I'll tell you what, life is short and overanalyzing a situation is a waste a time. Men are not supposed to do this in their true form, it just doesn't work. You are polluting your mindspace with negativity.
You should love yourself.
You should do what you want.
You should form the model of what YOU want to be, not what WE want you to be.
You should work your ass off to get it.
Change is something that can't be forced, you have to want to change. Until you really, truly want to, you won't.
Once you become an Alpha Male, you realize that you can never go back. No longer do you sit around and ponder how you can be approved. You realize that there is a world inside of you where your friends end. You are in charge of your life, and you have to have the courage to do this. It is courage and strength because in essence you are ALONE. You won't have people their to make you feel good about yourself, you may not have anyone at some times in your life. But if you just find what makes you happy, then everything else will come to you. You always, ALWAYS have yourself.
It's Priorities.
Girls should be low down on the list, but they should still be on the list. Girls are somewhere near number 8 on my priority list. Because I care about them. I can't stand seeing guys being rude and mean to girls because that's all they know. Treat girls with respect because they deserve it. It's even more attractive when you are kind, but strong and set in your personality. I'm not changing for anyone, but I truly have a softer side. It is part of that strong personality.
For whatever reason people relate being a badass player to being an *******. Girls just want courage, they want a man who knows what he wants, and then gets/takes it. You can be kind, or you can be an ******* that isn't what matters. It isn't what you say, it's what you do. I could sit around and tell knock, knock jokes the whole night but I can do it in a way that makes me sexual attractive and then I can TOUCH and make out with them.
That's fine, but they don't get Alpha Male status. Alpha Male status is acceptance of EVERYONE, but an understanding of life in that moment. The only way to be on top, is to CLIMB, and trust me, you're going to fall. The Omega Male gives up, the Alpha Male makes it to the top no matter what.
When you are on your way to the top, the girls will jump on with you. You will no longer wonder if you used the right technique because you will be knee deep in ass.