how to maintain plates while in a commited relationship

[jazzpur]

im currently in a commited relationship with a girl i love, and ive established a bond with this girl that i do not want to cheat on her. i set boundaries with her early on and i want to be honorable.

in my past relationships, i would just **** random orbiters secretly about once a month and make up excuses to myself why it was acceptable. my current girlfriend is not worth taking the risk.

recently ive had another girl come onto me hard after some sexting. we went out for coffee a few weeks prior to me making a commitment to my current girlfriend. stayed in touch texting a bit since

out of the blue she throws herself at me and tells me she wants me to ravage her, use all of her holes, f*ck her face etcetc.....anything any man wants to hear...she said it.

but i had to turn her down to honor my newly commited relationship which i hold higher value

this girl admitted that it turned her on that i so easily turned down her advances. she has since tried hanging out multiple times

i think she was getting a little sick of me being "too busy" and backed off a bit

should i tell this girl im in a relationship? should i just keep teasing her? or do i start to ignore her?

what will still keep her there as an option if things go sour in my relationship?

 

[Vulpine]

Three-way potential?

It's only "cheating" if you aren't sharing.

 

[logicallefty]

Yes, I would tell the plate you are in a relationship. It is the honorable thing to do and plus it will give you more value to the plate for if you and the GF break up. The plate will know for sure you are a man with other options. Keep in minimal contact with the plate every several weeks or so and shoot the sh|t for a couple minutes via text.

 

[sodbuster]

Just tell her, You are next on the list.... IF this one doesn't work out.... let her hang around as your orbiter...... and if your girlfriend asks, tell her "I'd do her in a second if I wasn't dating you, but I'm committed to you" Give her a bit of competition anxiety....

 

[zekko]

Just tell her, You are next on the list.... IF this one doesn't work out.... let her hang around as your orbiter...QUOTE]
Guys don't have orbiters, generally speaking. Because if they're attractive, the guy is going to want to fvck her.

The answer to the OP's question is that you don't have plates if you are in a committed relationship. If you have plates then you're not committed.

I'm in a committed relationship, although I always believe relationships are one step away from ending (even though my current one has lasted 11 years). I always try to keep a running tally of potential options just in case my girlfriend would dump me for whatever reason (girls are notoriously fickle). My problem with keeping this list lately is I find that practically every girl that I find attractive is married. At least the girls I find most attractive are married. That's not surprising though, the best ones get snapped up first.

 

[logicallefty]

I'm in a committed relationship, although I always believe relationships are one step away from ending (even though my current one has lasted 11 years). I always try to keep a running tally of potential options just in case my girlfriend would dump me for whatever reason (girls are notoriously fickle). My problem with keeping this list lately is I find that practically every girl that I find attractive is married. At least the girls I find most attractive are married. That's not surprising though, the best ones get snapped up first.

Exactly, and marriages are the same one step away from ending that relationships are. Anyone who thinks otherwise is a fool.

 

[latinnova]

Exactly, and marriages are the same one step away from ending that relationships are. Anyone who thinks otherwise is a fool.

Haha, very true brother. No matter how good you think things may be going, you are wrong. Relationships without a contract are better, you will not be at risk of losing half your assets, your kids, half your retirement, and having to pay the woman that scorned you a large amount of money every month for a very long time to come.

 

[Alvafe]

guys losing focus here, plates are used when you are single and maybe settle in a LTR if one girl is good enough for that, you can keep doing some light flirtys here and there and let woman feel interest on you.

i'm all for keep your word on what you do, if you are in a LTR then you don't fool around, and if you want to fool around why the hell you started a LTR?

but if you are that kind of guy who don't care, as long you lay the terms to the spare girl, she is just for sex and nothing else and you are commited with someone else, if she wnat anything she will have to accept, but get ready for any possible thing to happen for the spare wanting more and even have a talk with your LTR tosomeone else saw you with her and tell your LTR.

so again too much work for something useless

 

[jc_80]

You can always get new plates when a relationship ends. You should admit to yourself that if your girlfriend was doing this then you'd be on here trying to drum up sympathy about how your girlfriend is a low quality woman and you should next her. These are the eexcuses women use to do the things many posters complain about. I've never had the urge to cheat or line up a plate unless I wasn't happy or if my girl was doing the same thing and I had no faith in her loyalty and the relationship. If you're happy don't go down this road because you could lose your girlfriend at any time if she finds out. You don't need to line up plates to make your girlfriend find you attractive. She knows when other women find you attractive.

 

[Lexington]

You just need to stay outgoing and social. Let women know that you have a girlfriend and show your girlfriend you have options (don't say it explicitly of course). Basically, the aim is to constantly be in touch with attractive women. If your current relationship goes south, you'll have a number of prospects lined up. Dread game will enhance the quality of your current relationship and keep you less needy.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Jazzpur,
Honour?...you've been seeing too ,many old movies...If you wish to be constrained by another manacle that suits the Female agenda,that's your choice...Pretty obviously few of your correspondents have sat like a condemned Man in a Family Law Court and watched some Hanging Judge Jeffries strip you of your assetts and Family...What price honour then?

 

[jazzpur]

i went back to to setup a meetup in person with this girl just to be open and give her the low down like many of you suggested.

however now she is in auto-reject mode

i ignored her advances one too many times which it turns out destroyed my chances

i simply got and "oh, hey" response from her and she ignored my playful reply "still breaking hearts kelly kapowski?"

never dug in any futher, figured i just wait a couple weeks, if she contacts me ill set it up

 

[Alvafe]

i went back to to setup a meetup in person with this girl just to be open and give her the low down like many of you suggested.

however now she is in auto-reject mode

i ignored her advances one too many times which it turns out destroyed my chances

i simply got and "oh, hey" response from her and she ignored my playful reply "still breaking hearts kelly kapowski?"

never dug in any futher, figured i just wait a couple weeks, if she contacts me ill set it up

or she found another or even as long you showed you are still after her her ego had the boost she wanted.

things is is more likely you ahve girls falling for you when you have someone then when single, if you think mens are competitive, wait till you see a woman they will always compete with others women, or you think the hours they take on makeup and dressing for the guy?woman dress up for another woman feel jealous of her