How to overcome the age difference?

[PEPE LE PIU]

Hello people of sosuave

I need your help please. I meet this chick from a female friend. Se is 20 and single. I am 28. So we went out all together, me, her and our friend. It was a great evening, we laughed, we talked, I didn't kino (kicking myself for that), we didn't exchange # (opened a hole in the wall with my head for that). Today I talked to my friend and she told me that she liked me a lot but her main concern and the reason to turn me down is the age difference. Not again .

This is the third girl that turns me down for the same reason. Generally speaking I don't look my age nor physically, nor the way I dress. I had some success with women around my age (some of them needed to be chased with a stick to go away, in a metaphoric way).

I really like this girl and I know how not to appear needy. But I need advice how to overcome this barrier. I think I may have another chance with her because I paid the whole bill (they are both college students) and she stated that she owes me next time. She even reminded me that when we separated. So any advice for the next time I meet her? More kino maybe? Anything else?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

How's the age difference holding you back?

 

[PEPE LE PIU]

It is not holding me back. It is holding her back. She thinks that I am too old for her.

 

[Mr. Me]

So any advice for the next time I meet her?

Yes. Get her number.

Anything else?

Yes. A few things, just to cover all bases. You think it's that perhaps you didn't kino her, but I think you could tighten up your game better.

For example, besides Number 1 that you didn't get the number... You relied on feedback from your female friend. But what if the female friend has her eye on you and is telling you falsehoods to discourage you from pursuing her friends? Or maybe she doesn't have any designs on you but is jealous of the attention you give her girlfriends? Or you keep her company and she's lonely and she doesn't want you dating and then be unavailable to her? You don't know what's going on in her head, so please don't make any excuses for her.

If women are telling you personally to your face that the problem is the age difference, I'd wonder if maybe I should just stay mute about my age and kid around when they ask. Str8tup posted about how he turns it around, for example, by kidding them, asking them if they're mature enough to be with, thus putting them in a position to qualify themselves.

I'd also wonder if perhaps the real reason they're not interested has to do with something else and that they're using age as an excuse. If you start deflecting their questions about age and knock that out of the equation, you'll find out.

 

[MacAvoy]

This is the best response I've seen so far, it comes from STR8UP, its called Using your age to your advantage with younger women. It basically turns the tables on them and makes them qualify themselves to you. Although it may be a little late for you.

Lately I have been formulating a theory of how being an older man might actually be able to work to your ADVANTAGE when hooking up with younger women.

It crossed my mind that the way I treat my age (nonchalantly, almost with pride) might actually work to my advantage. My last g/f had just turned 21 when I met her. She told me later in the relationship that she never would have thought she would be seeing a guy that was 10 years older. Somehow I managed to pull a hot chick that was quite a bit younger and at least on the surface was opposed to dating an older man.

When I started dating her I was 31 and she was barely 21. I met her at a club and after hanging out with her and her group a few times we were standing outside the club after hours and the subject of age came up. I told them how old I was, then asked how old they were. She said "21" and her friend said "19". My eyes got real wide and I said, "HOLY SH1T! We aren't going to get arrested for talking to you, ARE WE????"

The way I see it, when the subject of age came up she was already at least slightly attracted to me. By turning the tables and making it look like I thought she was REALLY young it diffused her thoughts of me being "old" and in effect made it to where SHE had to qualify herself to me instead of th other way around.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

I think I may have another chance with her because I paid the whole bill (they are both college students) and she stated that she owes me next time.

Means nothing. Her actions will speak for her.

The age difference excuse is just her female way of letting you know that she's not interested. She probably wouldn't be interested in Matt Damon either considering he's 37 and all..

However, if you keep throwing money at her and it works, then come back and tell us the whole story. EG: The time frame, how much you spent, what she let you do sexually, etc. :cheer:


FYI, I've been with 18yo girls (plural) when I was 30-31 years old and it only cost me about $6 USD each. Movie rentals and popcorn are pricey

 

[Adam007]

just take her no. and call her..................

 

[Last Man Standing]

Tell girls you are 24 - once a woman builds an emotional bond with you then age won't matter once you tell them the truth!!

 

[STR8UP]

It is not holding me back. It is holding her back. She thinks that I am too old for her.

