Flirting is natural. It happens. To be honest, I'm not quite sure what you're asking. What makes you assume that she actually cares how you feel about her "flirting" with another guy? In my opinion, you are over thinking this entire situation. Step back, and continue to talk to her however you were before, but at the same time, continue to talk to other girls as well.johnnysmith2224 said:I was having this flirty conversation with this girl, and I ended up hearing that she also kinda did a similar thing to another guy, but to a lesser extent. I think she feels bad because she thinks I think she's a creep, so is there a way for me to ensure that she knows I don't look at her that way and that I don't mind? We're both in high school.
Let me see if I get this right. You don't want her to think you minded her flirting with you, yet you are going to cut contact with her??? Now she WILL definitely think that her flirting offended you (which I still don't see why she would think such a thing in the first place). Just talk to her bro, quit over thinking everything. No Jedi mind tricks are needed here.johnnysmith2224 said:I don't want her to think that I minded her flirting with me... because I honestly enjoyed it. Idk. I'll cut contact for a few days and see if she contacts me I suppose.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
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Don't get me wrong here, nothing bad with asking her to your house. That's great, you took the initiative like Amante said too. HOWEVER, personal opinion here, asking her to your HOUSE might have been the problem. Believe it or not, a lot of girls hear house and instantly assume SEX. Which, could have been the reason why she seemed receptive to the idea initially, but later backed out. She got scared. Ask her to the movies, dinner, beach, etc. If she accepts, awesome. Let her get comfortable around you first then ask her back to your place. If she declines all requests, just back off. She lost interest, move on. Good luck.johnnysmith2224 said:I asked her to cOme to my house
Explainjohnnysmith2224 said:but offers me other times for me to offer?
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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Like I said earlier, you're over-thinking everything. If she gives you an open day, take it. YOU make the plans. Don't ask her what she want's to do and what time to do it. This will just give her an opportunity to flake out. She's free Saturday? Tell her, "X if having a party, pick you up at 9."(party) "I'll make reservations for X at 9, pick you up at 8." (dinner) "X is playing at 9, pick you at 8."(movie) The difference is I'm not asking her if she want's to do X, I'm telling her to do X. If she declines, she's not interested. Waste your time and energy on something/someone else.johnnysmith2224 said:And by offering other times, I mean by her pretty much saying "weekends before this time but not this day blah blah blah would be a little better."