how to massage

avrilishot

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 16, 2005
Messages
236
Reaction score
0
Age
37
well I find this info pretty good so here you go guys.

How to Give a Great Massage
Men - do you want a great way to get her "ready and receptive"? Learn to give a great massage!

Touching her with strength and finesse says so many things about you - like you're going to spend some time on her - you're not going to just get in, get off and bolt. Not only will a great massage relax her, but it will help her get in the mood for more.If you want to be the guy she has to see again - give a great massage.

Prepare the Area

You want to be in a private, quite place with you give a sensual massage. Make sure that the phone is off the hook, and that you're not going to be bothered by the door, kids, animals, etc. Select some soothing music and turn off the lights except for lighting some candles - preferably scented. What, you don't have these at your place? This might be a good time to invest in a "Massage Kit".

You're also going to need a couple of sheets - one to cover your work area, (you don't want massage oil staining your couch!), and another to cover her. If she feels "exposed" or cold she isn't going to relax and let you, ah, work - yeah work! So, as you work, uncover only the area you want to massage. Then, cover it again to keep the area warm. As you massage the skin, blood flows into that area. This blood causes the area to redden and to warm. You don't want this to turn to chill, so be sure to cover your finished areas.

Finally, you should also have some water available. Many people feel thirsty after a massage. This is because working muscles causes all sorts of chemicals to be released into the body.

Massage Methods

You've probably heard of all types of massage techniques - Shiatsu, Swedish, Rolfing, etc., are all different types of massage with different goals. Don't worry about all of this. You don't need to focus on the type of massage - only the goal. Your goal should be to sooth and relax your er, victim!

In the next sections, we'll explore this in greater detail. When you give a massage keep in mind the following points:

1) Massage muscle - not skin, bone or organs
2) Work large muscle groups
3) Use firm, even pressure, not hard, deep pressure
4) Stay away from overly hard or overly soft areas of the body - unless she specifically asks
5) Always use a lubricant (see below)
6) Know when to quit

Now, let's explore each of these points:

Massage Muscle, Not Skin

Try this: rub your fingers gently over the skin of your arm. Now, press harder and move the skin without dragging your fingers across it. This is the difference between caressing and a massage. Remember that massages are for muscles below the skin - not for the skin itself.

You want a deep, penetrating effect - not something superficial. This is because the nerves in the skin tire very quickly. Further, many people are ticklish - not just on their feet, but all over their bodies! You want a massage to be relaxing and focused - not an irritant!

As well, you want to stay away from bones. By pressing hard on the skin just over a bone, you're going to cause pain - not pleasure (well, to some, pain IS pleasure - but that's another article!) Unless you know your human anatomy you're probably not going to know where your woman's bones are; so, before you begin rubbing an area, make sure that the tissue below the skin is soft. In fact, use the relatively softness to determine how hard to press.

For example, press your fingers into your relaxed stomach. This softness tells you that there are no bones below your fingers - only organs. You don't want to press into an area like this very hard. On the other hand, when you press your fingers into your thigh, you can feel how firm the tissue feels here. This is because of the underlying bone.

When you're massaging a woman's back, shoulders, legs or arms, look for this firmness as a good place to work.

Work on Large Muscle Groups

There are only a few of them in the body - mostly in the neck, back, shoulders and legs. By concentrating on the large muscle groups, not only is your massage more efficient - you are getting the largest source of body tension - but you're also preventing damage.

On either side of the spine are large muscle groups (called "Latissimus Dorsi" if you care to know). These are the long, strong muscles that keep you standing up - and are great places to work. Again, you have to be careful here, because just underneath these muscles are the ribs - and you know how ticklish some people are here!

Use Firm, Even Pressure

Pressure that is too light or inconsistent (light, heavy and light again), can be as uncomfortable as too much pressure. Be sure to use an even amount - not too hard, and not too light when giving a massage. In fact, it is better to start out somewhat lightly and ask if she wants more. Gently increase your strength until she indicates that it is enough.

Use a Lubricant

You should never try anything but the most minor of massages without lubricating the skin. For example, if you want to rub her shoulders that's one thing. If you're going to give a skin-to-skin massage, always use a lubricant. Lubes help to both prepare the skin and to protect it.

Don't use Vaseline or Wesson oil to massage her - you want the lubricant to be absorbed by the skin. You should also stay away from lubes that are absorbed too quickly like hand lotions. Why not pick up lightly scented massage oil - you'll definitely use it!

