How To Identify Borderline Personality?

[Tyrion]

In that 20 something percent are men with the so called “Dark Triad” personality disorders of Narcissism, Psychopathy & Machiavellianism.

A lot of women find some of the personality traits in the dark triad highly attractive and some of the behaviours endorsed on this forum are emulating these traits.

 

[soulforge]

In that 20 something percent are men with the so called “Dark Triad” personality disorders of Narcissism, Psychopathy & Machiavellianism.

A lot of women find some of the personality traits in the dark triad highly attractive and some of the behaviours endorsed on this forum are emulating these traits.

What behaviours endorsed on this forum are you talking about?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I can confirm that Dark Triad behavior is attractive to most women. If you read the description of each of the traits you will be able to map them to behaviors we encourage men to mimic.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

If anyone wants to do a test (not conclusive, but potentially indicative) to determine how they score for dark triad:

Dark Triad Personality Test

Test matching your answers to the crowd-sourced profiles of fictional characters.

openpsychometrics.org

If anyone wants to do a test (not conclusive, but potentially indicative) to determine how they score for dark triad:

Dark Triad Personality Test

Test matching your answers to the crowd-sourced profiles of fictional characters.

openpsychometrics.org

 

[Bible_Belt]

No consistent career path late 20s, inability to fully take care of themself and always needed family or a guy to supplement

I was coming back to this thread to say the same thing. I forgot to put that one on my list earlier.

For the guys thinking bpd for a girl who works an actual job, she's probably just histronic personality. It's a spectrum. BPD is at the extreme end. More highly functioning women can be on the spectrum, yet not quite bpd.

 

[Tyrion]

What behaviours endorsed on this forum are you talking about?

Confidence (Narc’s fake it and are

What behaviours endorsed on this forum are you talking about?

Confidense: (Narc’s fake it and very fragile. Psycho’s genuinely feel they are superior.

Superficial charm
Fearlessness
Risk taking
Mental strength: Unbreakable with Psycho’s
Pursuing their goals with no regard to who gets in their way.
Manipulative

The dark triad personality types are we you call the Alpha males.

There are articles written on the internet by women who are fully aware that they have fallen and continue to fall for dark triad men.
It’s almost as if women fall for men who can authentically out manipulate them.

I’m in not saying that the endorsed behaviours are this forum are in any way bad. We’re here to try and improve our dating lives.

 

[logicallefty]

Dealing with a borderline now, my neighbor. As many of you know, I recently went thru a divorce and moved to Florida. Met my neighbor three doors down. Very unique woman. She flat out admits she is a borderline. Told me she was still in love with her ex. Then asked me to spend the night. I thought “Shoot ok i just moved here and she hot AF i will break the seal in my new State with her. “We fvcked like 8 times. Then i met this hot babe from Puerto Rico at a BBQ joint. She is actually relationship material. Now the BPD neighbor is jealous and flat out told me she wants more from me than being neighbors and a good fvck.. I’m not falling for this one again though. You guys all know my history if you have been around long enough. I guess the interesting take away I have on her for now is that she actually admits that she is a BPD. Admits it and owns it.. I’ve never seen that with a woman with mental health issues before.

 

[soulforge]

Dealing with a borderline now, my neighbor. As many of you know, I recently went thru a divorce and moved to Florida. Met my neighbor three doors down. Very unique woman. She flat out admits she is a borderline. Told me she was still in love with her ex. Then asked me to spend the night. I thought “Shoot ok i just moved here and she hot AF i will break the seal in my new State with her. “We fvcked like 8 times. Then i met this hot babe from Puerto Rico at a BBQ joint. She is actually relationship material. Now the BPD neighbor is jealous and flat out told me she wants more from me than being neighbors and a good fvck.. I’m not falling for this one again though. You guys all know my history if you have been around long enough. I guess the interesting take away I have on her for now is that she actually admits that she is a BPD. Admits it and owns it.. I’ve never seen that with a woman with mental health issues before.

Yeh some chicks know they are broken & upfront will tell you, whom they are (Listen to them)

My ex upfront kinda hinted at she might be bipolar, or atleast has some mental health issues including depression. So obviously she isn't going to act like a healthy person for a healthy relationship.

Most chicks will tell on themselves.

 

[jaygreenb]

I was coming back to this thread to say the same thing. I forgot to put that one on my list earlier.

For the guys thinking bpd for a girl who works an actual job, she's probably just histronic personality. It's a spectrum. BPD is at the extreme end. More highly functioning women can be on the spectrum, yet not quite bpd.

Agree, although only takes a few of those traits to get dog walked. Full on diagnosis, usually can not stick to anything but short term before they blow it up

 

[soulforge]

I suppose it boils down to not letting her beauty/***** blind you to her red flags.

It's difficult not to feel sorry for girls like this, however it's the "feeling sorry" for them because of there Traumatic past, is what keeps us in the situation longer (trying to fix her)

The longer we try to fix the situation, the more damage we take on.

I count myself lucky I got out 8-9 months in, some poor guy got one of these crazy girls pregnant and is stuck with her for years to come.

What I found extremely difficult with this type of damaged woman is, that they are extremely effectionate & submissive at times, then they suddenly turn into monsters.

Anyone experienced guilt after Dumping or walking away from a toxic chick?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I counsel women with C-PTSD. Some have BPD, which is immediately obvious by their flirting and their attempts to sexually manipulate me, as they need to be in control.

