How to have energy of 20s when you are in 30s

[KingBeef]

I think I know where you're coming from... How to get that young 20's exuberance back when you're in your 30's or older. This will vary from person to person but this helps me a lot and works great....

In the 90's (I was in my teens) one of my favorite artists of all time was Ol,' Dirty Bastard, to me...one of the funniest, rawest, ridiculous, raunchiest, etc rappers out there, ever existed. His songs were utterly ridiculous, out of this world yet hilarious. Most of his songs consisted of, He didn't give a f*ck , try to beat someone some up and ramble about b*tches!! :crackup: :crackup: HILLARIOUS

If I ever needed to get in the mood to go out on the town and feel energized or in the mood or whatever. I would listen to one of his songs and I was like on cloud 9 because It was funny, it took me back and I didn't care....

Try to find something that you can relate to back in your youth (passion, hobby, something you did) that made you feel excited, full of life that no matter what's going on around you your on the top of the world and nothing is going to bring you down....

 

[Ambition Now]

I think the energy question may be related with goals and ambition.

I was in the same place you are a few months back, due to some work / women / family / health frustrations in my life I started feeling depressed and with no goals or enthusiasm in my life, everything seemed to be very tiring and I was always avoiding lots of things in my life due to the lack of energy.

I think it's kind of a process to go through some phases like this in life.

I woudnt worry too much about it, instead, try to focus as best as you can in your goals, this is very important. Now that Im feeling better I can totally relate my energy levels with keeping focused on my goals.

In the end, different people and situations will pass through your life and the only thing you have is yourself and your dreams. This should be your main focus in life.

Physical exercise is really important to recover from this low energy phases. I like running, weight lifting, boxing, yoga... meditation is also very helpful.

Other thing you may be worrying too much is about body language. You dont need to be very energetic with your body language in order to feel powerful and full of energy. Think of Clint Eastwood or Bruce Lee, I wouldnt say that they just won a free new car, but they have very powerfull and deep personalities.

First you need to realize if you are more introverted or extroverted. If you are more introverted (like myself), trying to have a more happy and energetic body language will feel very unnatural, the key is to improve in some ways that are congruent with who you are.

 

[LiveFreeX]

I think its both experience and biology dude. I used to go out clubbing 3 to 4 nights a week, breakdance like crazy and then get up and goto school. In my 30's clubbing lost much of its appeal and now I do it once a month maybe to stay in shape or listen to some new dance music. Now, if I miss out on a night or two of sleep, I'm dead the entire week. When I was in my 20's I could have marathon sex for an entire day. If I manage to bang my wife twice in a day, I'm gonna have to take a nap..

No matter what new age mumbo jumbo bullcrap you listen to, both women and men start to decline after 30. You can have ambition out the wazoo and hit the gym everyday, eat right etc etc... but the fact is that you are getting older and your body is starting to breakdown slowly. You'll have more health issues, if you've lived a bit during your 20's you'll be much more apprehensive about life. I smashed up my hand a couple times punching in faces in my 20's, wiped out on a motorcycle, nearly died several times and took alot of stupid risks... now into my 30's I can't believe I was so reckless and stupid, I sit in amazement sometimes that I didn't end up in jail or worse. I'm not so eager to go out and see the world or have CRAZY experiences like I was in my 20's. And sex has lost a lot of its appeal, seeing as I've done it 1000's of times now. As a young man, I thought there was all sorts of mystery and challenge surrounding women, in my 30's I've come to realize, all of that was hollywood painted on bullsh1t and women are about as mysterious as a cold cup of coffee. You are going to start losing your hair, thats inevitable, you are going to start having strange pains once in awhile and become a bit more susceptible to getting sick, its just part of getting older.

In my 20's I was very fashionable and paid attention to my clothing, attitude, demeanor, I was very status concious. Now I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me and I pick my clothes in the morning by smell test. My sneakers have holes in them as do my jeans, and my main style consists of whatever is warmest that day. Before I was more concerned with what other guys thought of me and projecting myself as a masculine man... now if I want to watch Saturday morning cartoons, play Dungeons and Dragons and eat Pixie Sticks, ain't no Alpha obsessed motherfuvker gonna stand in my way.

My old man was a raging bull in his 20's, traveling the Earth, banging women, making money, now he's a little old man who's joy in life is waking up to see the sun.

So a combination of life experience, attitude and biology will slow you down as you get older. I think half of what we mistake for confidence in older men is actually just them not giving a fvck anymore. Our time on Earth is actually very short and extremely fragile, it would do more people well to remember that.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

what I am trying to say is how to be like some one just win a free new car , do you notice how they talk with happeness and energy , while some one just lost his job , look tiried and very low energy in the way he move or talk . it has nothing to do with clubbing , I see executives in their 50s have this energy , most likely because they feel the happiness of their achievements

You're right. It's got NOTHING to do with age. Well, maybe a little, but not much. It's got to START with your inner state. Inner game.

If you are genuinely happy about who you are, and what you are doing, and where you are going, AND (this is crucial) GENUINELY INTERESTED in the
person you're talking to, you'll be jaw-droppingly charismatic. People literally won't want to take their eyes off you.

This is true if you're 19 or 99.

But, on the other hand, if you're bored with life, don't like yourself very much, don't really care about who you're speaking with, you'll seem like the most boring guy on Earth.


ALWAYS REMEMBER that your outer behavior is a direct expression of your inner state.

So, to answer you're question, work on your inner state. Generate some hobbies, goals, plans etc, so there's ALWAYS GOOD STUFF in your future to look forward to.

 

[Oxide]

I think this comes when you start settling and life an stop taking as many risks. Life takes a lot just to stay at the level you're at, and people fold their hands. Well, you know, we get one turn on this ride, let's go after the next level, heck it will be fun to see what's there. Figure out what you want to try what excites you? Going to which country, trying which hobbies you always wanted to? What are your visions for the future? Start having some visions, start looking forward to accomplishing it. We are smarter now, we can't be naive and dream and just hope it will come true. We now understand it will take effort. But hey, if that's the dream/vision you desire, then effort is well worth it!


I know the only time I feel good is when I accomplish something. It really really sucks since I am a slacker by nature. Again, I think we simply understand now life takes effort at any level, just have to direct more efforts to what makes our future more like we want it, suck it up a bit and enjoy once some progress is made