How to get rid of an AMOG?

[Mr. Me]

thought of peppering the guy with questions about himself, Mr. Me, but I think that there's a small window of opportunity for that and I missed it because the dude caught me off guard.

Hey, I'm not saying becoming Leo Getz is the thing to do, but if you are going to do it, then you have to rehearse it so you're prepared for when it happens. See, it's like guys in the military and police are trained to respond when certain things happen, so that when they do happen, they go right into action.

Mr. Me, another thing about the Joe Pesci in LW2 questions is that this can raise his ego

I think you're thinking too much. When a fly buzzes around my face annoyingly, it sure doesn't raise my ego.

You can always turn to the woman in the middle of his routine and ask "Scale of 1-10....what's his rating?" I doubt most women would give a number too high

Never ask a question to which you're not certain what the answer will be.

If she answers, "10" 'cuz she likes him, that would really blow up in your face, wouldn't it?

 

[SharpGame]

Some options...

1. Try to befriend him. Keep him occupied until he moves on after realizing he's not getting any closer.

2. Make her choose. Ask her if she wants to talk to him or you.

3. Out 'Alpha' him. Laugh and smile while using any of these. (Careful if you use these)

keep calling him sport, champ, buddy, slugger, or bro.

"wow, this guy's totally trying to pick you up."

"didn't I see that shirt on queer eye for the straight guy?"

"wow, I remember the first time I got drunk."

"hey, you feeling alright? you don't look well."

"wow, you're smooth. are you like one of those pickup artists?"

"hey your're funny. hi five!" *pull hand away last minute*

To girl: "wow, some people have no manners these days."

 

[synergy1]

Oddly enough, I have not encountered any Alpha males of the group. Maybe my venues of the places I frequented didn't have them, who knows.

Taking a guess, the best way to deal with the guy who wants to be the center of attention is to get in the lime light yourself.

He then has two options -- blow you off in front of the girl and make himself look like a d-bag or engage you in conversation and allow himself to be distracted from his true prize.

Some guys will just blow you off, and this will rub off poorly on women. I've seen it happen, and I was trying to help my chick friend get laid that night ( I was already going home w/ her friend). Other guys you can actually befriend and you got an instant wingman. Believe it or not, most people aren't *******s if you give them a chance.

The trick is to be social. If you manage to earn any sort of respect from a random person, that can only make your game w/ nearby women that much tighter.

 

[STR8UP]

Why do you want to get into a pissing match with a drunk ass hole?

I don't know where you guys are going, what you are doing, or who you are doing it with, but I have NEVER had some dude blatantly but into my convo with a chick, unless SHE was doing something that made it happen.

 

[Julian]

You should have G checked that dude

 

[Drum&Bass]

Nothing you can do...just let the girl your with do her thing. what if 2 hot girls came outta nowhere and AMOGED the chick you were with so they could get to you ??

Just let things run their course...unless the guy gives you a reason to bus' that Azz.

While your at it you should probably think about hitting the gym tomorrow.

 

[Sinistar]

But I NEVER will put myself in a position where I act friendly in front of an a$$head who has the gull to invade my space. And I cannot imagine a woman who would respect me for pretending to be OK toward such a character. It takes a man to eject a set and make the woman follow you.

...but doesn't it take a MAN to stay in the set having fun with the AMOG at his expense while keeping the woman in your FRAME - without having to get up and leave. That being said, most guys will not think to do that instinctively let alone have the pair to pull it off.

 

[SharpGame]

I disagree with ejecting. If you leave it may look like you're running away or submitting to a more powerful male. If you stay and continue to lead the interaction in a friendly way you convey that this new male is no threat to you.

 

[SharpGame]

Well yeah, if the girl is disrespecting you by actively giving another guy attention that would be handled differently. I thought the topic was how to deal with an AMOG entering your set.

 

[jophil28]

I disagree with ejecting. If you leave it may look like you're running away or submitting to a more powerful male. If you stay and continue to lead the interaction in a friendly way you convey that this new male is no threat to you.

The downside is that by staying and engaging this other guy in skillfiul banter you are in effect "competing" for her ( that is how she will "feel" it)
All this does is give her a massive ego boost and brings nothing to you for your efforts.

THis is a tough situation.

My 25 cent tactic is this - if I am in a relationship with the woman I will out smart the guy will snappy humor aimed at his bloated ego. A territorial claim.
IF I am not in a relationship with her. I walk away and go talk/dance with another woman. I could care less.

 

[STR8UP]

The downside is that by staying and engaging this other guy in skillfiul banter you are in effect "competing" for her ( that is how she will "feel" it)
All this does is give her a massive ego boost and brings nothing to you for your efforts.

THis is a tough situation.

My 25 cent tactic is this - if I am in a relationship with the woman I will out smart the guy will snappy humor aimed at his bloated ego. A territorial claim.
IF I am not in a relationship with her. I walk away and go talk/dance with another woman. I could care less.

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[SharpGame]

The downside is that by staying and engaging this other guy in skillfiul banter you are in effect "competing" for her ( that is how she will "feel" it)
All this does is give her a massive ego boost and brings nothing to you for your efforts.

THis is a tough situation.

My 25 cent tactic is this - if I am in a relationship with the woman I will out smart the guy will snappy humor aimed at his bloated ego. A territorial claim.
IF I am not in a relationship with her. I walk away and go talk/dance with another woman. I could care less.

Wow, really? Am I understanding you correctly? So you go to a club, start talking to a lady and then some guy comes up... you just give up and walk away? That just doesn't sound right to me. And I have to disagree with her feeling that you'd be competing for her. If you both were working to keep her attention, then yes I could see that. But by addressing the AMOG, not the target, you can draw him into your frame, creating a DHV for yourself by becoming the 'leader of men', and she'll be craving to have your attention back. You don't agree?

If she's indicating interest in the other male, then you are already beta in comparison and walking away will make you look weak.

Now strength would be engaging the AMOG in a friendly "frame dominating" manner, and THEN walking away to check out other sets. Make her wish you were still there.

I'm fine with this. If you keep the frame first then you decide to leave everyone will know it's on your terms, not because you got chased away.

What you definitely don't want to do is wait to see what the girl does first. You shouldn't be reacting to her, she should be reacting to you. Women follow whomever is leading. If she starts showing him interest it tells me that I failed to engage the AMOG and lead the interaction in the first place.

 

[STR8UP]

Wow, really? Am I understanding you correctly? So you go to a club, start talking to a lady and then some guy comes up... you just give up and walk away?

That's not what this post was about.

 

[SharpGame]

huh?

IF I am not in a relationship with her. I walk away and go talk/dance with another woman. I could care less.

This is the part I was referring to with that statement. jophil28, if I'm misunderstanding what you're saying here my apologies.