How to get the frame back in your relationship

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Here is a list of somethings you can do to regain the frame in your relationship if it going south. I've seen some people here that might need some good game so here is my new years gift to you. Some good ass game.

So here is the list.

1. Everything begins with you. You get what you allow.

You got to remember this playas. It is biblical that girls were created for us. If your girl is acting up and constantly allow you to disrespect her then it because you allow her. It all started with Adam and Eve. In the bible, God made Adam and Eve was created for Adam. Adams job was to lead the woman and teach her the commands of God and how to interact with the world.

Eve ended up rebelling against Adam by doing what she had was told not to do and even succeeded in getting Adam to rebel as well.

God represented the higher spiritual nature within a man. And Eve represented his lower physical/fleshly nature. What Adam essentially did was follow his fleshly whims over his higher spiritual wisdom. He followed flesh over game. And ever since mankind has struggled with putting his physical desires in check and keeping them there.

Because Adam was able to be influenced by Eve it started the downfall. He should've checked Eve when he even thought about disobeying God.

Bottom Line: You need to check your women before the disrespect even builds up. Show your girl your a man or means and the leader of the relationship.

2. Stop being so available for her.

She takes the time that you two have for granted. If your show her that your a focus in your life and not your life her imagination will wonder. She will be thinking where, what and who you maybe spending your time with. Her mind will definitely wonder. A little jealousy is good for a relationship especially when your making her jealous. Women want men who are challenging and exciting. They want men who have interesting lifes to live. Women secretly want a man whose life is so interesting apart from her, that she'll be willing to forsake her life to become a part of his.

3. Get your confidence up.

You've been in a relationship for a while. So your confidence will definitely take a hit especially if your not messing with other chicks. Now I don't condone you to cheat but going out and just meeting women will definitely get your confidence up. I'm not telling you to cheat but this will definitely get your confidence up.

4. Avoid relationship tips from women

Never listen to what a girl has to say about any type of relationship. Avoid Steve Harvey who caters his books for females. When you get tips get them from sources of strength!

5. Punish her through withholding sex!

This is probably the hardest thing to do. Especially for you thimble d1ck dudes. Begging for sex is the beginning of the end in any relationship. When a girl tryes to ration out her goods for you she is attempting to train you. If you cave in and fail this test by becoming addicted to her body, she will always know exactly how to play you. You will cease being a challenge to her and in turn will become boring and predictable.

Women have been taught to use their vaginas to get what they want. All women attempt to do this at some time or another. You have to let your woman know upfront that you will not be made a slave through her holding back sex. Again: go on the offensive. You have to go cold turkey on the sex thing. It's not about being religious; its about learning how to control yourself sexually, so you don't become easy to control through sex. Control your sex nature; or some woman will control you through your sex nature.

Act like sex is nothing. If she tries to control you through sex and your acting laid back like you don't care her mind will wander. She will eventually feel like if she keeps playing games then you will definitely have other options to go to and will get it somewhere else.


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When is it too late? When is a girl too disrespectful?

It is time to move on to another female if she starts talking to other dudes. The only exception is business and family. If a girl is chatting up other dudes then you need to check her on this immediately. If she argues and back talks and gives you excuses then you just need to charge that btch to the game and get a new broad. Straight up.

 

[pinkfl]

3. Get your confidence up.

You've been in a relationship for a while. So your confidence will definitely take a hit especially if your not messing with other chicks. Now I don't condone you to cheat but going out and just meeting women will definitely get your confidence up. I'm not telling you to cheat but this will definitely get your confidence


It is time to move on to another female if she starts talking to other dudes. The only exception is business and family. If a girl is chatting up other dudes then you need to check her on this immediately. If she argues and back talks and gives you excuses then you just need to charge that btch to the game and get a new broad. Straight up.

Classic advice!
It is ok for guys to talk to women but the second a woman does it, kick her to the curb!

Making up arbitrary rules and upholding double standards just shows you still have a lot of growing up to do.

When you are confident it should come from within, not from how many women might want to bang you. It should come from your own abilities, and an inherent belief in your own strength to fix problems and bounce back from adversity. Confidence comes from your own belief in your own self worth, not from what other people may think of you. If you are setting up your "confidence" based on other people, then it will be changeable and fickle. If your confidence comes from within, then that is true confidence.

