How to increase confidence

[skinnyguy]

It seems like a big problem a lot of guys have is that they are not confident enough. Fine, but how do you increase it on your own?

I want you to picture the biggest beta: he's short, looks funny, and gets really nervous around women. What would you recommend to him that he do?

I know that hitting the gym is something that you can do but it takes a long time. What can you do in the immediate future to bolster your self esteem and confidence?

 

[sylvester the cat]

waste of time

 

[skinnyguy]

Sad that you have to resort to ad hominem attacks on me when I'm clearly trying to get better, but I appreciate your advice. I will check it out after I'm done with work today.

 

[Rave18]

http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/djbc.pdf

 

[Bible_Belt]

Go and find a den of killers and be their punching bag for a few years. That's what I did.

http://www.worldteamusa.com/#

http://www.fightandfitness.com/fnf/

http://barrabrothersacademy.com/

Jake Shields used to train and teach at World Team in the bay area, not sure if he still does, but just getting to train with a world class fighter like that is an incredible opportunity. I trained under a world champ in bjj who signed with Strikeforce and demanded to fight the best in the world immediately, even though he had never fought mma. They matched him with Jake Shields, who beat the living daylights out of him.

I'm sure you'll ignore this advice, because you're scared of anything difficult or painful. The reason you don't have confidence is that deep down you know you're a pvssy. Stop being a pvssy, and you'll have confidence. Otherwise you're just trying to fool yourself, which is never going to happen.

If you're insulted by being called a pvssy, I dare you to prove me wrong.

 

[thunderbolt]

change of attitude

 

[skinnyguy]

Go and find a den of killers and be their punching bag for a few years. That's what I did.

http://www.worldteamusa.com/#

http://www.fightandfitness.com/fnf/

http://barrabrothersacademy.com/

Jake Shields used to train and teach at World Team in the bay area, not sure if he still does, but just getting to train with a world class fighter like that is an incredible opportunity. I trained under a world champ in bjj who signed with Strikeforce and demanded to fight the best in the world immediately, even though he had never fought mma. They matched him with Jake Shields, who beat the living daylights out of him.

I'm sure you'll ignore this advice, because you're scared of anything difficult or painful. The reason you don't have confidence is that deep down you know you're a pvssy. Stop being a pvssy, and you'll have confidence. Otherwise you're just trying to fool yourself, which is never going to happen.

If you're insulted by being called a pvssy, I dare you to prove me wrong.

This is why SOS is going down the tubes. People come on here asking for genuine advice, and complete dbags like yourself go off calling them a pvssy. It's clear you don't get laid because you make fun of other men on here just like that moron PlayHer Man did. I'm interested in hearing about what Atom smasher has to say about my question because he actually puts effort into his responses.

 

[sylvester the cat]

I'm interested in hearing about what Atom smasher has to say about my question because he actually puts effort into his responses.

why dont you PM atomsmasher then and stop wasting everyone else's time. i swear you just post threads as an excuse to kick off.

fvcking crybaby.

 

[_sideways_]

Ok...to put effort in this answer....

Whats holding you down? Whats ur weak spots...how does ur appearane look...how skinny are you.

What do u think u need to improve. Ill tell u right now...if u upgrade ur weak parts, youll gain a little more self esteem.
Put ur facebook up so we can see what we r working here with.

Just dont ask...what can i do to be more confident, instantly,bbecause the gym takes too long.

Short answer: therapy....or legal drugs, or illegal...who cares.

You need more help than a website of azzholes and jerks can offer you lol

 

[zekko]

It seems like a big problem a lot of guys have is that they are not confident enough. Fine, but how do you increase it on your own?

I want you to picture the biggest beta: he's short, looks funny, and gets really nervous around women. What would you recommend to him that he do?

Generally speaking, confidence comes from your experiences. Problem is, most guys have average experiences, so they only have average confidence.

To achieve excellence, you have to commit to achieving excellence. Once you work hard at achieving it, then you begin to have confidence in your abilities. I used to play in rock bands, and what gave me confidence was all the work and preparation I had put in, as well as the positive feedback I had received.

Seduction is trickier, because at any one time there may be a number of variables that are beyond your control. Which is why you have to be willing to accept a certain amount of rejection as part of the process. This was always a sticking point for me when I was younger, I hated the rejection. But you have to plow through. I knew from experience that there were certain types of women who were attracted to me, I just had to find them.

 

[Bible_Belt]

This is why SOS is going down the tubes. People come on here asking for genuine advice, and complete dbags like yourself go off calling them a pvssy. It's clear you don't get laid because you make fun of other men on here just like that moron PlayHer Man did.

No, sosuave has gone down the tubes because it is full of pvssies like yourself who are too scared to do what it takes to improve yourself. You won't do anything difficult or painful, because you know you're too weak. That's where confidence comes from. It's not knowing that you will succeed; it's knowing that you are at least going to try. Failure is ten times better than being a pvssy who runs away from a challenge.

 

[void957]

It seems like a big problem a lot of guys have is that they are not confident enough. Fine, but how do you increase it on your own?

I want you to picture the biggest beta: he's short, looks funny, and gets really nervous around women. What would you recommend to him that he do?

I know that hitting the gym is something that you can do but it takes a long time. What can you do in the immediate future to bolster your self esteem and confidence?

ok, so a few people here have posted **** whilst other have given some genuine advice. Let me touch on the subject.

In order to get confidence , you must not care about what others think, neither should you compare YOUR actions to other and their actions. For example, just because none of your friends do cold approaches does not mean that youre going to be like them. You must be willing to be different, not just will to be different THINK to be different. As Bruce Lee said "As you think, so shall you become". You MUST train your mind to how you want it to think.

