How to make her want a relationship?

[Pr0lab]

The story is kind of reversed because I am the one interested in a relationship while she is not. We been seeing each other for 3 weeks now.
She says she likes me, we sleep together and do other stuff.
Her reasoning for it that she just broke from a 4 year relationship with her boyfriend and she wants some break, but she still want to see me and sleep together?! I don't get it! As a rational person if you like somebody you want to be with him not try to make him doubt.
So my goal is make her my girl, because the **** body relationship will not last after the initial attraction is gone.
So what can I do? Any thoughts on it?

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Oh man...a relationship is something that must evolve organically, I don't believe there is a "4 step model" or otherwise designated method for making this one want to be your gf.

What you can do, is a complete 180 with your mindset. Look at it this way, you're already banging her and doing other fun stuff, so don't kill the golden goose! Don't go AFC on this one, keep doing what you're doing, but stop thinking about LTRs. If you persist in this mentality, you won't be banging her much longer.

Others will undoubtedly flame you for Oneitis and AFCness, and they won't be off the mark either.

 

[Slickster]

Her interest level in you is a little low. This may be due to her previous relationship or not. She wants you around for sex but not a relationship.

She wants to play the field right now. Nothing you can do about that. You just happen to be the flavor of the week. If you pressure her for a relationship it will fail. Even if you managed to convince her somehow it won't last.

You need to treat her like any other chick you are trying to attract.

1. Fun
2. Challenge - play hard to get
3. Confidence
4. Control - don't ever lose your cool
5. Have other options and actively date other women

If she just got out of a long term relationship then chances are she's not going to settle down with the 1st guy she starts seeing afterwards. Sorry but enjoy the sex while it lasts and don't get too attached. If you play your cards right as I've outlined above somewhere down the road she may come around. Don't be surprised if she's fvcking other guys. You should be fvcking other women too.

 

[( . )( . )]

Her reasoning for it that she just broke from a 4 year relationship with her boyfriend and she wants some break

Good reasoning. Now heres what I would have heard " Relationship? mehhh I think I can do better ". Btw I hope you didnt flat out ask her for a relationship?

From what I've learnt you cant do a single thing except for being the best man she's ever going to get.

Maybe you should have a bit of read of the bible.

 

[Pr0lab]

wouldn't she get attached to the person she is sleeping with after some period of time?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Prolab,
Seems to me you are on clover.......This lovely Lady just wants her oats,she is unhappy and understandably so.....Many Women appreciate that without a regular poke,they become irritable and morose,be flattered she has chosen you......Servitude just seems part of our way of life,why do you want another link for the chains that bind you?...what you have stumbled upon is something rare and precious,now be a Man and enjoy it while it lasts.

 

[MikeBrown30]

Why do you want to be in a relationship so badly? It has only been 3 weeks, and she has just gotten out of a 4 year relationship. Don't try to force the issue, she will more than likely feel smothered, and then you won't have a relationship, nor sex. Just enjoy it while it's there.

 

[Slickster]

wouldn't she get attached to the person she is sleeping with after some period of time?

Maybe....but DEFINITELY not if you pressure her about it.

You need to keep your mouth shut (about the relationship), show her a good time, and fvck her brains out.

What you have here is essentially a woman using you for sex. While no one really wants to be "used" the payback is nice.

As I said before if her interest level was high enough you wouldn't be in this position. The advice given to guys regarding low interest chicks is to pull back or walk away. The last thing you want to do is try too hard or pursue her. If you do she'll be running in no time..

Prediction: The moment you press her about a "relationship" is the moment it ends.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

wouldn't she get attached to the person she is sleeping with after some period of time?

not if she thinks that person is available whenever she wants it.

the trick is to make yourself scarce, unavailable, busy. Come up with some excuse where you'll have to turn her down every once in while when she wants to get together.

Or go out with her and go home early without sexing her. make her want you more than you want her.

sure things are never desirable. don't be a sure thing.

 

[Pr0lab]

Thank you all

Also I think you said it all!

sure things are never desirable. don't be a sure thing.

 

[AMDG]

We been seeing each other for 3 weeks now.

Why are you in such a hurry ? Just be confident - if she is compatible with you she will want a relationship at some point.

 

[Desdinova]

How to make her want a relationship?

Don't give her the option of having one. Tell her "I'm just not really ready for a relationship right now". Women want what they can't have.

The story is kind of reversed because I am the one interested in a relationship while she is not.

Oh... Well, good luck with that.

Her reasoning for it that she just broke from a 4 year relationship with her boyfriend and she wants some break

In other words, she's on the rebound. Don't count on her being around for too long.

As a rational person if you like somebody you want to be with him not try to make him doubt.

Women are not rational people. They are emotional people. What you're doing is filling in for her ex (or making her feel like she's getting even) by giving her attention and sex. Once the excitement and satisfaction have gone away, she will move on to someone she is genuinely attracted to.

 

[CarlitosWay]

Don't give her the option of having one. Tell her "I'm just not really ready for a relationship right now". Women want what they can't have.



Oh... Well, good luck with that.



In other words, she's on the rebound. Don't count on her being around for too long.



Women are not rational people. They are emotional people. What you're doing is filling in for her ex (or making her feel like she's getting even) by giving her attention and sex. Once the excitement and satisfaction have gone away, she will move on to someone she is genuinely attracted to.

DING DING DING repped. I fell into a little spell for a bit but then realized everything written above. Just ride it out for however long you can as it can end at any time.

 

[TizZle]

Make her fall in love with you... appeal to all her emotions.. press her buttons... it's a devlish thing to do but it can work.. make her laugh, cry, happy, sad, mad, etc. just dont overdo them and you're set.

 

[Pr0lab]

Thank you, I liked the information inside the article!

 

[penkitten]

trying to "talk" someone into a relationship is a horrible idea, only you can not see it when it is you that is the one that desires the relationship.

if someone were trying to "talk" you into a relationship when you didn't want one, you would become rather irritated , wouldn't you?

usually when someone is irritated, they write you off altogether and no longer want to hang out with you .