Hey guys,
first some background:
First of all, these are my observations as an "outsider" so I can't really go into much detail about the actual relationship. Anyway; here goes.
Me and my buddy are members of a student club that deals a lot with foreign exchange students, we're both 25. The average expat stays here for about 6 months to 1 year, after which they obviously go home again. Basically you never see them again, possibly if you go to visit them or via Facebook, Skype and such. Now here's the "problem" :
My best friend - lets call him Bob - has been together with one of these exchange students - a girl obviously - for about 8 months now. Like any other, she did her term and went back home. Now, at some point during this relationship the notion of going to live together was brought up. She, however is not prepared to move, he, however is. Recently, she's beginning to have doubts about whether they should go live together and if this is all such a good idea and all that - you know.
So Bob has basically collapsed emotionally, cried his heart out to me and avoids the topic of the relationship like the plague.
When I think of the things I know about DJing, this comes across as kinda ( a lot ) needy like for example he goes to visit her abroad, but she doesn't return the favor. They are both students so its not a money issue.
As for the actual problem... We have been friends for a loooong time since high school so we are pretty close for both being guys and all. We talk a lot about all kinds of stuff and I help where I can, but I'm at a loss here. I have zero experience with women myself so that doesn't help either.
Any advice on this guys?
English is not my mothertongue, so sorry if some parts might be "weird".
first some background:
First of all, these are my observations as an "outsider" so I can't really go into much detail about the actual relationship. Anyway; here goes.
Me and my buddy are members of a student club that deals a lot with foreign exchange students, we're both 25. The average expat stays here for about 6 months to 1 year, after which they obviously go home again. Basically you never see them again, possibly if you go to visit them or via Facebook, Skype and such. Now here's the "problem" :
My best friend - lets call him Bob - has been together with one of these exchange students - a girl obviously - for about 8 months now. Like any other, she did her term and went back home. Now, at some point during this relationship the notion of going to live together was brought up. She, however is not prepared to move, he, however is. Recently, she's beginning to have doubts about whether they should go live together and if this is all such a good idea and all that - you know.
So Bob has basically collapsed emotionally, cried his heart out to me and avoids the topic of the relationship like the plague.
When I think of the things I know about DJing, this comes across as kinda ( a lot ) needy like for example he goes to visit her abroad, but she doesn't return the favor. They are both students so its not a money issue.
As for the actual problem... We have been friends for a loooong time since high school so we are pretty close for both being guys and all. We talk a lot about all kinds of stuff and I help where I can, but I'm at a loss here. I have zero experience with women myself so that doesn't help either.
Any advice on this guys?
English is not my mothertongue, so sorry if some parts might be "weird".
