How to play catching her in lie?

[DarthJuan]

Caught girl in a big lie.
She knows I know. I haven't seen her since to bring it up.

After the initial shock and hurt, I'm actually handling it pretty well, thanks to stuff I'm learning here.
Well, I still have some moments, where it stings like hell.

The next time I see her, should I calmly lay it on heavy and tear her down a few pegs (the only thing that seems to really work with her...she's got hella ***** shields and plenty of other guys for options to distract her).

Or just play it off like I don't really care.

BTW, cutting all contact doesn't work with her. Doesn't faze her. We practically work side-by-side.
So it just gives her extra boy drama to ***** about with her friends.

Though, she really cares about what I think about her though. So I'm trying to parlay some advantage out of this situation.

I'm thinking of opting for the lay-it-on-heavy. And let her simmer in her guilt.

Thanks.

 

[FRëSHURE]

Originally posted by DarthJuan
Caught girl in a big lie.
She knows I know. I haven't seen her since to bring it up.

After the initial shock and hurt, I'm actually handling it pretty well, thanks to stuff I'm learning here.
Well, I still have some moments, where it stings like hell.

The next time I see her, should I calmly lay it on heavy and tear her down a few pegs (the only thing that seems to really work with her...she's got hella ***** shields and plenty of other guys for options to distract her).

Or just play it off like I don't really care.

BTW, cutting all contact doesn't work with her. Doesn't faze her. We practically work side-by-side.
So it just gives her extra boy drama to ***** about with her friends.

Though, she really cares about what I think about her though. So I'm trying to parlay some advantage out of this situation.

I'm thinking of opting for the lay-it-on-heavy. And let her simmer in her guilt.

Thanks.

I dont get your post.

it makes no sense.

But go find a seinfeld episode where george tells his dead bride-to-be's parents that he has a place in the hamptons. They find out he is lying. And they punish him in the best possible way.

 

[flexion_]

This "girl" doesn't sound very important - some chick you work with... so why you getting all bent out of shape?

 

[DJDamage]

It all depends on what the lie is and since you forgot to tell us or don't want to, we cannot give you a proper response to your question.

DjDamage

 

[DarthJuan]

Originally posted by DJDamage
It all depends on what the lie is and since you forgot to tell us or don't want to, we cannot give you a proper response to your question.

DjDamage

Sorry about the confusing post.

Seen her out with another guy later that night, after our date ended earlier in the evening.

She knows I saw her out with another guy.

Just trying to game her. To parlay an advantage out of this.

We're not exclusive. But she has always played up how honest she is. And how I can trust her.

And yeah, she's my one-itis.

 

[BrotherAP]

If somebody truly cares how you think, you can hurt them most with complete and udder disinterest

Nothing hurts than being treated like you don't exist. You can't even respond to that. Even being hated is better than being ignored.


BrotherAP

 

[Boner da Stoner]

10 different girls told me 10 different lies, if I asked you guys to tell me how I'd deal with that SITUATION you would break down the situation... but that is not always the case...

What little punky brewster here is asking is this girl is hot, or thinks she is, can attract guys, and I am around to entertain her. I could be more, but she's already got an opinion of me and it's one of dissassociation, it doesn;t matter if I'm here or not... she thinks like a DON JUAN, guys are just guys, the special one is out there somewhere, and the ones I'm chilling with right now are just for drama, or experience... She can sleep with them, and of course it's easy, but her emotions are cranked up and those are what give her the trouble, on the other side of things the guy has to work to do his part... so what is my part now?

She lied to me, what can I do to play with her emotions?

lay it on heavy? Or shrug it off like the lie didn't matter?
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My two cents is that you fell for the lie, and you took the time to realize it was there, it is wrong to you, to her, and to the human race, to pretend that the lie didn't matter if it did in even a miniscule way...

Layiny it on heavy? if that seems to work, why are you worrying about it? You should have layed it on heavy immediately to get the full flavour to both of you, hell she would have probably bumped uglies with you!

My advice since it is too late now, is to treat her like scum, punish her for being a ***** or whatever she was to make you question her so badly. Make her chase you, call her a liar to her face, insinuate it in fornt of other people so she can;t say anything to either of you... when you get her alone she WILL bring up the subject... and the ball will be back in your court...

 

[Boner da Stoner]

lol what Freshure said... new but a natural I guess

when you do get around her don;t respond to anything she says, pretend she is invisible... only when it seems like she is about to snap say something under your breath to get her to commit to her mistake... than continue the torture and she will begin to faulter...

If she really is your one-itis you've got to remember that girl are manipulative, they justify their actions differently, most have a plan in life, and afc's get in the way as they give her no new knowledge, but they are good stepping stones to making other guys jealous... or to experiment new ways to manipulate people with... sometimes they get friends and what not to do it on, but then you get stalkers and that is scary.

What I'm trying to say is, she knows you are in love with her, and any other guy who comes her way and can just SAY that he can see that in you will have earned 10 points in her manliness book.

