sazc
Master Don Juan
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She is putting a lot fo energy into reminding you of how poorly the relationship/end of the relationship went.
So we now know that she is still hurting because of it and, yes, she is trying to justify keeping it by convincing you that you were such an ass she deserves it.
You are doing the right thing by not engaging her. She will run out of steam eventually.
You can attempt to diffuse her/the situation by replying something like "I'm sad to see that you are still in pain from the ending of our relationship"
(because that IS what is going on)
And then further say something to the effect of " it wasnt easy on me either. I understand that you would prefer to keep the ring but I do own it, and I would like it back"
You do not, and should not, give her any reasons as to 'why'. why you want it back doesnt matter because there is no need to justify it, and there is no reason that will make her say "okay! Here you go!"
Just keep reiterating that it is your property and would like it back. give her a deadline and do this all in writing (email/text) Do NOT entertain any of her off topics writings. Just stick to the fact that it is your rung, you are sad she is still hurt, and you would like the ring back
So we now know that she is still hurting because of it and, yes, she is trying to justify keeping it by convincing you that you were such an ass she deserves it.
You are doing the right thing by not engaging her. She will run out of steam eventually.
You can attempt to diffuse her/the situation by replying something like "I'm sad to see that you are still in pain from the ending of our relationship"
(because that IS what is going on)
And then further say something to the effect of " it wasnt easy on me either. I understand that you would prefer to keep the ring but I do own it, and I would like it back"
You do not, and should not, give her any reasons as to 'why'. why you want it back doesnt matter because there is no need to justify it, and there is no reason that will make her say "okay! Here you go!"
Just keep reiterating that it is your property and would like it back. give her a deadline and do this all in writing (email/text) Do NOT entertain any of her off topics writings. Just stick to the fact that it is your rung, you are sad she is still hurt, and you would like the ring back