It's holding HER back because YOU projected insecurity, I would bet.

There's only ONE way to deal with younger women, and that's to treat them like they have to PROVE they are mature enough to be able to hang with you.

"You're only 20? Awwww....you're sooooo cute....."

"WOW, you're ONLY 21? You're just a BABY!"

And keep it up. She will likely get agitated, but at the same time she will do WHATEVER it takes to prove her "maturity" to you. If she tries to flip the script, stick to your guns and you will be neck deep in the pu$$y in no time.

 

[bigjohnson]

It's holding HER back because YOU projected insecurity, I would bet.

Bingo. Women, despite feminists best efforts to reprogram them, are wired to desire certain traits in a male and a healthy older man who has established his value pushes all her buttons in all the right ways.

Screwing it up because you believe your feminist produced programming is always possible if you wish, however.


When I've been in that sort of situation I sometimes do what STR8 posted (in general terms) and in a funny way.

"So, are you old enough to drive or will I need to drive you home later?"
"Are you sure you can get in this place?"
"When does your mom make you come home by?"

But not overdoing it. The only thing you have to neutralize is the propaganda her friends are going to be potentially putting into her, and you can do that by just reinforcing what her innate wiring is already telling her.

 

[Ever onward]

This is all in your head. Let it go. As long as you carry that limiting belief about yourself, it will be true.

I used to have that same limiting belief about my age but I let it go. Once I stopped worrying about it, it stopped holding me back.

I then had a 20 year old girlfriend when I was 28. Age was not an issue AT ALL. The following year I went out with a 19 year old.

Right now I have a 25 year old (just turned 25 two months ago) crazy in love with me.

As long as you think your age is a problem, it will be.

 

[lookyoung]

It is not holding me back. It is holding her back. She thinks that I am too old for her.

She probably is not interested in you and is using age as an excuse. Do you think if she ran into Leonardo dicaprio who is 33 and Mark wahlberg who I believe is 36 she would turn them down. I bet she would go home with them and there would not be an issue about age.

Social and Power status trumps everything even looks. Woman want a man that they could look up too. They want a man who is strong and confident. Be strong and confident.

Hit the gym.
Martial arts.
Have sex with beautiful girls.
Achieve your goals( Education, athletic, etcccc....

All these things help your confidence and when your confident pu$$y will come crawling your way.

Woman are woman the same game that you use on a 31 year old or a 51 year old will work on a 21 year old. Its not that complicated. I know a powerful man in his 50's who is a top ortho surgeon who could fvck girls in there 20's if he wanted too.


AGE DOESN"T MATTER AS MUCH AS YOU THINK.

 

[PEPE LE PIU]

Thanks everyone. Very useful info in all your replies. So to sum it up I have to start reading again and to try to improve my game. In this situation age was a polite excuse of her to say NO.

@STR8UP: no I didn't project any insecurity, I think. I believe I was more cordial than I should but without flirting. I think I used way too much funny and no ****y at all. BTW your examples seem very interesting. I will try to use them next time

@ER!C L!VE: So true... Two weeks now and I don't have any news.

I told my friend to remind her friend that she owes me a coffee. I can't believe that I have fallen so low. Anyway the next time I chatted with my friend her response was "I haven't seen her", "I will tell her" or something like that. Who needs this cr@p? As far as I can tell her IL is below 0 so it will probably cost me a lot of energy to get somewhere. So I am going to try somewhere else, but not right now. Education comes first so back to The Bible

 

[PEPE LE PIU]

Have sex with beautiful girls.

That is exactly what I am trying to do here

 

[LoneSilver]

I use to think oh hell so shes 22 or 21 or 20 or 23 or 24.

Until I really came to terms with this lower age bracket that your brain is still in the maturing or coping skills stage until your 25 so say the doctors.

So being the age I am now I would feel guilty of sorts if I screwed someone that age. I would think I took advanage of her for just showing an interest and just knowing regardless of how mature she might act or how hot her body is she's still not complete in the brain when it comes to discision making. Someone might ask so why would I care so much? Simply it's part of becoming mature as a real man instead of just gettin' the *****.

So with that said anything past 25 to 50 will do me but they must have a nice firm ass and have a sense of humor and have a love of all animals since I am an active member of the WWF.

LoneSilver