How to handle this Flake?

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She's not totally sold yet.
how long have you been working on this? it shouldn't take more than a couple weeks (at max), but basically whenever you've displayed all your most attractive personality traits in a natural way there's no more progress you can make without asking her out
 

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I just don't get it. The OP asked how to handle this when he sees her. Many good responses later the OP acts like he is making excuses as to why he can't be a man and ask her out.

I've said it before, is this what this forum has come to?

I wouldn't limp into the doctor to get feeling better to only tell him I'm not ready to feel better just yet.

Eye roll.
 

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how long have you been working on this? it shouldn't take more than a couple weeks (at max), but basically whenever you've displayed all your most attractive personality traits in a natural way there's no more progress you can make without asking her out
Its off an on. She seems a inexperienced. I may have to have her a tag along a time or two then do it.
 

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Its off an on. She seems a inexperienced. I may have to have her a tag along a time or two then do it.
you sound scared, lol.
 

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No Im confident that she does infact like me. I cant ask her out yet, but she was adamant about coming out.

But I see what you guys mean about it isn't really a flake.
You can't ask her out? What kind of nonsense statement is that.

Of course, you can ask her out, you simply aren't because you are not confident enough that she will say yes, want to continue your fantasy of thinking she is actually interested in you and not come crashing back to reality if she says no, or are too afraid to act.

There is no "magic" amount of time that you need to wait. You aren't tipping the odds in your favor by waiting, quite the opposite actually.
 

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You can't ask her out? What kind of nonsense statement is that.

Of course, you can ask her out, you simply aren't because you are not confident enough that she will say yes, want to continue your fantasy of thinking she is actually interested in you and not come crashing back to reality if she says no, or are too afraid to act.

There is no "magic" amount of time that you need to wait. You aren't tipping the odds in your favor by waiting, quite the opposite actually.

I think she does but wants to get to know me more.She always asked when she can see me again in the gym. And jumped at the chance to go to the film. She said this twice while cutting me off. I wasn't even asking her. I was saying what I was up to. If she didnt like me, she would have not cut me off twice and insisted to go.She impulsively said this. Her enthusiasm was instant.

She chickened out. She probably over thought it and that got the best of her. She was to impulsive in wanting to go. She most likely likes me and that made her want to go so badly. a lot of women do that.
 
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I think she does but wants to get to know me more.She always asked when she can see me again in the gym. And jumped at the chance to go to the film. She said this twice while cutting me off. I wasn't even asking her. I was saying what I was up to. If she didnt like me, she would have not cut me off twice and insisted to go.She impulsively said this. Her enthusiasm was instant.

She chickened out. She probably over thought it and that got the best of her. She was to impulsive in wanting to go. She most likely likes me and that made her want to go so badly. a lot of women do that.
This is such bullish!t. Act like a man and stop being a b!tch and ask her out on a date.
 

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I think she does but wants to get to know me more.She always asked when she can see me again in the gym. And jumped at the chance to go to the film. She said this twice while cutting me off. I wasn't even asking her. I was saying what I was up to. If she didnt like me, she would have not cut me off twice and insisted to go.She impulsively said this. Her enthusiasm was instant.

She chickened out. She probably over thought it and that got the best of her. She was to impulsive in wanting to go. She most likely likes me and that made her want to go so badly. a lot of women do that.
Are you a troll? Serious question.

Not to sound mean, but this thread smells like a troll or absolutely zero common sense on your part.

You say she likes you. You obviously like her.

That is called interest. 1+1= 2. So most people who have any social skills in this situation with a man card would ask her out. You are being a complete b!tch and almost waiting for her to ask you out. Is that what you're doing? Waiting for her to dry hump you at the gym? Because thats not how this works.

She shows interest.....and she has. You pick up on it......which you have. You ask her out directly, she says yes or no. If she says yes, you go out for drinks, make her laugh, listen attentively, kino her and try to smash her. Its actually a really simple process.

You are making this WAAAAYYYYYY too difficult. My work is done here. You just arent getting it or you are just seeking attention on this forum. Either way, I am out.
 

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I usually brush off flakes.

Dandruff sucks.
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Troll alert here, in my opinion.

Im honestly not trolling. I dont really troll. I was just asking about this "flakiness". It was said earlier that it wasn't flakiness and I guess that was sort of true.

I was hoping for some anecdotes and stuff like that, like your own stories and philosophy, not any accusations.
 

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I am 100% with glassguy here...
sdives is literally pulling all of the bluepill/beta calls one after the other... troll? get a life man... either way ;)
 

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So I just left it. I talked to her the other day. She said I always "make her day" when I show up. Who knows? Not doing anything yet
 

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So I just left it. I talked to her the other day. She said I always "make her day" when I show up. Who knows? Not doing anything yet
Listen, IMO if your really, truly made her day when you showed up, you would have already gotten into her panties. She's trying to hook you into her orbit by feeding you hopeful words.
That's why this thread sounds troll-ish - because the chick has managed to convince you that there's a chance, and that's what you are regurgitating.
 
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