How to hint your girl to cut

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The title is confusing so I'll write it properly. IE stores my titles for some reason!

how do you get your girl to lose weight without showing disrespect?


I've searched the forums for previous related topics to no avail...


My girl sees me about twice a week. She's got ambition and dedication to work which probably comes first over her size. She is not skinny and it would not suit her to be like that, however she could look much better if she lost a little weight in her face and body, maybe 7-8 pounds.

How can I tell her this without coming across as assinine? I think she's put on a little since we've been together :)


I can't suggest she comes to the gym with me because we don't get much time together. Also, I am bulking, so it's a conflicting process.
 

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You're into fitness, so just get in discussions about health and nutrition, and eventually she's likely to incorporate what she learns from you into her own routine. If you're becoming the most buff guy on the block, so to speak, don't expect it to be lost on her.

You can also share some activities like bike riding, volleyball, whatever she might enjoy that provides light cardio, but not enough to adversely affect your bulking regimen.
 

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Lead by example.

People are much more likely to join you, rather than be told to do something.

Tell her that you're going to the gym, and ask her if she wants to come.

Tell her blatantly, with a smile, that she's looking a tad "porky" lately. Just be honest with her, and it will get her thinking/self-conscious.

Next time you go to the gym, you can bet that she'll be along with you.

Lead by example, and you'll gain followers.

I've got my family into fitness, not by telling and nagging them to be healthy, but by being healthy myself and having it pay dividends. Suddenly now my whole family goes to the gym acouple times a week, and takes protein shakes...All I did was throw afew offhand comments about "porkyness" out there, and it got them thinking.

Luckily my gf already does the gym thing on her own.
 

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Lion said:
how do you get your girl to lose weight without showing disrespect?
Words are not your friend. Are you working out? Are you active? Where is da competition?

No I am not saying that you should cheat on her.

You can not TALK about it, yet you have to motivate her to lose weight else she will lose you. You have demand, yet you're with her because of XYZ qualities she has. But her weight gain turned you off, and she has to get rid of it. Get it?

This all must be communicated covertly.

I for one would not keep a GF who became fat. I keep myself as neat as I can, and I AM a natural fat guy. Like 26% b.f. without pigging out on the food. Remember that I am in Brazil and we eat better (read: less fat) than Americans, so I make the effort and I demand the same.

Lion said:
How can I tell her this without coming across as assinine? I think she's put on a little since we've been together :)
No way. If you SAY anything to her you're dead meat.

Lion said:
I can't suggest she comes to the gym with me because we don't get much time together. Also, I am bulking, so it's a conflicting process.
She has to be properly motivated to do it. Talk and you'll be seen as manipulative. She might as well bring in the classic "what's on the inside that counts" and you'll not get out of it easily. Think about it.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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It's thin ice, my friend, thin, thin ice. To say that women are a little sensitive about their weight is possibly the world's largest understatement. If you make her feel fat, she will lose attraction for you. Fat is the opposite of sexy. If you make her feel sexy, you will have lots of great sex. Call her fat one time, and everything can change. Do as the other posters have suggested and be very subtle, lead by example. If she ever accuses you of thinking that she is fat, deny it forever.
 

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Thank you for all your responses.

When with her last night, I mentioned how I am always hungry as I am doing weights.

She said "you don't need to do them, I like you just the way you are" !!!


She doesn't eat often enough, when we went out, she skipped dinner because I had already eaten. Maybe she has a slowwww metabolism. Really slow! Mine is fast.




I will put the things you mentioned into practice.
 
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