how to handle the busy girl?

[deeman]

Hey fellas I need some advice,
I have this girls number, she goes to my gym.

Well I called her up yesterday and we spoke for about 10 minutes (she was on her way to work). Well it turns out she is a very busy girl. She has 3 jobs and is about to start at university in a few days......... in her words, 'she has no life!'

Now I didn't get a chance to ask her out cuz she was on her way out to work so she said she would see me this week at the gym.

What I want to know is, what the hell is the best date-close to make to a girl that has absolutely no time?

On a good note, she wants to attend salsa (dance) classes with me and some friends in a couple of weeks, but she knows that her schedule could make that impossible.

How do you handle a busy girl?

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by deeman

How do you handle a busy girl?

You don't. You NEXT her. Many people have posted about this in the past, and alot of us, including myself, have dated types of girls like these, the career-minded type A personality female who works constantly.

Bottom line: Why settle for a girl that has no time for you, when you can go find one that will?

 

[deeman]

i have dated girls in the past that were busy too, but when a guys comes into the picture, they cut out all the uneccessary stuff and spend more time with you.

I personally dont mind a busy chick, it keeps her from being up your ass 24/7.

I'm just trying to find the way to show her that time with me, will be time well spent

 

[bugsquish]

Actually, I'm seeing this chick who is a waitress and at college so she doesn't have much free time either. I just speak to her on the phone every now and then (and send her txt messages), and invite her over for pre-arranged booty calls right from the start. Just because she has no time for a relationship doesn't mean she isn't flesh and blood female with desires! Don't be blatant just subtly let her know what's on offer. If it's no go, then NEXT. It has it's advantages, like you got plenty of time to pursue other women.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by bugsquish
It has it's advantages, like you got plenty of time to pursue other women.

Agreed there 100 percent. i thought he was talking about a LTR. I wouldn't LTR a type A girl

 

[deeman]

yeah fellas thanks, thats what I mean , I am in tune with you bugsquish, I want to be able to hang with her from time to time, not a LTR.

Should I just go in for the date close and see how she replies? Or do I ask her when she will be free to go out?

 

[myfriendblu]

Just go right in for the date close. Take charge don't wait for her.

Got one more question about this girl. Is she jewish or Italian? i got a feelin she is..........

 

[deeman]

LOL, naw, she aint.
She looks half latino half white (possibly italian), shes cute whatever she is.

I'm gonna move in for the kill.

 

[bugsquish]

I don't know if this will work for you, but I just talked very sexual the first couple of times I spoke to her, then came right out and asked her to come over to my place. I still haven't been on a "date" as such. She wouldn't have time for that anyway

 

[trevor2003]

don't even bother with her!

if she is that busy then why would you want her?

go find some women that will have time for you!

 

[deeman]

Well thats the thing, I dont know if she will have 'time for me'.

No one and I mean no one does 'all work and no play'. I want to be there for the play

I have held 2-3 jobs while in school b4 and had alot of time to play afterwards.

 

[Julian]

Well go for it, whats the worst that could happen besides gaining new wisdom.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Considering how she told you "how busy" she is.. it pretty much says "I want to make as little time with you as possible and schedule you in as a convenience" Hang out with her if you're interested.. but again keep other options open.

 

[Ricky]

I'd personally rather have a busy girl, than one who isn't and expects you to be with her all the time.

The best relationships are with busier girls. I can't handle girls that have nothing going on other than their jobs. They eat up too much of your productive time.

 

[iqqi]

just be warned, if she doesn't seem "able" to make time for you, she may just be busy as hell on purpose. its a subtle, loose end rejection. i do it all the time. i admit!

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by iqqi
just be warned, if she doesn't seem "able" to make time for you, she may just be busy as hell on purpose. its a subtle, loose end rejection. i do it all the time. i admit!

Yea but if she really is at college and works too then you gotta cut her some slack. None of this "she refused my suggestion, NEXT" malarkey. Sometimes you gotta improvise.