Jealousy does not beget faithfulness, but its a great breeding ground for resent.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Well that is an example of how to get your confidence up. The main gist of that section was to basically get your confidence up. If your a man and your confidence is low. Going out and talking to a few ladies casually will get your confidence up.

All I gave was an example on how to get your confidence up. Shoot, Replace what I wrote with going to the gym. All the same result.

 

[jammer]

lol dont worry pretty boy, pinkfl seems to be under the impression that So Souave is a website whose purpose is equal rights for the sexes, and she forgets to understand that this is actually a site geared towards helping guys (a) get girls and (b) protect their hearts against women in a dating game in which women clearly have a big advantage.

No need to explain yourself.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

4. Avoid relationship tips from women

Never listen to what a girl has to say about any type of relationship. Avoid Steve Harvey who caters his books for females. When you get tips get them from sources of strength!

We can already see a live example why we don't listen to women. No offense Pink.

 

[Trump]

When you are confident it should come from within, not from how many women might want to bang you. It should come from your own abilities, and an inherent belief in your own strength to fix problems and bounce back from adversity. Confidence comes from your own belief in your own self worth, not from what other people may think of you.

I'd rather not be confident and have women want to bang me.

Never understood when people say "confidence comes from within, not from what other people think." I am confident enough to be the CEO of Coke and date a Victoria Secret model, but if the people who have the power don't think so...what does matter how much confidence I have? It doesn't make sense.

5. Punish her through withholding sex!

This is probably the hardest thing to do. Especially for you thimble d1ck dudes. Begging for sex is the beginning of the end in any relationship. When a girl tryes to ration out her goods for you she is attempting to train you. If you cave in and fail this test by becoming addicted to her body, she will always know exactly how to play you. You will cease being a challenge to her and in turn will become boring and predictable.

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Women have been taught to use their vaginas to get what they want. All women attempt to do this at some time or another. You have to let your woman know upfront that you will not be made a slave through her holding back sex. Again: go on the offensive. You have to go cold turkey on the sex thing. It's not about being religious; its about learning how to control yourself sexually, so you don't become easy to control through sex. Control your sex nature; or some woman will control you through your sex nature.

I like it all Pretty Boy except this. How does a guy withhold sex from a girl? If you are not giving it to her, she'll just go down the hall and get it from the guy there. Girls are fickle, they change their minds faster than the stock market, withholding something that she can get anywhere is not really punishment. It would be much worse if you punish her by not paying for anything...then she will wake up.

 

[VladPatton]

You lost me after "biblical times" and references to Adam and Eve.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Trump,

Pu$$y is one of the strongest drug in existence. D1ck is equal to Pu$$y in that respect however. Whoever controls when sex is going to happen, controls the relationship. If you control when another person has sex, you can control that persons mind. Plain and simple. Girls shouldn't get d!ck on demand. When they get it in demand from you then they will take it for granted.

 

[BeDJ]

5. Punish her through withholding sex!

Sex : Men ::

A) Bluetooth : Rolex
B) Law : Anarchy
C) Bacon : Beer Can
D) Attention : Women

 

[pinkfl]

Good advice isn't gender specific.

You just don't like that I called you out on talking out of both sides of your mouth.

Let's put it this way, I catch my guy chatting up some other girl, I'm showing him the door. If I'm expected to be faithful, then so is he. Trust is a two-way street.

You CANNOT simply replace what you said with "go to the gym" because you specifically said you wanted to make the girl jealous. Stop backpedaling.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

When did I say make her deliberately to make her jealous by talking to other females? I understand where your coming from about kicking your dude to the curb and I would never disrespect my girlfriend by chatting up another female unless it was about business. Would never put myself in that position.

Going out and just saying hello to a female wasn't said to be done to make your female jealous. Because if you do do it for a confidence boost why on Earth would you tell her and how would she know? No one is backtracking anything. It is a known fact that if a guy says hi to a female and she smiles back and says hey you will get a confidence boost.

