How to know how good you are in bed?

[Semtex]

How does a guy know whether he is or isnt good in bed? That is, without resorting to asking his girlfriend and her replying "Oh, you're the best by far!!!" out of love and caring to spare his feelings? Are there signs? All her female friends know more or less what your performance was like, how do you get to know?

And yes, the knowledge is strictly for stroking ego (pardon pun)

Any ideas? Need your help guys

 

[GameTime76]

1. Asking if you were good in bed or not may show a weakness. That you are insecure. Probably better to just assume you were good.

2. Well, if you can make a girl have an orgasm that is probably a good sign you are doing something right!

3. If you arent good in bed... She probably wont be coming back for more.

 

[Semtex]

1. Asking if you were good in bed or not may show a weakness. That you are insecure. Probably better to just assume you were good.

She offered to volunteer the info. Apparently I'm the best she's ever had surprise surprise. A part of me is like..."well I've had sex with others, and after awhile they sort of all blur together except for the few, weird, or extraordinary exceptions." I do however, know what my best experience was, and it was a one night stand with some random, drunk girl named Hannah that I didnt bother calling again. I will never tell my girlfriend this because it will literally crush her spirit, she's extremely sensitive to jealousy and insecurities.

Question is, is she doing the same because she is concerned with my feelings? She's mentioned that her last ex had major erectile/rigidity problems and was really awkward in bed, which is why she knew it would never last. When I asked, "well why didnt you bring up any issues you may have had with him sexually? Why did you tell him he was your best?" To which she replied that she didnt know what else to do, that she was told that bringing up issues like erections, etc to a man will actually do more damage than good. She also said that she told him he was her best because she felt like he needed the reassurance, and anything to get it up would do, even if it meant lying about how awesome in bed he was

2. Well, if you can make a girl have an orgasm that is probably a good sign you are doing something right!

I've made her orgasm... even when she hasnt it's been atleast enjoyable to her. Also, this is strictly for my ego, I wanna know whether I was her best or not. Again, I can't count on her words because I tell her she's the best by far, though she technically isn't. She is up there with the best of them though, I just know that she wouldnt like hearing that and would not accept anything less than her being my very best.

3. If you arent good in bed... She probably wont be coming back for more.

This is girlfriend...we have sex pretty frequently, like 10 times a week or so, since the relationship is all fresh and crisp and I still look forward to eating that pvssy everyday. She also seems quite enamored by yours truly, but idk, I dont want it to be some emotional/spiritual connetion, i want it to be based on my raw unadulterated d1cking. I want it to be the best she ever had when I go balls deep.

 

[lynch1000s]

If you're good on the dance floor, you're supposed to be good in bed as well.

 

[L B]

I would recommend read up on books and how to videos to build up on your skill set. Of course what works for others might not work for you. Experience and learning to pick up on the girls reactions during the deed will help determine the best course of action.

 

[Ease]

Dont want to point out the obvious, but can you not tell while you do it?

 

[Poonani Maker]

I tell her straight-up if I think she's faking. I say, "I know it doesn't feel THAT good" and she'll say, "Yeah, but what you were doing at first really did hit the spot." She could be lying, but women are CONsumate liars. Another thing I'll ask if I've never been with her is if she has an STD, ever get tested? I'll Look for symptoms on her puss. I will quit at the start if I think she has something. They can outright lie to your face and Say they're being honest about not having anything, and then they try to turn it around and lay a guilt trip on you for making them "feel like sh!t" but I don't give a fvck I'm always taking measures to safeguard my wang and health. Even if I was married, I'd be investigating that ***** for signs of other life in her life.

 

[Schwank]

I find out by what I hear from her friends. Seriously. Chicks love talking to their girlfriends about how good or bad their man is in the bedroom. (And they get VERY graphic about it.) I've heard past girlfriends' friends comment about my stamina (no bragging, but 1 hour plus over here, although only with rubbers). At first I was like, "WTF she TELLS you girls this stuff?!" But then I settled down once I realised that this is the way of the woman; it's normal for chicks to tell their friends this sorta stuff. And inevitably during a drunken night out her friends let it slip.

 

[Semtex]

Dont want to point out the obvious, but can you not tell while you do it?

That's the thing, what if she's just really good at faking it? I aint never seen a girl squirm and moan like this one does, then again who knows maybe I've gotten better over the years. Still a part of me is doubtful...wtf makes me her best? She claims to have been with 21 men (which means atleast 30) has been sexually active since she was 16/17 (she's 25 now) and apparently the only other good lovers she's had in the past were a couple of boyfriends who were basically 'reliable' at best.

Yet apparently even when I'm "phoning it in" I'm still the best according to her. I just dont like being patronized, cause it's what I do with her (she'd die if she knew that she wasnt as freaky to me as she made herself out to be) and it would be extremely ironic if she's doing the same.

 

[SandHawk]

I think you're a bit too hung up on this. If you really want to know, go by on past experiences and her reactions. Even tho each girl responds differently to certain things, you can tell how intense her orgasms are by looking at her face, body and how long they last.

Go read the Sex God Method, and if you do most of those things, you're probably good at it. I don't really care whether I'm her best or not, because I know I AM her best. I made her do things every dude before me couldn't, and I let her experience things these chumps were incapable off. So why ask myself that question? If she squirms, squeals and keeps coming back for more, I know I'm the best.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

With girls you aren't dating a solid way to know if your good in bed with her is if she keeps coming back for more. Or maybe we could re-phrase that and say if you were really that bad, unless it was a ONS, then she'd never come back for more.