A girl can say she is honest at the drop of her hat while she drowns your goldfish in water.

 

[flexion_]

You aren't exclusive... who cares if she is going out with another guy?

Your action should be nothing as she hasn't lied to you or done anything wrong based on what you are saying.

Your oneitis is the problem not her.

 

[DarthJuan]

she thinks like a DON JUAN, guys are just guys, [/B]

Thanks for the advice. Your description pretty much nailed her spot on.

She's definitely a female Don Juan.
She use to be the really committed type, till her long-term boyfriend dumped her. She tried to find some other LTR's, but ended up only meeting players that lied and used her.

Now she's apparently on an all boys suck-ass trip. And is trying to turn the tables and being the player herself.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by DarthJuan
yada yada yada We're not exclusive...

Then you suck it up cheif. Sorry to burst your bubble but until you establish a relationship then you really don't have a legg to stand on.

So you saw her with another guy? Shes probably playing the feild because you don't date her exclusively. And now you're wondering how to use this to your advantage? I don't mean to offend but that's something a girl would do. You on the other hand are DJ, you really shouldn't care.

If she's trying to be a player then let her have at it. Work on nailing her, that'd be the best way to "bring her down a peg" or two.

 

[DarthJuan]

Originally posted by flexion_
Your oneitis is the problem not her.

Yeah, that's definitely part of it. But I'm a little better than I use to be. Jesus Christ was I bad.


But the innocent don't run off hiding their heads in shame under the arms of someone else when you see them. As they try and shuttle off and disappear into a crowd. And try and hide and watch to see if you've left yet for them to sneak away without a confrontation.

I asked her earlier in the night if she was seeing someone else. She said "no" with that what-kind-of-girl-do-you-think-I-am tone of voice.

 

[Tazman]

As some have mentioned, if you're not "exclusive," it really doesn't matter. She lied, but she has no obligation to you. If you make a big issue out of this you will look desperate and weak (don't get me wrong, it's definitely normal for you to feel this way, but it means nothing in this particular instance). Can you not see based on her actions that she's not worth getting hung up on? I say quit while you're ahead as nothing good can come of this "confrontation."

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by DarthJuan
Thanks for the advice. Your description pretty much nailed her spot on.

She's definitely a female Don Juan.
She use to be the really committed type, till her long-term boyfriend dumped her. She tried to find some other LTR's, but ended up only meeting players that lied and used her.

Now she's apparently on an all boys suck-ass trip. And is trying to turn the tables and being the player herself.

:cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:

for the millionth time, there is no Female DJ!!!

No such thing!

First of all, your mistake is this... you are trying to get us to give you the correct answer to give to her action, so she can give you the reaction you want. In other words, you want to make her feel a certain way.

She's a big (single) girl, she can do whatever she wants to do.. You were the one that was neive enough to be her AFC stickaround guy.

You don't not have a reaction to it because it will "make her think that you don't care"

You just don't care.

You dont' cut off all contact with her to "get to her" or get worried that it "doesn't phase her" you do it because she isn't playing on your terms and you have better **** to do with your life.

She didn't do anything but go on 2 dates in one day.. hell, give her around of applause.



My other point.. No such thing as a Female DJ.

2 reasons. First of all, a DJ isn't a person who is a player or good with the opposite sex.. at least that's not the only reason he is a DJ.

My dad is a true mack, but I wouldn't call him anything close to a DJ. He is just good with women, which is one of the many faces of being a DJ.

A DJ is someone who is driven, has goals in life, never puts women in front of his goals, always stirves to better himself and never looses his passion for life, as that would be the death of his soul (stole that one from pook).

By doing all of these things, women come by default. You make yourself so attractive to women they have to chase you, or at least smart enough to see that you are a man amoung boys.

That's the first reason why a woman can't be a DJ.

The second, in regards to the relationship game, is this.. to you, it's a challange, it's a game of high risks. I am very successful with women but it's still like that.

Now, I don't like this, and it shouldn't be like this, but the way society has brainwashed everyone and the whole feminism thing, an above average looking girl will have more opportunities with the opposite sex then the your average True DJ, great looks, money, everything. (note I didn't say more sex or more partners, I said opprtunties)

When you have that many choices, it's no game. I used this analogy a while back, but it's like playing say.. Resident Evil, with unlimited ammo and a ****load f herbs or medic sprays.. it's no game, you know you are going to win.

She isn't playing a "game with you", she will drop you because if she is decent, she probably can go to the gas station and have a guy hit on her. I'f had guys hit on my girl while I was dancing with her.

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

1) she's not obligated to you

2) we all lie for various reasons and it doesnt mean we're trying to play you or use you (men and women)

3) she's not the only woman on earth. There are plenty of fish in the sea, if you catch her and she still wants to swim around a little let her swim and cast your line out for other fish

4) your life is larger than one situation. Make sure you understand that and make sure she knows that you understand that.