Alright DJ's a little help here. I was dating this chick and things went exceptionally well. I will spare the details and speech she gave me but the bottom line is she has mistakenly decided to try going back to her ex. I know it's only a matter of time before she realizes her mistake but I want her to keep me in mind. Now, since she told about her decision I have not, and will not, call her as if I'm begging. I let her walk and that's that. But my concern is by doing that, she'll think I am no longer interested when things go wrong with her ex. Which they certainly will. If she doesn't hear from me I'm making it easy to forget me or present myself as an option she should have stuck with. She isn't thinking right now but will come around and I want her to know she can still try me. I'm not hung up on this chick but don't want to burn any bridges. I'm old enough to know life's little circles and she'll be available again. If she's lucky, I will be too. So how do I keep a foothold while waiting for her to wise up?
How to keep a foothold?
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NewMan
Master Don Juan
Don't call her - as your doing.
She will call you when the time is right - that maybe a month down the line - but it perhaps will happen.
The point is - don't hang on - go meet other chicks.
You sound like you have your Sh#t together, so I don't think this will be an issue.
When she does call don't be an emotional tampon - just be light and fun - things are going awesome for you - she will pick up on this vibe - your busy doing fun stuff - and that will peak her interest levels.
If she does want to come back - it's important that she doesn't play both sides of the fence - and test the waters with you first.
She should cut it off completely with her ex before you start spending quality time with her.
She will call you when the time is right - that maybe a month down the line - but it perhaps will happen.
The point is - don't hang on - go meet other chicks.
You sound like you have your Sh#t together, so I don't think this will be an issue.
When she does call don't be an emotional tampon - just be light and fun - things are going awesome for you - she will pick up on this vibe - your busy doing fun stuff - and that will peak her interest levels.
If she does want to come back - it's important that she doesn't play both sides of the fence - and test the waters with you first.
She should cut it off completely with her ex before you start spending quality time with her.
Letting her know that you are still an option if she breaks up with her ex is the wrong thing to do.
If you're still single when it happens then she'll know you are an option.
The idea is to be in demand. She should know that you are a guy that many women want. Letting her know you are waiting for her to breakup with this guy kind of kills all that doesn't it?
If you're still single when it happens then she'll know you are an option.
The idea is to be in demand. She should know that you are a guy that many women want. Letting her know you are waiting for her to breakup with this guy kind of kills all that doesn't it?
TheLadiesMan
Master Don Juan
Dude.. let this one go..... for real.... if she comes crawling back, get her to service you. then tell her to keep crawling.... you ain't nobody's second choice.
If her ex decides to get cute over the current situation, tell him it's your jizz he'll be tastin' when he's kissin her. F*ck that dude... move on.
If her ex decides to get cute over the current situation, tell him it's your jizz he'll be tastin' when he's kissin her. F*ck that dude... move on.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Don't get it? What's your purpose?
You were only a point in a long line of a continium of pimps to be had. You are no one special, you are just the next in line and were an easy target to be had to replace her momentary disillusionment with her prior beau. Do nothing, she'll do what she wishes when she wishes!!!
You were only a point in a long line of a continium of pimps to be had. You are no one special, you are just the next in line and were an easy target to be had to replace her momentary disillusionment with her prior beau. Do nothing, she'll do what she wishes when she wishes!!!
You make me laugh with this 5hit, but it's terrible advice bro. A DJ has to use his brain. You can't jump to extreme conclusions.
The world is not black and white. It's dynamic. Every situation is it's own. All things being equal you might actually be her first choice, but she has a history with him and she's only showing loyalty. You can't knock her for that. If you knock a woman for being loyal then you potentially treat a good attribute badly. Maybe it won't work out with him because all she can do is think about you and get wet at night. It's plausable.
This is the polar opposite of the chick that cheats on her boyfriend with you so you don't wanna be with her cause your afraid she'll cheat on you with someone else. It's commendable that she's showing some loyalty. The only way you could logically be her second choice to her ex is if she had the same amount of time with you as she did with him. If she's been with him 2 years then she would have to be with you 2 years to make a fair assessment. After that she could sit down and go "Hmmm which is better". That's would be all things being equal.
They are NOT equal however. You have no history with her. It's not fair to say she's second choicing you. She might be based on her quick impression of you, but it's not certain.The best thing you can do is understand the situation is not yours to control. Move on and do what you do. Let chance take over. She's familiar with you now. That's good. If she wants some she'll come knocking.