Just Follow the Numbers

Ok, so how do you progress? First, your lady should be undressed (oh - you dog you!) and lying on her stomach. Make sure her hair is out of the way of your "work area". Next, pick up the lubricant or oil you have selected and squeeze some onto your palm. Don't drip it directly on her skin - it may be cold. You can rub your hands together to warm both the oil and your skin. Even on a hot evening, try to make sure you're your hands warmer than the air. This difference helps remind her to relax.

Next follow these steps:

1) Start with her shoulders
Grab the muscles mid-way between her the curve of her shoulder and her neck with both hands (gently!) Knead these muscles and gently pull them toward you. This is a great place to start as most people carry a lot of tension here.

2) Work across her shoulders to her neck
Use your thumbs and the tips of your fingers to work from these muscles across and down her upper back. Be sure to watch that your nails don't dig into her skin!

3) Down her arms to her hands
With both hands cupped on the curve where her shoulders turn into her arms, gently lift her shoulders a few times to stretch the muscles in front. Work down each arm separately finding the muscle groups in the front and back and kneading them gently. When you get to her hands, use your thumbs to work her palms. Don't forget the other arm!

4) Mid-back
Now, return to her upper back and work downwards to her mid-back. This is another area many people store tension. Use your thumbs and fingertips to work from the center out and to push upward.

5) Lower-back
Continue to work down her back to her hips and just above her ass. Again, another tension-storage area!

6) Upper thighs
Working the muscles of her upper thighs is a great place to spend some time (if she'll allow this!) After you've worked the back of her legs and down her calves (next), you can have her turn over to work the fronts.

7) Calves
The calves are very strong muscles and get a workout everyday. These are great places to spend some time kneading each one separately with both hands.

Remember, once you start the massage, her skin will absorb the oil or lotion you applied to your hands. So, continue to re-lube regularly. Also, humans are "bilateral" - that is we have a balance between the right and left. Don't neglect one side for the other - keep things balanced.

The "Master's" Massage

Ready to graduate? Learn to give a great foot massage!

When you're massaging someone's feet, you've got to be careful, as many women are ticklish here. If you drag your fingers over the feet lightly, she's liable to flinch - negating the work you've already done in getting her relaxed. When you work the feet remember that there are many areas - each with their own needs. So, start with the heel. Firmly grab her heel and push it up toward her leg, pull it down and work it side to side. The heel contains a number of very small, very strong muscles.

Next, work your thumbs on the under side (called the "plantar" side) of her foot (in general, or unless she asks, avoid the top of the feet). Again, use deep slow pressure with the tips of your thumbs - don't do it too gently or it's going to feel like you're tickling her. Work the balls of her feet and in between her toes. Also, pull on each toe for about 10 seconds - don't jerk, just give a smooth, strong tug.

In general the feet of even small women are very strong. They can take a much more intense massage than the rest of her, but be sure to watch her reactions. Further, ask her what she likes, and follow her directions!

The Ending - The Beginning

Once you've completed the massage, get a soft towel to wipe her body down. This is just to remove any remaining lotion or oil, and to let her know that the massage is over.

What's That - She's Drooling??

Actually, professional massage therapists use sleep or even drooling as a sign they've done their job well. Don't take it as an insult - just realize she's really into what you're doing
 

Boner da Stoner

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2005
Messages
659
Reaction score
0
Location
Iqaluit Nunavut
I love the reiteration of posts of yore:)

same old stuff, same great quality
 

[o_0]

Banned
Joined
Oct 28, 2005
Messages
139
Reaction score
0
Age
44
making massage can eithetr put you to friends zone or to bed. 50/50. big risk.
 

Boner da Stoner

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2005
Messages
659
Reaction score
0
Location
Iqaluit Nunavut
I hate AFC posters, o_O I'm lookin at you.

100% of the time, if I believe the girl would be able to give me a full body massage than she might deserve a massage from me.

There is no 50/50 in the DJ world. That is not even the spirit of an optimist.
 

dyce

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 5, 2005
Messages
117
Reaction score
0
Location
Chinatown =p
damn nice, thanks for this
 

[o_0]

Banned
Joined
Oct 28, 2005
Messages
139
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
I hate AFC posters, o_O I'm lookin at you.

100% of the time, if I believe the girl would be able to give me a full body massage than she might deserve a massage from me.

There is no 50/50 in the DJ world. That is not even the spirit of an optimist.
i hate AFC haters. i dont have to mention who im talkin about because i can use quote.
 

