A smoking Blonde is making Eye Contact with you. You’re ready to go over there and spit your game, but that little voice inside your mind is trying to convince you not to.
* What if she already has a boyfriend?
* She might look at me and start laughing
* She wasn’t making eye contact with me, she was looking at the bartender behind me
That my friend is called approach anxiety.
It’s one of the biggest problems for men trying to be womanizers, and it’s something you have to get over. I’m just going to get straight to the point and tell you what you can do.
Use Your Wingman
Okay guys, a wingman is NOT just there to talk to the “fat friend”. He can motivate you to approach and remind you why you’re there in the first place. Another thing I like to do is have a bet of some sorts. Whoever gets the most numbers, loser buys shots.
Make Positive Affirmations to Yourself
To make an affirmation is to make a statement. Making a positive statement to yourself could give you the confidence boost to take you from watching her, to approaching her. Some things you can tell yourself
* I’m a quality guy, she’ll be lucky to have me approach her
* I look great tonight, she’s a lesbian if she’s not attracted to me
* I’m the best!
The point is to say whatever can bring up your confidence boost. I suggest you make these statements before you enter the place, that way people’s first impressions of you is that you’re confident and here to have fun. Maybe she’ll approach you!
That ***** is Ugly
This is something I made up, I don’t know the word for it. When people see a girl and they have anxiety, it’s because they think she’s too good looking for them (come on it’s looks, you’re not scared of her because you think she has a great personality or something) . What I tell myself is that she’s ugly and I’ve been with girls WAY better looking then her. I put MYSELF on a higher level than her. Last time I checked, it’s easy to approach a girl you think is ugly because you have nothing to lose!
The 3 Second Rule
When you first enter the place, approach the FIRST girl you see making eye contact with you within 3 seconds. You don’t have time to “convince” yourself not to approach, you’re just going to do it. You know what, the first approach is always the hardest to do. Once you get over it, you build momentum! (my physics professor would be so proud)
What’s the Worst That Can Happen? What’s the Best?
My worst was when I went to a girl on the dance floor and tried to dance with her. She grabbed her friend’s hand and walked away from me! Sure I felt like **** when it happened, but looking back it wasn’t too bad. I got over it and approached more that night.
My best? I took her home and had sex with her that night.
In the future if I ever want to compared the worst and the best, the benefits of the best will outweigh the negatives of the worst.
Reach Between Your Legs
Do you have anything there? My friend, those two things are called balls, and guys that have them aren’t going to be too ***** to say “hi” to a girl. So if you’re trying to convince yourself to back down, just give them a firm squeeze to remind yourself what you have (don’t make it too obvious you’re squeezing them, looks kinda creepy)
Approach Anxiety is very common in men. You can either get over it and be the guy talking to all the ladies, or standing by the wall wishing you were that guy.
* What if she already has a boyfriend?
* She might look at me and start laughing
* She wasn’t making eye contact with me, she was looking at the bartender behind me
That my friend is called approach anxiety.
It’s one of the biggest problems for men trying to be womanizers, and it’s something you have to get over. I’m just going to get straight to the point and tell you what you can do.
Use Your Wingman
Okay guys, a wingman is NOT just there to talk to the “fat friend”. He can motivate you to approach and remind you why you’re there in the first place. Another thing I like to do is have a bet of some sorts. Whoever gets the most numbers, loser buys shots.
Make Positive Affirmations to Yourself
To make an affirmation is to make a statement. Making a positive statement to yourself could give you the confidence boost to take you from watching her, to approaching her. Some things you can tell yourself
* I’m a quality guy, she’ll be lucky to have me approach her
* I look great tonight, she’s a lesbian if she’s not attracted to me
* I’m the best!
The point is to say whatever can bring up your confidence boost. I suggest you make these statements before you enter the place, that way people’s first impressions of you is that you’re confident and here to have fun. Maybe she’ll approach you!
That ***** is Ugly
This is something I made up, I don’t know the word for it. When people see a girl and they have anxiety, it’s because they think she’s too good looking for them (come on it’s looks, you’re not scared of her because you think she has a great personality or something) . What I tell myself is that she’s ugly and I’ve been with girls WAY better looking then her. I put MYSELF on a higher level than her. Last time I checked, it’s easy to approach a girl you think is ugly because you have nothing to lose!
The 3 Second Rule
When you first enter the place, approach the FIRST girl you see making eye contact with you within 3 seconds. You don’t have time to “convince” yourself not to approach, you’re just going to do it. You know what, the first approach is always the hardest to do. Once you get over it, you build momentum! (my physics professor would be so proud)
What’s the Worst That Can Happen? What’s the Best?
My worst was when I went to a girl on the dance floor and tried to dance with her. She grabbed her friend’s hand and walked away from me! Sure I felt like **** when it happened, but looking back it wasn’t too bad. I got over it and approached more that night.
My best? I took her home and had sex with her that night.
In the future if I ever want to compared the worst and the best, the benefits of the best will outweigh the negatives of the worst.
Reach Between Your Legs
Do you have anything there? My friend, those two things are called balls, and guys that have them aren’t going to be too ***** to say “hi” to a girl. So if you’re trying to convince yourself to back down, just give them a firm squeeze to remind yourself what you have (don’t make it too obvious you’re squeezing them, looks kinda creepy)
Approach Anxiety is very common in men. You can either get over it and be the guy talking to all the ladies, or standing by the wall wishing you were that guy.