When you see a girl do not think of how shes going to react or what she will say, also do not change your body language and behaviour because she did not respond the way you wanted. ALWAYS keep it the same, in the first few seconds girls WILL be resistant as theyre judging you (which is natural). So if youre going to develop the same behaviour as them in the first few seconds then you will **** up because you have obviously lost confidence in your self. Dont ever do that, because you are the prize to be won, and they are not to be put on a pedestal . YOU are on the pedestal, you decide how the conversation flows , not the girl because you are the dominant person, the confident man , the Don Juan.


hope i helped you,


last thing "As you think, so shall you become" , keep that in mind. If you think youre a boss, you will act like one, and eventually become one. Whereas if you think youre the average Joe , you will turn into something no one will take a second look at.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

This is why SOS is going down the tubes. People come on here asking for genuine advice, and complete dbags like yourself go off calling them a pvssy. It's clear you don't get laid because you make fun of other men on here just like that moron PlayHer Man did. I'm interested in hearing about what Atom smasher has to say about my question because he actually puts effort into his responses.

The reason why SS is going down the tubes is because it's filled with pussies like you who can't see good advice when it slaps them across the face.

I was going to throw in my real world 2 cents about how I had gained confidence when I was down and out. However, you'd probably ignore it, or complain about it. So, instead of taxing my brain for a pu$$y like you, I'm just going to tell you to Go Fvck Yourself.

And if this is a bannable offense, I don't really give two $hits. I am the prize, not your a$$, or even this forum.

 

[skinnyguy]

you should know by now that no one here is going to coddle you. nobody owes you a bed of roses.

you can blame your looks, race, women, other men all you want but the problem will always be you. your attitude and mentality.

what bothers me the most is that you start threads like youre attempting to enlighten people or correct the perceived wrongs you see in game advice. thats even more damaging to the new guys who are attempting to unplug that need that final push to start really being introspective and say "these guys are right, ive been a acting like a bltch my whole life, time for a change"

its hard enough that AFCs dont want to change and if they keep seeing threads like yours that throws away the ideas that dont align with your AFC mindset its just gonna take these guys that much longer to liberate themselves.

you need to step away from SS for a good long while. say a year. and focus on nothing but gaining some life experience. what you dont realize is that you have a super sensitive ego, youre outcome dependent, you have 0 will power, and you blame others for your own issues. this is not the stuff of men. this is the stuff of women and children.

grow up, adapt and survive or die

Wow, that was so helpful. I know I will now succeed with women because of what you said.

 

[zekko]

Funny you mentioned Atom Smasher, because he said something in another thread that I thought fits here:

This is another great example of what I call "assumed authority". You need to get to a place internally where your own frame is as solid and real as the very ground you walk on.

How do you get there? Outcome detachment. You detach from the external outcome and embrace the REAL outcome. The REAL outcome is that you acted, regardless of others' reactions. Bank.

In other words: Concentrate on the fact that you are putting in the work, and make that your success, rather than whether or not you get rejected. It's a numbers game. If you ask out enough women, one will eventually say yes.

Atom Smasher's quote was from this thread, by the way:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=219988

 

[_sideways_]

Funny you mentioned Atom Smasher, because he said something in another thread that I thought fits here:

In other words: Concentrate on the fact that you are putting in the work, and make that your success, rather than whether or not you get rejected. It's a numbers game. If you ask out enough women, one will eventually say yes.

Atom Smasher's quote was from this thread, by the way:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=219988

He has said that he doesnt like the numbers game.

Would rather spend time with his hand than to go out unnecessarily talking to numerous low quality women who arent up to his standards...which is basically an actress or bikini model.

 

[_sideways_]

depedestalize women take the red pill depedestalize women take the red pill depedestalize women take the red pill depedestalize women take the red pill..

Lol...that was covered like in the first five minutes of class

 

[Ronaldo7]

He has said that he doesnt like the numbers game.

Would rather spend time with his hand than to go out unnecessarily talking to numerous low quality women who arent up to his standards...which is basically an actress or bikini model.

I disagree with the OP and his lack of initiative to change something, but what's wrong with having standards? Are you supposed to settle to be a conformist? If you can't envision what you want to achieve, you'll never obtain it.

 

[Alvafe]

I disagree with the OP and his lack of initiative to change something, but what's wrong with having standards? Are you supposed to settle to be a conformist? If you can't envision what you want to achieve, you'll never obtain it.

having standards are all ok and nice, but he refuse to even entretain the idea of flirting with girls just for the sake of it, be it to show a cool outlook and the most important gather experience,

serious when you go out and do it you take notice you never would do certain things with fear of looking improper or for her hating you.

but lets ignore the stupid answer and skinny background history we know and thing he finally are trying to improve.

you want confidence? what skill set you have? what you can do or not? what you want to do and never did be it by fear or lack of will to do so? go and try to do it.

what I did? I always wanted to do skydive but never really had the courage to try, I also wanted to get back to the strenght I had and was losing after a knee injury,and wanted to go back to fighting with school and my studies I had to stop,
so after a crash with a girl I had, I did this go back to gym (since my chinese box I was doing closed for lack of students), then I heard some people in that gym talking about skydiving and I took that chance to do so,and I didn't know anyone who was going, so taking that chance and pretty much almost invited me to go over, they did ask if anyone also wanted to go, butto me that was pretty much going pretty out of what I normally would do, and in doing so I get a new group of friends.

so a short version would be, try to do things you normally would never do, take any chance who shows up without fear and take the risk, you need more experience and staying in front of the computer will never give you that