How to keep the *Spark* in a relationship?

[Triple T]

Alright so theres this girl I'm gaming, I know for sure that she is interested in me, her friends have even come up to me and asked me if I like her and that we'd make a cute couple. I game her friends too so I got their approval of me too.

I've done everything right with this girl, shes pretty(HB 8), funny and has a great personality.


Only thing I need help with is how to keep the "spark" in a relationship alive?
My past relationships all ended because it just got boring, aka lost the "spark". For instance, I would game these girls and they would go crazy over me, but once we actually go out my game kind of just diies...along with the relationship as well.

So how do you guys keep it alive?

I don't want to ask her out just yet til I solve this little problem I have. Any suggestions?


3T

 

[john paul]

Your last relationships, how intimate did you guys get?

Its hard to keep a relationship together when your not having sex, or at least exciting adventures in the dark.

 

[Triple T]

Your last relationships, how intimate did you guys get?

Its hard to keep a relationship together when your not having sex, or at least exciting adventures in the dark.

nah not as far as sex, but just making out was as far as i got.

But rarely, it would just get too awkward sometimes...I dunno it just felt weird being with her after awhile

 

[john paul]

I wrote out a huge answer and then it didn't post. Im pissed.

I might come back to answer again tonight.

 

[Eklipse]

Girls want to see if they can keep the upper hand and as soon as they have it, they lose complete interest.

I think the only thing that keeps people attracted to each other is having that constant challenge of who controls the power. Thats what keeps the spark alive, the unpredictability of who really has the control.

 

[Genghis_Khan]

Only thing I need help with is how to keep the "spark" in a relationship alive?
My past relationships all ended because it just got boring, aka lost the "spark". For instance, I would game these girls and they would go crazy over me, but once we actually go out my game kind of just diies...along with the relationship as well.

So how do you guys keep it alive?

I don't want to ask her out just yet til I solve this little problem I have. Any suggestions?


3T

I had the same thing happen to me before, more than once.

HB8 was crazy about me and i had no idea because, well, girls are weird. Some of them never give off any interest signs. This girl told all my friends and everyone else she knows that she can't stop thinking about me. I wasn't even trying to game her, but when i had people coming telling me this, i was like, cool i got this girl already.

So AFC me asked her out right away and made her my girlfriend. yea, soooo AFC, i know. :box: I should've made myself a challenge and made her work for me. But i didn't! more punches to the face. :box: OK i feel better now. anyways, it doesn't end here. so more punches coming my way.

Before HB8 always wanted to wear my sweaters, especially my lettermen jacket but i only let her wear them as a reward for doing something for me. But when we started going out, i let her take my jacket home the first time she asked me. i know, i deserve more than punches on this super AFC move. :kick:

Eventually she lost interest and we broke up. This was good because I learned a big lesson.

So Don't Change once you start going out with her. Be exactly how you are now! Like Eklipse said, be unpredictable and don't lose that upper hand to her.

...Peace!

 

[Triple T]

Yea I was thinking about that, but when I DID do that...my last girlfriend was like "I'm your girlfriend now, why are you being mean still?"

But, I guess not every one girl is the same.
Thanks for the advice, i'll be hanging out with her tomorow.

 

[john paul]

I had the same thing happen to me before, more than once.

HB8 was crazy about me and i had no idea because, well, girls are weird. Some of them never give off any interest signs. This girl told all my friends and everyone else she knows that she can't stop thinking about me. I wasn't even trying to game her, but when i had people coming telling me this, i was like, cool i got this girl already.

So AFC me asked her out right away and made her my girlfriend. yea, soooo AFC, i know. :box: I should've made myself a challenge and made her work for me. But i didn't! more punches to the face. :box: OK i feel better now. anyways, it doesn't end here. so more punches coming my way.

Before HB8 always wanted to wear my sweaters, especially my lettermen jacket but i only let her wear them as a reward for doing something for me. But when we started going out, i let her take my jacket home the first time she asked me. i know, i deserve more than punches on this super AFC move. :kick:

Eventually she lost interest and we broke up. This was good because I learned a big lesson.

So Don't Change once you start going out with her. Be exactly how you are now! Like Eklipse said, be unpredictable and don't lose that upper hand to her.

...Peace!

Did you get your letter jacket back when you broke up?
My girlfriend has some of my clothes which i dont care becaue most of it was too small but she has one shirt that still fits me.
Think its afc to ask for it back or should i just forget about it when we finally break up?

 

[Huffman]

If you want it, ask for it. You should care sh!t for what she thinks - after all, you just want your stylish shirt back.

 

[Genghis_Khan]

Did you get your letter jacket back when you broke up?
My girlfriend has some of my clothes which i dont care becaue most of it was too small but she has one shirt that still fits me.
Think its afc to ask for it back or should i just forget about it when we finally break up?

Yeah i got my jacket back.

couple of my ex girlfriends still have some of my clothes. i don't ask for them back cuz i don't really care. It's not AFC to ask for your shirt if you want it, but i've heard girls say "oh, he wants all his stuff back. I guess it's really over!" So girls take it as the end of the relationship.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I made a post before on Keeping Interest In a Long Term Relationship. But, the same can apply for when you first start dating. Here is the link:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136122

 

[Triple T]

I made a post before on Keeping Interest In a Long Term Relationship. But, the same can apply for when you first start dating. Here is the link:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136122

yo thanks man, great post!
I also like the format of it, doesn't make it boring to read...nice colors

I got most of it down, except for the jealousy part, that just drives me nuts and turns me AFC. I'll work on it with this one though
ahh crap..i forgot what i was going to ask...i'll post later when it comes back.