Shoot I was at the store with my girlfriend yesterday and this literally happens every time I go out to a store. I was walking out of the store towards my car and a female just looked me up and down and smiled. I put my head down out because I could've sworn my Gf seen the whole thing. Turns out she didn't see it but shoot it always feels good for the ladies to be checkin for the kid.

Good advice isn't gender specific but I rather get advice from an experienced man then any women. Point blank period. I want to get money advice from someone who is a millionaire not someone who thinks they know how to be one.

Could you please tell me when I specifically said talk to other females to make your girl jealous?

 

[pinkfl]

" A little jealousy is good for a relationship especially when your making her jealous. "


That's where you specifically said to use jealousy.
Regardless of how you're doing it, its not healthy.

 

[jammer]

Good advice isn't gender specific.

Yes, actually it often is. That's why seduction techniques that work on a girl may not necessarily work on a guy.

You just don't like that I called you out on talking out of both sides of your mouth.

Like many women, you seem to think this is some kind of contest in which you must somehow turn out to be the winner. That's not what this is about: this isn't about pinkfl winning an argument, it's about guys obtaining control of a relationship. And for AJ, this is what's worked for him.

Let's put it this way, I catch my guy chatting up some other girl, I'm showing him the door. If I'm expected to be faithful, then so is he. Trust is a two-way street.

Sure, do whatever works for you.

You CANNOT simply replace what you said with "go to the gym" because you specifically said you wanted to make the girl jealous. Stop backpedaling.

AJ is absolutely correct. Confidence is gained in a variety of ways, and some of those ways include going to the gym, working out, and gaining the sexual interest from other women.

Stop treating AJ like he's your bf and you guys are in an argument in which you just caught him cheating on you. Everything he said is true, whether you like it or not.

 

[sageproduct]

I agree with both pink and AJ here. I think the argument is just over mistranslation.

It's not about gender equality. Pink is right, it's totally unreasonable to expect your partner to not flirt with others yet allow yourself to flirt with others. However, I believe AJ was saying something different. To me, he meant that you (the guy) should go out and socialize with women in order to improve your confidence, but not pursue them. No followup. But when he said "your girl can't be chatting up dudes unless it's business or family" he probably meant it's not ok for her to give out her number and let other girls text her, call her, stay in contact and try to hang out with her.

 

[DonJuanabe]

Pink you are missing something. Of course neither a man nor a woman wants their significant other to cheat. However, women find validation in knowing that their man is sought by other women -- this makes the woman feel good about herself and increases her attraction to her man. Men, on the other hand, do not find validation in knowing guys are attracted to their woman. Their woman does not become more attractive and if their game is weak -- e.g. insecure etc. -- they will often find the tables turned and become less attractive to their woman (possessive, suspicious, argumentative, etc.).

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Comon Pink. Now your backtracking. At first you said I said talk to other girls specifically to make her jealous. Now your saying what I actually said.

 

[omardacool]

Great post, man , i was with a girl we was out she called her ex to meet up with her and she was hanging with him right in front of me, so i looked at her like are you serious? and i left her there at a club with him, so i blocked her number 2 and a half weeks of no contact with her at all , she finally calling me crying and begging for my forgiveness i probably got like 50 straight texts of her saying sorry i made a mistake ect... IDK whether to reply and curse her out or try and work things out....what you think man..thanks

 

[Konada]

Prevention is always better than cure.

That is why it is of utmost importance to establish clear boundaries before grting into an exclusive relationship. Chances are if you have to play games to salvage your relationship it won't be a healthy one in the long run.

 

[Evan]

Prevention is always better than cure.

That is why it is of utmost importance to establish clear boundaries before grting into an exclusive relationship. Chances are if you have to play games to salvage your relationship it won't be a healthy one in the long run.

Exactly this. A harsh truth that men don't want to admit or believe. The easy way out is to go for the first girl who shows interest in you but once she sees that you don't have clear boundaries and let her do what she wants she will never see you the same way. Only way she will is if she sees you having great success with another women and that you are now a man who won't let **** hit the fan. Even then why would you want your ex who didn't respect you or have faith in you? That's why it's so much more important to continue to spin plates and also to have your life and happiness valued so much more than a women's validation or sex. The op does talk about this but still doesn't understand that you can't negotiate genuine desire.