With girls who your in a relationship with its a similar story; obviously there's the honey-moon period where the frequency of sex is very high, but as the relationship progresses if you guys are still going at it several times a week you can be certain that she enjoys the pleasure it brings her regardless of whether she tells you your the best she's ever had or not.

The reality is most guys have no clue what they're doing, even if they've slept with tons of girls or not. Very few people take the time and effort to learn and focus on improving their skills in the bedroom. If you start learning and applying eventually you'll find ways to improve your ability to bring women pleasure.

Instead of getting so wrapped up on whether your really good in bed or not, focus on improving your skills so you can get to a point where you KNOW your the Don Juan of fuvking.





PIMP

 

[Tazman]

Women are "masters" at stroking guys egos. They can fake it with the best of them, so ultimately I wouldn't worry about it unless you can see a pattern of women not enjoying themselves with you (or you're actually hurting them).

I personally set out to enjoy myself, if she makes me believe I'm good with her when I'm not, that's completely her problem, not mine. It's a great sh-t test for women to have. Make men solely responsible for your own personal pleasure.

I wish guys could see through this stuff. How about you have some expectations of your own about how good SHE is?

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I think it's something you should just know.

I know I used to be way better than I am now. Now I am average at best.

But I KNOW I used to be absolutely MAGNIFICENT.

 

[Cinamon]

If her cheeks go red, if her nipples become erect, if she is incredibly wet, if her body slightly stiffens when she orgasms, you are doing the right thing

 

[SandHawk]

If her cheeks go red, if her nipples become erect, if she is incredibly wet, if her body slightly stiffens when she orgasms, you are doing the right thing

You forgot spasms . I've had girls spazz out when they orgasm due to the intensity .

 

[Cinamon]

You forgot spasms . I've had girls spazz out when they orgasm due to the intensity .

Lucky them, never got it so good as to spasm, but i live in hope.

 

[bukowski_merit]

I've often wondered this question myself...

I think it would benefit us to really figure out a way to define amazing sex. But, it'd really be hard; women respond differently to different things. And length of time, size of pen!s, and other intangibles are not as important as the intensity (which comes from the emotional and sexual tension).

If intensity/tension is very high and i fvck a woman for 10 minutes; it realistically could be better than if intensity/tension is low and i **** a woman for 45 minutes.

Some sure ways to know you've rocked her world:
- She runs out of orgasms (this would only apply to multi-orgasmic women)
- She becomes addicted to you after the sex.
- She wants to do it again and again.
- Her legs are shaking when you're done.
- She passes out immediately after the sex (women should be more energetic after sex, but if they get rocked - they are drained! this does not apply if she's drunk! lol)
- She cries (although this could be a sign of psychological problems as well)


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As far as women saying "you're the best ever" - #1 women react on how their current emotions are. In her mind - you may very well be the best ever; but that's because she doesn't remember too well the emotions she felt with Travis, 8 years ago.... She may remember that he could fvck her brains out - but she probably doesn't remember the emotions she had running through her during that period...


As far as faking it: I have a story.... I've been fvcking a FB for over 3 years now. It's amazing that we still have amazing passion for each other, but that's mostly because i really limit the time we spend together (2-3 times a month). Anyway, EVERYTIME we fvck - i give her at least 4-5 orgasms before getting mine (and that can take 5 minutes or 50 minutes depending on the mood of the day). About a month ago, we had somewhere to be at 8pm. But of course, i ripped her clothes off her at 7:40. We fvcked very hard and good and she got almost her orgasms in record time and i busted soon after.... We were out at dinner later and she reveals to me that she faked all but one of the orgasms (the last one).... she said it was the first time she'd done it with me and she did it because she knew it'd make me bust quick.... ... i was really shocked because all 4 of the "orgasms" she had seemed just like the last one.... my conclusion: you probably won't be able to tell if she's faking it or not....


but... i've faked it plenty of times too! lol

 

[SBW]

Dont want to point out the obvious, but can you not tell while you do it?

This - You ought to have a pretty good idea yourself or leave it to circumstance to tell you.

eg - She's lying on the bed, shuddering, has abandoned any sense of trying to look good/sexy/attractive and talking utter rubbish, or is insensible, whilst letting you do absolutely anything you want to her or she's doing anything you want to you.

or

You come to your senses in a devastated room, she's kneeling over you naked apart from your shirt, visibly gasping, shaking and covered in sweat, with a destroyed hairdo, looking at you in awe, whilst saying something like "OhmygodIhavenevercomesolongandhardwithANYONEbefore.. (breathe) and if you think you will go roll-over and go to sleep now you had better think again cos we are going to start all over RIGHT NOW! (breathe) AND I'm keeping this shirt HERE from now-on!"

Or something similar.

Then you are safe to assume you can show her a pretty good time!

 

[Warrior74]

You just need two things. More practice, self confidence.

As long as she's coming back, having fun...enjoy it. The more you worry the more problems its going to lead to. When I started being a bit more selfish in bed I became a better lover...and by selfish I mean, i always used to focus on her pleasure, trying to do everything to please her...That's AFC fvcking. Now I beat it up if I want to beat it up, slow it down when I want to slow it down, change positions when I want to, i dominate her. I take note of what she's digging or not digging and if she's digging it I got with that for a while...and I do my best to make her kum, but I also have fun myself. And I think it's that sense of fun that makes it memorable.

Relax, have fun, enjoy. If she comes back for more, consider it a win. A woman who is adept at faking will fake, not much you can do about that...just enjoy it while ya got it and even if you think she's faking, so what! Are you there to get laid to make her happy? Both would be nice but laid is good enough.