how to let someone know that you are interested?

[suaveplayer]

basically how do you flirt???

so just in case you guys were wondering. im not a complete afc, ive actually worked out a lot of stuff already. just the flirting stuff im not too good at. thx!

 

[Captain]

I'll start off.

Teasing, sexual innuendo, kino (depending on the context.) Slight arrogance (used correctly), being slightly ****y. Flirting has to be done in a fun way, not a mean or degrading way.

Read the articles on sosuave.com and the DJ Bible.

 

[needstochange]

Read the DJ Bible.

 

[Five To One]

How do you let a girl know your interested?

All the stuff Captain mentioned you should learn, all of which you can find in the DJ bible. But theres something I dont want you to miss because its so important to know.

Eye contact.

Girls are good at picking up on our "im interested in you" body language signals, much better than us guys unless we have learned what to look for, and elongated eye contact is a dead giveaway to them.

If you look at her and hold eye contact any longer than 3 seconds while smiling she will know your interested. And if she smiles back with any eye contact then she is interested. Okay so its not that cut and dry but its hard to explain, with practice you will pick up the more subtle signs.

Many guys neglect to learn and then actually practice eye contact, both giving and receiving it. And honestly if you learn the ins and outs of eye contact you can easily know what girls are interested and what girls are not when entering a room. I cant remember the last time I was rejected by a girl who gave me the right eye contact, the eye contact I look for. The eyes dont lie.


And going back to girls picking up on your eye contact, I guess I shouldnt say its a dead givaway to them because there will always be that shadow of doubt that you dont like her,"maybe he is just messing with me" goes through her head. Which is a good thing, you need that shadow of doubt to aid you. Thats why telling a girl you like her kills attraction, it gets rid of any doubt the girl has about you.

Good luck.

 

[CaptainJ]

How do you let a girl know your interested?

All the stuff Captain mentioned you should learn, all of which you can find in the DJ bible. But theres something I dont want you to miss because its so important to know.

Eye contact.

Girls are good at picking up on our "im interested in you" body language signals, much better than us guys unless we have learned what to look for, and elongated eye contact is a dead giveaway to them.

If you look at her and hold eye contact any longer than 3 seconds while smiling she will know your interested. And if she smiles back with any eye contact then she is interested. Okay so its not that cut and dry but its hard to explain, with practice you will pick up the more subtle signs.

Many guys neglect to learn and then actually practice eye contact, both giving and receiving it. And honestly if you learn the ins and outs of eye contact you can easily know what girls are interested and what girls are not when entering a room. I cant remember the last time I was rejected by a girl who gave me the right eye contact, the eye contact I look for. The eyes dont lie.


And going back to girls picking up on your eye contact, I guess I shouldnt say its a dead givaway to them because there will always be that shadow of doubt that you dont like her,"maybe he is just messing with me" goes through her head. Which is a good thing, you need that shadow of doubt to aid you. Thats why telling a girl you like her kills attraction, it gets rid of any doubt the girl has about you.

Good luck.

Spot on.

Eye contact is also a good way to find out if a girl is interested in you. Usually if you flirt with a girl or something which may leave her feeling slightly attracted to you, next time you are in her presence (Say the classroom), try and catch her looking at you. Usually she will instantly look away, as if the whole thing never happened. Repeatedly catching a girl looking at you will let you know that the girl is attracted to you. Now show your confidence and dominance by catching her attention, but not looking away when she looks at you. Get eye contact and smile at her, she will smile back. Now when she leaves check her chair, for she'll likely have left a little puddle in it xD

 

[trd323]

great post on eye contact, but remember to the OP that there is a difference between holding eye contact and staring. Just look yourself in the mirror and get an idea of what is creepy and what is sexy.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

The key to effective flirting is to always engage a girl's imagination. NEVER be direct or overt. You don't want her to think "Gawd! He's flirting with me!" You want her to imagine you are. Be covert and ambiguous. You need her to think "Is this guy flirting with me?"

 

[suaveplayer]

thx for all the great stuff, esp the eye contact thing. please keep it coming!

 

[Analyzeit]

I used to ask this question a lot to myself and did a bit of research to be honest i didn't learn much at all, i mean if you've read the bible there a lot of different things on eye contact making it a much more obvious one. one thing i did learn though is that flirting doesn't have to be obvious just a mix of things adding up to be obvious

In my opinion everyone is a natural flirt, it's just about realizing when your doing it.

If you've got a chick laughing, your flirting
If you can safely use kino without a weird look, your flirting
I mean even smiling, your flirting
C&Fs = Flirting

Practice is what you need a lot in this one, and the first step to practice is knowing that your doing it

Trust me you'll be talking to a chick one day and it will just click and you will realize that your flirting and see is enjoying it, it's just you're to busy trying to get her to impress her you don't realize.

Flirting is probably the easiest part of game once you've figured out what your doing and when, the hardest part is making the jump from flirting to something more, but step my step brother

Also, it's really hard to flirt with see isn't interested, learn this to, and just don't bother with those girls, In my experience the main reason you're having problems flirting is because she doesn't want to

 

[suaveplayer]

bumpppp this is an important thread for all djs

 

[suaveplayer]

bumpppppp. nothing else?

 

[Kevin Feng]

I used to have the same issue since I did a lot of indirect game. I had issues letting the girl know that I was into her.

Flirting is a pretty vague word, but I think what you're trying to get at is how do you convey interest to a girl without being too overt about it and also how to be fun about it.

The first I'd point you to is David D's double your dating, he talks a lot about how to be cool, sexy, non-needy, and most importantly, how to convey interest without being AFC about it.

What I'd recommend for the time being to just get you out of your shell, just tell a girl that she's sexy or something of the nature. There's nothing wrong with complimenting a girl, just so as long as you're not overdoing it and being a lower value guy about it.

If you notice, Italian/Spanish men who all have natural game have a way of doing this. They can convey a lot of interest and still get away with it.

-Kevin

 

[Maxtro]

One thing that I believe is very important is knowing when it's time to take things to the next level. You could flirt with a girl for months but if you never tried to make a real move she might not know that you are into her. That has happened to me.

So yes flirting is important and the posts in this thread give you a good idea, but you must make a move and try to kiss her.