How to not get emotionally attached?

[Tomo]

You guys know my life: filled with my studies, my hobbies and sports. I've got a solid social circle and an even larger one of woman I am frequently in contact with. Normally I'll have at least two woman of interest I am into. Yet it keeps f**ken happening regardless what I do. Sooner or later I will meet a woman or develop feelings for another and guess what... You guessed it, I get overworked, over-hyped and then I come crashing down when nothing happens between her and I or I get shut down. Many a times an opportunistic lay has presented itself but yet this only has ever happened whilst these woman have had a few to drink.

I've had enough of this. I really don't know how to attack this because I've done all the generic things everyone suggests here. The focusing on hobbies, the pursuit of furthering your career, the spinning of plates, its all good and well but when you've got all that sorted but the quality woman field is still lacking, it kind of draws even further attention to it.

So how do you guys do it? I feel my game has continue to improve with each day yet it is in the head mentally I cannot control anything.

 

[jester1x]

You're going to have to learn to recognize when you start reacting to a woman's behavior versus being proactive. It takes practice to ingrain this new behavior or mindset. Besides, women know when you are trying to turn a friendship into something more. The key is finding one that is open to it.

The irony is that you are developing feelings for a woman when you take a particular interest in her. Also, these women may see you as a male buddy in their social circle who they find attractive as a friend but not as a potential lover.

Maybe makes some subtle moves on women you don't see on a regular basis. They are not a part of your social circle and won't "tarnish" your reputation among the other female members of the social circle.

If a girl rejects you act as though it didn't bother you and continue with the group. Sometimes, women do change their minds about a guy. But, I think seeing someone outside of that social circle is a win win for you. You may meet a woman that really does want you in that way. Plus, you don't inadvertently end up as the friend/orbiter in your social circle. I bet a majority of the guys in your group are either exes or guys who were not successful in getting past the "friend" stage.

 

[zinc4]

You guys know my life: filled with my studies, my hobbies and sports. I've got a solid social circle and an even larger one of woman I am frequently in contact with. Normally I'll have at least two woman of interest I am into. Yet it keeps f**ken happening regardless what I do. Sooner or later I will meet a woman or develop feelings for another and guess what... You guessed it, I get overworked, over-hyped and then I come crashing down when nothing happens between her and I or I get shut down. Many a times an opportunistic lay has presented itself but yet this only has ever happened whilst these woman have had a few to drink.

I've had enough of this. I really don't know how to attack this because I've done all the generic things everyone suggests here. The focusing on hobbies, the pursuit of furthering your career, the spinning of plates, its all good and well but when you've got all that sorted but the quality woman field is still lacking, it kind of draws even further attention to it.

So how do you guys do it? I feel my game has continue to improve with each day yet it is in the head mentally I cannot control anything.

How to do it??? I guess just think about sex...i mean for me, even if the girl is really hot, her attractiveness is literally cut in half in my view after i get her into bed the first time...it's the initial bedding of a girl that makes me so interested at first....so i guess it's just a natural thing or something....but it has nothing to do with feelings...only sex...or a conquest type of thing...

I honestly don't see how guys get emotionally attached in the first place......unless you have known her for years and it's like a family type of feeling or something or friendship...just think of her as an object for sex...women say they don't like that, but it's all BS...they like the person who cares the least about them provided they also find that person somewhat physically attractive....i will even joke with them and tell them how much i missed them or enjoy talking to them acting beta on purpose but at the same time obviously being insincere...almost in a mocking manner...,....after all, 99 percent of them are ONLY good for sex, and once you bang them once that value drops tremendously...