How to get this girls number

[hudpes]

narcissist, you sure you want to demand her number? The tone is just a bit too harsh... Also the second sentence may not hit the target - you don't know the full story.

 

[narcissist]

Hmmm well the choice is OP's really.

I personally dont care, just saying what I would do.

I demand things in life, I don't timidly ask.

Beating around the bush is a sign of insecurity and not being sure of oneself.

But demanding the things that you want makes people respect you and shows that your not afraid of any outcome.

At the end of the day she either is interested or not. Just ask her out and don't come up with all these plans and schemes to get her, because thats called pedestalization.

You shouldn't be scared to be rejected by a girl.

Good luck OP. Remember being overly bold is better when gaming women than being even a LITTLE timid.

 

[narcissist]

Actually I should point something out.


Don't say what I said if you weren't bold in person because then it wouldn't be CONGRUENT with your in-person actions and would come off weird.

I suspect you were more on the timid nice side in person, so maybe my route isn't the way to go.

But then again maybe it should be, because if so, you should START right this second being bold and confident. Regardless of outcome.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Ok thanks I'm trying to be more bold and quit asking questions etc... This is what she replied to my message last night....

Hi Ema, had a good night on Saturday... Once I've recovered from this hangover, I'd like to take you out sometime X

Hiyaaasssss omg I still feel ****ed haha yeah going would be nice xx

Ok cool.. I was thinking Saturday.... Rough doesn't even come close to how I felt yesterday..Ha! Ema send me your number X

I sent that last message at 9.15pm and she hasn't replied as of yet and it's 7.30am atm... I'm sure she will at some point, just kinda wish if not sent the second text now but couldn't get any advice off the forum as I'd run out of post.

 

[Aesthetix29]

19hrs and still no reply.. but with it being a facebook message if she had seen it it would say seen at the bottom with the tme that she saw it... so by the looks of it she hasnt seen it yet, which is weird because shes been on facebook quite alot today. Im off out tonight with a few lads so should end up getting a few numbers for potential plates.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Thanks for the reply dude... So on Monday night at 9pm I replied to her via FB saying:-

Ok cool.. I was thinking Saturday.... Rough doesn't even come close to how I felt yesterday..Ha! Ema send me your number X

And have yet to recieve a reply it's been like 36hrs now...

Hey buddy, defo keeping my eye open for new plates I have high standards tho so she has to be HB7 at least... Well this girl still hasn't sent me her number after sending that Facebook message requesting it at 9pm Monday night... The thing is she replied to my first message saying she'd love to go out for a drink... Don't get it. The thing is I think the message still hasn't been read as there is no seen/time label underneath it... So I'm contemplating whether she's recieved it or not... ? As I've not heard anything off her... I really don't wNt to f**k this up she's a top bird! What's the recommended course of action.... ? Just wait it out. Surely asking for her number couldn't of ruined my chances... Nobody want to communicate thru FB constantly do they ? Cheers bro

That's the latest on the situation Vets... What do you make of this ?

Hope it all makes sense.... I really appreciate any solid advice...
Regards
Aesthetix

 

[Piers Nivens]

You can read a message without opening it. If you just hit the messages tab it gives a pretty decent preview of the message and u never have to open it pretty much unless its a long message.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Ok well she's just replied now.... This is her reply:-

Sorry for late reply I'll give u MSG later tiered as hell baby had me up all night the joys of parenthood not good xxxx

I wondering if I should reply just saying 'No worries, Speak to you later x'

Or should I just leave it ?

 

[MattTheW]

has she got your number?

 

[Aesthetix29]

I don't think so unless she's got it off her best mate my friend... She probaly means via FB

 

[MattTheW]

I hate facebook messaging

I'd be tempted to send her your number
saying something like
"No worries, speak to you later"
and then leave her to it

 

[Aesthetix29]

Well I just left it ... And she never messaged me so it's been 24hrs since she sent that message... Should I message her or hold out for a while... She might think I'm not interested if I don't reply ? It's not like she was asking a question!

 

[MattTheW]

Having a kid adds another layer of complication to this......I've had numerous plans derailed due to something happening with a kid

I'm probably way off here (my game is crap at the mo), but if it were me I'd move off facebook and onto mobiles.

If to do this you need to give her your number then that is what I would do
As I said before, I'd just message her with my number and a very short comment about speak to her soon

and then I'd try and not obsess and get on with my life lol
(that is what I would do - not sure if it's the right thing to do lol)

 

[Aesthetix29]

Hey matt, well thats what i was thinking but im not sure... need more opinions ?

I was thinking 'No worries, heres my number 07565******.... Speak to you soon. Xx'

Im not obsessing jus dont want to leave it longer enough for it too fizzle out.

 

[pyros]

Aesthetix29, reality check:

she's not interested. This is the reason why you're writting here, why you're asking questions over and over. If she was, she would have given you her number, and you would be on a date by now. But SHE IS NOT INTERESTED. Just try to remember any time you met a girl that was indeed interested. See? no complications, no wondering, no doubts...easy as pie and flawless.

Move on.

 

[Aesthetix29]

HUGE UPDATE -
I felt like I shoukd of messaged her the other day so I messaged her yesterday saying:-

'Heyy you, I'm still waiting on those 11 numbers from you LOL (; X'

To which she replied:-

'Haha sorry it's 074******** always forget t MSG back on here coz I don't see it come up I have a very old smashed I phone xxx

WAIT FOR IT.........

30 minutes later I get a phone call off my mate who I met ema thru as he's her next door neighbour.... I answer he says I've got a proposition for you ( I'm like ok... What???) he said I'm booking London tomorrow for 3 days me/you/ema/**** so just the 4 of us are going 2 are married then there's me and ema sharing a room.... BOOM right in there!

He also phoned me later on saying that she rely likes me thinks I'm cute etc... Be he did say just to play it cool don't rush things. Can't wait now.

Altho the message she sent me with her number on I want to reply to that today via my mobile so she has my number... But not sure what to put!

Should I mention London as were all keeping it on the downlow ? Thanks
Regards
Aesthetix

 

[Poop1337]

She's a single mom dude please tell me you are just going to use her for sex. Like get this chick off the pedestal she is most surely not a 9 if you go off the standard that 10 is perfect. Most really hot chicks are 7's by my standard. Like an 8 would be super hot and a 9 like one of the hottest chicks ever think Megan Fox in the first transformers movie. I find 5's very doable that's like a chubby cute chick or average I'm some other way but not fat.
How far off is this weekend trip? Still try to screw her before then if it's not for weeks. You need to escelate man and for the love of all that is good don't treat this single mom seriously just use her

 

[Aesthetix29]

Well in that case this ones a HB8 as she's gorgeous... I'm just taking things slowly I'm going to message her today, keeping texting to a minimum seeing as tho it killed the romance last time.

Just hope that London trip gets booked today!

 

[MattTheW]

When will the trip be?

 

[Aesthetix29]

The trips on the 22-25th august so around 6 weeks away... So got to keep things going well till then... So I'm going to message her today something like...

"Get your glad rags on, I'm picking you up at 7 O'Clock Saturday afternoon (; X"

Or something along those lines... No questions just stating what I'm doing. Or is this not a good message to do ? What I do t want to do is fall into that texting each other everyday and chatting about rubbish... Don't need it, it ruined my last relationship... Suggestions welcome ?

I just need to play this cool and not come off AFC...