[o_0]

Banned
Joined
Oct 28, 2005
Messages
139
Reaction score
0
Age
44
im not speakin english everyday. so i may not understand some sentences. aite?
whats a two-set ?
 

Chillisauce

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2005
Messages
367
Reaction score
0
Age
37
Well a set is a girl you approach right? so naturally a two-set is where you approach one girl and then approach another somewhere else and run imbetween them keeping the sets alive.

Some PUA (professional under achievers) like Mystery can keep 10 sets going, once you can do this you'll be allowed to post more tips ok?

:confused: :confused: :confused:
 

[o_0]

Banned
Joined
Oct 28, 2005
Messages
139
Reaction score
0
Age
44
two set works the same then.you meet one on friday and call in 3 days [monday] and th second one you meet on saturday so you attack her the day after. 10 sets is possible but i dont think its smart. i been dating 5 girls once and i got messed up. i think you should check not more than 3 once, and just swap em.
 

Chillisauce

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2005
Messages
367
Reaction score
0
Age
37
By definition that isnt two sets though, thats dating 2,3 women at the same time. What it really means is say you go out to a bar and see a woman on the right hand side, and a woman dancing on the other side of the room to the left. You approach the one on the right then partially into the conversation (midsentence is preferable) run to the chick on the left and open her then switch back and forward. If they arent interested in talking to you... you loze. Ever wonder why PUA have such good bodies? all the fvcking running.
 

[o_0]

Banned
Joined
Oct 28, 2005
Messages
139
Reaction score
0
Age
44
haha. well what is hard about that ?
1st you chat with one, then you chat with another telling the 1st one you saw somebody that you know.
 

lebRambo

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2005
Messages
715
Reaction score
3
Originally posted by Chillisauce
Well a set is a girl you approach right? so naturally a two-set is where you approach one girl and then approach another somewhere else and run imbetween them keeping the sets alive.

Some PUA (professional under achievers) like Mystery can keep 10 sets going, once you can do this you'll be allowed to post more tips ok?

:confused: :confused: :confused:
i always thought a two-set was just approaching a pair of girls. just like a 3-set and a 4-set is approaching 3 and 4 girls who are together. :confused:
 

Spirit Fingers

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 6, 2005
Messages
159
Reaction score
4
Nice post. I remember the first time I hooked up in college -- the girl started it by giving me a massage. I didn't have any massage oil, so she used shampoo. It sounds really weird, but it actually felt very good, although it was pretty gross afterwards.

Massage is a good way to initiate kino. Just make sure that you make the girl massage you too -- don't do anything for free!

-Dan
 

Chillisauce

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2005
Messages
367
Reaction score
0
Age
37
My sarcasm is lost on the interweb :( , no-one will ever realise my brilliance.

Back on topic: next girl i convince to come home with me i'll offer a massage to, tis a good tip.
 

[o_0]

Banned
Joined
Oct 28, 2005
Messages
139
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Originally posted by Chillisauce
My sarcasm is lost on the interweb :( , no-one will ever realise my brilliance.

Back on topic: next girl i convince to come home with me i'll offer a massage to, tis a good tip.
you better offer her sex not massage ;) thats tip from me! pzzz
 

Vibe

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 16, 2005
Messages
144
Reaction score
2
Age
41
Location
Washington, DC
Originally posted by [o_0]
you better offer her sex not massage ;) thats tip from me! pzzz
These are the kinds of words that come from a man who doesn't know how to make love to a woman.

~Vibe~
 

DJ4Real

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 6, 2005
Messages
947
Reaction score
0
You do this kind of thing when you have a girl-friend and you want to go something 'special'....massaging is a type of foreplay.
 

539

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 15, 2005
Messages
15
Reaction score
0
Age
47
Location
The Rillo, CA
Being a massage therapist, it's actually very easy to have a woman fall for you and 9 time out of 10, you won't even realize it. They can feel your confidence with each movement and you control the pace and if you focus, you will be devastating.

I've lost count on how many times when women ask me do I get hit on or do other women flirt with me and I just tell them I don't pay attention because I don't want to mix pleasure with work and taint my craft.

But also, if it's with a female that you want to get cozy with, start off normally and pay attention to the way she breathes. If it becomes more rapid, she's getting into it and then you can switch to a lighter form or massaging with fingertips and cover a wider area. But it's more powerful to stay away from obvious her hot zones. After that's she'll lead you from there.

539
 
Top