 

[Rainman4707]

I'm not even sure if I have ever dealt with a borderline personality.

I'm sure most modern women have some type of mental health issue or disorder these days, due to the amount of random c0ck they are taking.

Anyway some of you guys have been burnt by a genuine BDP before?

My question is, which red flags are very common with BDP girls? What signs do us men need to be aware of, so we can plan an exit strategy.

By the way, if she lost interest & began treating you like garbage, that doesn't mean she is BDP... She just lost interest, even the nicest of girl will treat you like crap, once she loses interest.

I think my GF is likely bipolar. She is very similar to the boxer Tyson Fury. I just watched bits of his new tv series on netflix. He comes up with an idea of flying him and his father to naples. Just randomly like that, leaving his wife and kids at home. Tysons father spends all day packing his bags and preparing....only for tyson to call and say he is'nt going anymore. Living with someone like Tyson is like living with a six year old child. His mood changes a LOT. He can be very happy for a few hours planning exotic trips away and then suddenly go to feeling VERY DOWN.
My girlfriend can be very nasty to me for a full day, insult me VERY badly, then when she feels better she expects everything to be forgotten about.

 

[soulforge]

I think my GF is likely bipolar. She is very similar to the boxer Tyson Fury. I just watched bits of his new tv series on netflix. He comes up with an idea of flying him and his father to naples. Just randomly like that, leaving his wife and kids at home. Tysons father spends all day packing his bags and preparing....only for tyson to call and say he is'nt going anymore. Living with someone like Tyson is like living with a six year old child. His mood changes a LOT. He can be very happy for a few hours planning exotic trips away and then suddenly go to feeling VERY DOWN.
My girlfriend can be very nasty to me for a full day, insult me VERY badly, then when she feels better she expects everything to be forgotten about.

Isn't this the one that you said is giving you amazing sex?

 

[Rainman4707]

Isn't this the one that you said is giving you amazing sex?

Yes.

 

[soulforge]

I think my GF is likely bipolar. She is very similar to the boxer Tyson Fury. I just watched bits of his new tv series on netflix. He comes up with an idea of flying him and his father to naples. Just randomly like that, leaving his wife and kids at home. Tysons father spends all day packing his bags and preparing....only for tyson to call and say he is'nt going anymore. Living with someone like Tyson is like living with a six year old child. His mood changes a LOT. He can be very happy for a few hours planning exotic trips away and then suddenly go to feeling VERY DOWN.
My girlfriend can be very nasty to me for a full day, insult me VERY badly, then when she feels better she expects everything to be forgotten about.

So she treating you like crap, but you stay with her.

 

[Rainman4707]

Y

So she treating you like crap, but you stay with her.

You've got a bit of a cheek after all your threads about that russian bird

 

[soulforge]

Y

You've got a bit of a cheek after all your threads about that russian bird

I left her though. Your still in the crapper, just saying you're openly telling us she treats you like poop.. It's a valid question why you ain't leaving her.

 

[Rainman4707]

I left her though. Your still in the crapper, just saying you're openly telling us she treats you like poop.. It's a valid question why you ain't leaving her.

I have a thread about her. Majority of posters on here rightly think i'm bat *hit crazy for being with her. She has loads of red flags, bipolar, depressed, alcoholic.

Reason why i'm with her. I have a great connection with her, yes i've shagged loads of women in the past, but never had a connection like this. I know that is not a good enough reason to have a toxic women in my life. She is brilliant in bed and a fantastic cook. I'm having my fun with her. I can handle her. However even my own family have strongly warned me that this woman will RUIN my life. My gf has made threats to ring the police on me a me. Sounds insane i know.

 

[soulforge]

I have a thread about her. Majority of posters on here rightly think i'm bat *hit crazy for being with her. She has loads of red flags, bipolar, depressed, alcoholic.

Reason why i'm with her. I have a great connection with her, yes i've shagged loads of women in the past, but never had a connection like this. I know that is not a good enough reason to have a toxic women in my life. She is brilliant in bed and a fantastic cook. I'm having my fun with her. I can handle her. However even my own family have strongly warned me that this woman will RUIN my life. My gf has made threats to ring the police on me a me. Sounds insane i know.

I understand you're enjoying the sex/connection etc.. However the danger is, she might come to the conclusion some day soon, that this guy tolerates too much, I can treat him anyway I want and he takes it.

This could lead to her losing respect and leaving you.

 

[mbc0029]

I can't say for sure, I've never come across a BPD girl, as far as I can tell.

But I have a cousin, who I've hung out with quite a bit, and he has BPD.

He's a cool dude when he's in a good mood. He gets easily obsessed with certain topics, and I think that's what keeps him from going off the hinges. I'm sure he takes medicine. He also smokes pot a lot, so I'm sure that doesn't help.

The main thing I've noticed is unstable moods.

We'll be talking about random stuff, and he'll suddenly get very intense about the topic. And I'll let him talk and rant about whatever it is. He'll talk your head off about whatever he's obsessed with. Usually, it's something like constellations and science related stuff.

He's cool to hang with on occasion, but living with him as a roommate would be a no go.

I would imagine being with a girl who has BPD, and knowing how they can't separate the emotions from the guy they're with has to be a recipe for disaster.

Initially, I wouldn't be able to tell unless I had a conversation with the girl, and let her talk.

Combine instability in mood with the emotional state of women (leading with emotion), and you'll be able to see something's off when she's talking. Even if you can't tell it's BPD.