sylvester the cat said:
The boundary forced the issue. Shed some light on this doomed relationship. He was a man. He stated his boundary. She refused to heed it. She left. Case closed. End of story.
The boundary was useless. It was a waste of time. It did nothing for him except to get him verbally abused, humiliated more, and dumped by her
Is that your idea of what being a "man" is?
He should have dumped her for disrespectful public behavior and started hitting on other women.
Not setting a boundary after being publicly humiliated by her out of fear of losing her and the insecurity of the other men she flirted with. That is not being a man.
Any beta will try to do that when they see the relationship slipping away. That is why they set boundaries out of insecurity and fear. You believe in doing that as well with your boundary theory.
Real men don't "verbalize words" setting a boundary with disrespectful women like betas. They use action to dump them.
Haven't you ever heard the phrase "Judge a woman by her actions and not her words"?
All of you betas who cling to your verbal boundary for assurance are only going on her "verbalized words" with your boundary theory. You want her to verbally agree to "your terms" but you are clueless to any of her actions with her $hitty behavior going on right in front of you.
Your beta boundary theory goes against any DJ logic. You guys are judging women on their words and not their actions. You have it ass backwards.
The results are you guys getting dumped by women having ex wives and girlfriends.
Your boundary beta theory:
Woman's Actions: Flirting with other men disrespecting you in public.
You guys are unable to see her $hitty disrespectful behavior right in front of you. Alphas would dump her for that.
Verbal boundary words by the boundary crew: "That was disrespectful behavior. I want you agree not to do that again."
Instead of dumping her like you should for her $hitty actions you want her to agree to "your terms" of your boundary after she disrespected you.
That will never work cause she has no respect for you.
seethruit found that out when he attempted that with his ex. She verbally abused him and then dumped him with ease.
You are unable to execute a dumping on her actions under your own power.
You need to set a verbal boundary for her to agree to "your terms" in order to do anything. That will get you verbally abused by her and then dumped.
You are judging her on her words instead of her actions.
That goes against all DJ logic.
Sorry, but my way of dumping her outright is better than being verbally abused and dumped like a beta with your theory.
sylvester the cat said:
Why would he want to be with a woman who did not respect his boundaries and, by association, him? or are you so desperate that you'd sacrifice your own self-respect (guarded by boundaries) to be with a woman who doesn't respect you? that is what it sounds like.
WTF are you talking about? Can you not read the written word?
I said he should have dumped her instead of setting a boundary after she humiliated him.
You are the one who is desperate cause you are unable to dump her on the spot for disrespect. You agreed with him to set boundaries after the fact she publicly disrespected him.
That is being desperate. That is sacrificing your own self-respect trying to still be with a woman who doesn't respect you by setting a boundary after she humiliates you. She will never follow the boundary cause she has no respect.
That is what you agree with and support with your boundary theory.
You are arguing with me saying he was a "man" to set boundaries with a disrespectful woman after she publicly disrespected him in front of other people.
You don't need to set a boundary to finally learn that the woman is full of $hit when you can see the $hit going on right in front of you.
You guys judge women on "words" and not action like you should be doing.
Your boundary theory sucks.
You boundary guys sure have no fvking clue what you are even talking about.