How to keep this girl chasing?

[Checkmate12]

Alright so here's my little dilemma. I'm in the works of starting an LTR with this girl, she's basically just waiting for me to make it official. She asked around 9pm last night if she could come over to which I said yes. We ended up laying around together for the majority of it and she revealed some really heavy feelings she had for me, even made marriage references and desires to be with me for quite a while. She even voiced that she was a bit insecure because she never knows exactly what I'm thinking or how I'm feeling about her. Immediately, I knew not to resort back to my old afc ways of reassuring her that she was my 'always and forever.' Yet I couldn't squash the urge entirely as I felt at this stage it's important that she knows I care for her. Well she ended up staying until about 4am and in that time (which was wayyy too long together inside the apartment) I feel I divulged a little too much information about how I was feeling. All indications say her interest level is still very high, but today I just had an instinctive feeling that I had successfully chipped away at some of the mystery and excitement that I had so painstakingly worked to keep. I don't feel as powerful or as in control as I did the day before.

Now we have plans to go to church together and play laser tag tomorrow, which I will follow through with. But after that I plan to be a bit more cold and distant, and withdraw myself a little in an attempt to ensure that she is still chasing me as much as she once was.

What do you guys think of this strategy? I have a desire to pursue an LTR with her so I think it's important (at least in the early stages) that I keep the attraction alive by making sure she's always just a little bit unsure of how I feel about her. How exactly can I go about this?

 

[*Salas*]

How long have you been seeing her?

At some point (if you're attempting a LTR) you have to start showing her love and attention. This is where the DJ differentiates from the jerk; the jerk continues to be distant and the girl realizes he doesn't care so she leaves him. Here are some points from an article in the DJ bible, it might help. It all depends how afar you are in the relationship.

-) You want to keep her in the dark (mysterious) about yourself. Do not reveal how you feel/anything about yourself.

-) It is all about creating a mysterious image where she has no idea where she stands with you.

-) "Things must be my way." - You don't let her get her way all the time. You say it is my way or the highway.

-) "I am too good for almost everybody." - You treat her like she is one of the thousand chicks you already have.

-) "I need to be worshiped and adored." - You don't make yourself too available. You don't validate everything she says.

-) "I need to be showered with attention." - You go out with her max. once a week. You be a challenge.

-) By going against her wishes you're creating friction and women love friction.

-) You effectively rip her narcissistic image away, you've replaced her as the center of the universe.

-) Now you show her love, affection and true respect.

Italics = Woman's thoughts

 

[Checkmate12]

Great compilation Salas! I think where I struggle is the only seeing her once a week part. We both have extremely busy schedules with work and classes so its hard to turn her down when she asks to hang out and I know that I have nothing going on at the time. She's mentioned a couple times wanting to hang out on Tuesday night, but Im thinking about calling it off and rescheduling for a day later in the week. Thoughts?

 

[instantnoodles]

-) By going against her wishes you're creating friction and women love friction.

Nah. Waste of time. Next.

 

[iamnobody]

You don't have to "create" mystery, the woman is doing that herself. You just have to be careful not to ruin it. Don't give straight answers, elude, don't text/call/hang all the time and that's pretty much it. That's how you make 'em chase you.

 

[Slickster]

I'm in the works of starting an LTR with this girl, she's basically just waiting for me to make it official

This is HOW you keep a girl chasing. You don't make anything official. Let HER be the one who brings it up. Guys should never be the ones to bring up relationships.

In the meantime keep her guessing. Don't worry about revealing too much the other night. It's all about push and pull. Pull away for a bit and her own insecurities will draw her back.

Something that most guys don't realize is that a woman WANTs to chase you. She wants to feel that "romance". She may beg you to commit with tears in her eyes but deep inside she wants the guy who won't.

 

[Juan Don]

This is HOW you keep a girl chasing. You don't make anything official. Let HER be the one who brings it up. Guys should never be the ones to bring up relationships.

In the meantime keep her guessing. Don't worry about revealing too much the other night. It's all about push and pull. Pull away for a bit and her own insecurities will draw her back.

Something that most guys don't realize is that a woman WANTs to chase you. She wants to feel that "romance". She may beg you to commit with tears in her eyes but deep inside she wants the guy who won't.

co-sign. let her be the one to bring up relationship. women will value what they have to work hard and chase after.

 

[TheCWord]

As I often do, I'll refer you to this chapter from the Book of Pook:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=58363

 

[Checkmate12]

This is HOW you keep a girl chasing. You don't make anything official. Let HER be the one who brings it up. Guys should never be the ones to bring up relationships.

In the meantime keep her guessing. Don't worry about revealing too much the other night. It's all about push and pull. Pull away for a bit and her own insecurities will draw her back.

Something that most guys don't realize is that a woman WANTs to chase you. She wants to feel that "romance". She may beg you to commit with tears in her eyes but deep inside she wants the guy who won't.

This. +1

She has actually brought the subject up a couple times, but I think Im gonna wait a while longer and make her sweat it out.

As I often do, I'll refer you to this chapter from the Book of Pook:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthr...threadid=58363

killer reference.