How to get to her?

[anonymous(500)]

Alright, first off Im new here. Someone told about this site and said I would give it a try...

Heres the situation....

I work at a computer company in which I do their marketing. I've meet this girl who works in a different company (My company works with the company she works in). She pretty much does the same work I do instead though in that other company. Basicaly we work together alot and have become good friends. We go out as friends every so often. Anyway, I was at her office one day and she introduces me to her friends who also works where she works. She has also tagged along a few times when me and the girl I work with go out for coffe or somthing. I've sensed some weird tension with her friend a few times, as for example I would just walk in to my friends(girl I work with) office and she asked me if I noticed her freinds hair and what I think, I said it was nice, she replied 'Why don't you tell her?' In which kinda got me thinking...
So anyway, I am trying to figure out a way too aproach her(ask her out) (friend of the girl I work with). I've been out with her and speak to her often, but don't have her number nor do we really talk on a regular or have personal conversations.Shall I approach her through her friend (who i work with), by asking her if shes interested or getting her number(I still don't even know if shes single or not) or try to go directly, to her which will be difficult being I don't see her much?

ideas?

 

[neojanus]

I too am new here and young in the ways of knowing what the hell I am talking about, but it sounds to me like half the battle is already done for you.

Your friend is clearly trying to get you to hook up with this woman. Perhaps she has already expressed some sort of interest in you and is just waiting for the chance.

Get her number and tell her you want to go out on a date with her.

If it doesn't work out, whatever. You don't see her too often and still have your dignity.

 

[Mojo604]

You clearly already got the green light to proceed. And about the number, cant you just get the number from the womans friend? or just go directly to her and ask her for it? If you dont see her much..then just get the number of the other woman from your friend-the one you see often... I fail to see the drama in this one. seems straightforward to me.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

The green light is on.

BUT NO..NEVER...NEVER EVER EVER get the woman's number from her friend. It's a b*tch move and makes you look weak. And besides, she may even take insult that you'd go around her back to get her number rather than asking her directly - pretty stalkerish!

OH YES greenlight is on indeed. I'm willing to wager that her co-worker DIRECTLY told you to compliment her because -- as we all know -- girls talk, and talk, and talk, and talk.

That was your direct invitation that she had mentioned you, and that she was looking good FOR YOU.

Next time you are with her, isolate her. Make sure you guys are alone...it makes her giving her number and you asking for it a bit less akward versus if the whole staff is there.

When the time is right, remember, NEVER ASK FOR THE NUMBER. Assume it.

Example:
"Hey Hot Girl, I was just talking to John about this REALLY great Italian/Euro-Asian Bistro where the waiters serve the best martinis! Have you been? No? Me neither! WE SHOULD GO! Hey (whips out cell phone) key in your number and I'll set it up. Yea, it'll be fun and you'll get to see the REAL me outside the office"

Simple, direct, to the point..its a fun date that YOU will have everything set up and ready to go. Show her you take charge and have all the plans set. You're a DJ, a Man and have no problems taking women out.

Actually, I'll recommend reading the DJB. If this is the FIRST question you ask on here, then its obvious you have a lot to read.

GOOD LUCK BRO.