Hello,
For my first post in this forum, let me introduce myself. I am 33 years old guy. I think I am rather attractive (I catch women looking at me pretty much everyday) and I also don’t consider myself an idiot, I have lived in many countries and I can speak six languages. But I am eternally single !
The main problem is my extreme shyness (which pretty much ruined every aspect of my life). My low self-esteem also played a major role in my loneliness.
Whenever a woman showed signs of interest to me, I would create little scenarios in my head to convince myself that it she was anything but interested in me, after all how could she have any interest in me ? I was worthless!
After a lot of introspection, I realized that it was rubbish, that I am an interesting person and that I have a lot of things to offer. Now, based on my observations I am convinced I could get almost any girl I want but I have one last major obstacle, motivation!
I initially thought that I never approached women I was interested to because I was scared or rejections, because I was ashamed of my sexual desires and I was afraid of what other people (I don’t even know btw) might say or think. It was pretty clear to me THAT was my problem…. and then I discovered meditation.
About three years ago, I discovered Vipassana meditation which helped me monitor my thoughts and feelings as they arise and one day, as I was sitting in the subway right in front of a hot chick who kept looking at me, my problem became obvious to me.
My problem is that whenever I see a woman I am attracted to, instead of going to talk to her, I think that “it is too much work” “I have other things to do to day” “I am to busy” “it is not worth it”. Only to regret not making a move an hour later.
Has anybody in this forum went trough this ? Could anybody give me some tips to motivated myself in those situations?
I am angry at myself because I have the conviction that pickup up chicks should be the easiest thing in the world for me, yet when it is time for action my motivation inexplicably disappears!
By the way, I am not the who go to clubs and bars to pick up women, I find it pointless, first of all, I am a rather solitary man, so I go there alone, bored as hell, having to endure horrible music not knowing what to do with myself. I would prefer picking up chicks anywhere else, the street, the supermarket, the bus, anywhere else !
Thank you
For my first post in this forum, let me introduce myself. I am 33 years old guy. I think I am rather attractive (I catch women looking at me pretty much everyday) and I also don’t consider myself an idiot, I have lived in many countries and I can speak six languages. But I am eternally single !
The main problem is my extreme shyness (which pretty much ruined every aspect of my life). My low self-esteem also played a major role in my loneliness.
Whenever a woman showed signs of interest to me, I would create little scenarios in my head to convince myself that it she was anything but interested in me, after all how could she have any interest in me ? I was worthless!
After a lot of introspection, I realized that it was rubbish, that I am an interesting person and that I have a lot of things to offer. Now, based on my observations I am convinced I could get almost any girl I want but I have one last major obstacle, motivation!
I initially thought that I never approached women I was interested to because I was scared or rejections, because I was ashamed of my sexual desires and I was afraid of what other people (I don’t even know btw) might say or think. It was pretty clear to me THAT was my problem…. and then I discovered meditation.
About three years ago, I discovered Vipassana meditation which helped me monitor my thoughts and feelings as they arise and one day, as I was sitting in the subway right in front of a hot chick who kept looking at me, my problem became obvious to me.
My problem is that whenever I see a woman I am attracted to, instead of going to talk to her, I think that “it is too much work” “I have other things to do to day” “I am to busy” “it is not worth it”. Only to regret not making a move an hour later.
Has anybody in this forum went trough this ? Could anybody give me some tips to motivated myself in those situations?
I am angry at myself because I have the conviction that pickup up chicks should be the easiest thing in the world for me, yet when it is time for action my motivation inexplicably disappears!
By the way, I am not the who go to clubs and bars to pick up women, I find it pointless, first of all, I am a rather solitary man, so I go there alone, bored as hell, having to endure horrible music not knowing what to do with myself. I would prefer picking up chicks anywhere else, the street, the supermarket, the bus, anywhere else !
Thank you
