How to make the next move?

[SkyTouch]

Hi,

So I'm having a little trouble here. I was out on saturday and met this HB we talked a lot, got great contact and she invited me home. I thought it was a done deal.(but we had not kissed yet so I wasnt 100% sure of her intensions) But anyway, we get home and get into bed, then she says "wanna watch a movie?" and we started seeing this crappy action movie None of us really payed any attention to it because we were in deep conversation.

Then the convo starts dying and shes like "Should we try to get some sleep?" and I just thought "hell no", I gotta step my game up. So I started using "Neil Strauss' - Evolution theory" bit. It did get somewhat of an response, but I didnt work hard enough for it and couldnt get in a kiss. Damn, now I just knew I was fuked, and while she was lying there I just went in for the kiss as a last effort kind of thing. But that totally failed and I didnt get any response at all, it was a very subtle kiss and I dont really think she understood what happened. So I just pulled back and went to sleep.

Now I thought I blew all my chances with this girl, but the next day we still had pretty good contact and went out for some pizza and watched a movie with some friends.

I later found out from a friend that she is a virgin so there was probably a whole lot of LMR going on, and I now understand that I should have played my game a lot smoother to get a full close with her on the first meeting.

But here comes the hard part; I had to get back into the army for a week, and so my plans for getting on a second meeting got delayed by at least a week now. And I am wondering if I should try contacting her on facebook keeping her interest up, or if I should just keep it cool here in the army and get in contact with her once I get back from the army(thats about one week from now)

Facebook is btw, the only way I have of contacting her as we did not exchange numbers...

I do really like this girl, although my first plan was to just do a one night stand I now really feel like I could be in a relationship with her.

 

[Vice]

I can tell you're new to all of this, you're throwing PUA terms around like this is some kind of operation rather than a human interaction.

See, when you think to yourself "Damn, I need to get in state/get my game up!!" you'll make it too important and then end up messing up.

What I'm trying to say is stop taking it so seriously and just be your best self. Do what's natural.

Did you use any kino? Because that right there is THE MOST IMPORTANT part of your game. Remember, around 90% of communication is nonverbal.

I remember talking to a girl about how she wanted to be a dental hygienist and the whole time I was holding her hand, pushing her into stuff, and just touching her in general (in a fun, lighthearted way), then went in for the kiss. It was perfectly natural.

 

[Social Calibration]

Keep it cool, if you're only going to be gone for a week there's really no use to poke her around on facebook unless you just really just want to say hi. If she's interested in you, she won't lose interest in you over a week's time.

 

[Vice]

Keep it cool, if you're only going to be gone for a week there's really no use to poke her around on facebook unless you just really just want to say hi. If she's interested in you, she won't lose interest in you over a week's time.

True. Also, does she know that you're leaving in a week? Because you need to let her know; her interest level will spike up sharply and makes things much easier to escalate.

 

[SkyTouch]

Thanks for the replies.

I am pretty new to this whole "community", but I dont really think I'm overdoing it. The whole interaction was pretty natural, and the only time I really thought about "gaming" was to get some heavy kino when I noticed her interest dropped. Therefore I tried "Neilss" evolution theory which as I said worked to some degree

And she does know I am gone for a week. She actually teased me a lot about it because she had this week of.

We did somehow get into the subject of golfing and I was thinking of inviting her to a game of golf for a second meeting, I think that would be a good situation for convo and kino. Any better options?

Anyway, thanks for your help.